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- Umqondo wokungenzi lutho, lokhu akunakuba yiqiniso
- Ukubuza ukuthi uwubona kanjani umhlaba
- Konke okwenzeka phambilini bekungamanga nje
- Uyangabaza ukuzethemba kwakho.
- Uba ozigxekayo
- Uyakungabaza konke oseshade naye owake wakutshela khona.
- Futhi umbuzo obaluleke kakhulu ozibuza wona.
- Ngubani okungenzeka abe ngumlandeli ophindayo?
- Udinga ukwenza isinqumo
Kubi ngokwanele lapho oshade naye ekopela umlingani wakhe ngasikhathi sinye.
Cabanga nje ukuthi kubuhlungu kanjani ukwazi ukuthi umlingani wakho, umuntu obethembele kuye ngokuphelele futhi othembise uthando lwakho phambi kukaNkulunkulu, abangane, nomndeni, ungumlandeli ophindayo?
Abantu kuphela abake baba sesimweni esibuhlungu kangako abangaqonda ubuhlungu obujulile nolimazayo obungabangelwa yilokhu.
Lapho bethola ukuthi oshade naye ungumkhohlisi ongapheli, imizwa yomlingani okhonjiwe, empeleni indawo yonke, iguqulwe ngokuphelele. Okunye ukusabela okuvamile kulokhu kuhlukumezeka kubandakanya:
Umqondo wokungenzi lutho, lokhu akunakuba yiqiniso
Ingqondo yakho ibambezela yonke into phansi ukuze ukwazi ukukufaka konke kancane, uzama ukunciphisa ukwethuka okwenziwe umlingani wakho.
Ukubuza ukuthi uwubona kanjani umhlaba
Uma umngane wakho omkhulu, isithandwa sakho, nemfihlo yakho bekwazi ukufihla le mpilo yesibili nazo zonke izindlela zabo zokukopela, ungakholelwa kanjani ukuthi noma yini oyibonayo iyinto yangempela? Uqala ukungawuthembi umuzwa wakho weqiniso.
Konke okwenzeka phambilini bekungamanga nje
Akunakwenzeka ukuthi oshade naye ohlaselayo wake wakuthanda, wakuncome futhi wakuthanda. Uzitshela ukuthi konke lokho bekuyinkohliso nje ngoba umlingani wakho naye wayekwazi ukuqamba amanga nokukhohlisa okunjalo.
Uyangabaza ukuzethemba kwakho.
Ukube nje ubukade ucansi ngokwengeziwe, unake kakhudlwana, utholakala ngokwengeziwe, unothando ngokwengeziwe, ngaphezulu .... noma yini omunye umuntu anayo ehehe umyeni wakho.
Uzitshela ukuthi ukube ubungcono nje kancane kunalokho oyikho manje, bebengeke baphambuke. Kepha kaningi, izizathu zomkokoteli zokukopela azihlangene nawe futhi konke okuphathelene nezimpawu zabo zobuntu!
Uba ozigxekayo
Uyazibuza ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani ukuthi ube yimpumputhe kangangoba ungaboni ukuthi kwenzekani ngemuva kwakho. Ikakhulukazi uma oshade naye ekopela nothile kumbuthano wakho wabangane.
Uyakungabaza konke oseshade naye owake wakutshela khona.
Uyazibuza ukuthi ngabe ubekwazi yini ukukumboza lokhu, yini enye ebeyimboza? Ungahle ube ngumphenyi wakho, ngokusebenzisa ucingo lwakhe, ama-imeyili, amaphakethe, nemisebenzi ye-inthanethi.
Futhi umbuzo obaluleke kakhulu ozibuza wona.
Uzithola usudideka phakathi kokunquma ukuthi kufanele uhlale noma kufanele uhambe?
Ngubani okungenzeka abe ngumlandeli ophindayo?
Nazi ezinye zezici ezivamile eziphinda abakhohlisi ababelana ngazo
- Ukuziphatha kwabo okwedlule kuyinkomba enhle yokuziphatha ngokuzayo. Uzakwethu oke wakopela phambilini kungenzeka aphinde akhohlise.
- Bacabanga ukuthi imithetho yomphakathi ayisebenzi kubo, okungukuthi, bangama-narcissist we-sociopathic. Babheka umhlaba njengemakethe yokuncintisana, indawo lapho kufanele babe phezulu, kungenjalo omunye umuntu uzobashaya. Bazizwa benelungelo lokuthola ilungelo.
- Umlutha udlala indima empilweni yabo. Lokhu kungaba utshwala, izidakamizwa, ukugembula, noma ukugembula.
- Ngeke babe nezabo izenzo zabo. Bayakopela- lelo iphutha lomlingani wabo!
- Bangakusola ngokungagcini ukukhanga kwakho, noma ukungafuni ucansi isikhathi ngasinye lapho benza, noma ukungabi nabo ngokuphelele lapho bafuna.
Uma uhlala nomkhohlisi we-serial, nanka amaphuzu okufanele ucabange ngawo. Abashadile abahlala kulezi zimo bayabika:
- Ukuba nemicabango engalawuleki kugxile kulokho umlingani wakho akwenzile noma akwenzayo njengamanje. Ubeka kabusha izihibe engqondweni yakho, mhlawumbe izigcawu zalokho okutholile, noma ucabange izigcawu zalokho ozokuthola uma umba ujule ngokwanele.
- Uhlanya, futhi uqhubeka ngokufuna izimpawu zokungathembeki kwabo. Udlula kumarekhodi abo efoni, i-imeyili, isikhwama semali, noma yini engakufakazela lokho osukusola.
- Ukukhathazeka njalo uma ungakwazi ukulandelela phansi oshade naye. Ujwayele ukukholelwa ukuthi uma bengaluphenduli ucingo lwabo noma uma befika emuva kwesikhathi ekhaya, kumele babe nalo muntu.
- Izindlela zakho zokulala ziphazamisekile. Kuphakathi kokuthi awukwazi ukulala, noma awukwazi ukulala. Ingqondo yakho iyi-hamster engapheli egijima esondweni. Awukwazi ukucisha imicabango yalokho abakwenzile noma wehlise ingqondo yakho ngokwanele ukukuvumela ukuthi uphumule kumodi yokulala.
- Amaphethini akho okudla ayaphazamiseka. Ungalahlekelwa isifiso sakho sokudla noma uthole ukwanda kwesifiso sokudla. Ukudla kungahle kungakuthandi kangako, noma ungangena ekudleni okungenamsoco, ikakhulukazi amaswidi, okuzokunika i-endorphin, "ukuzizwa kahle" (ngaphambi kokwenza ushaye futhi uzizwe usabeka kakhulu).
- Ukwehluleka ukugxilisa ingqondo, okuthinta umsebenzi wakho.
- Amahloni nokuphoxeka ikakhulukazi uma utshela okwenzekile kumbuthano wakho wabangane.
- Intukuthelo nolaka.
- Umqondo osabalele wokulahleka kozinzo nokwethembana.
Udinga ukwenza isinqumo
Uma uthatha isinqumo sokuhlala nomkhohlisi we-serial, uzodinga usizo.
Udinga ukugxila kuwe nasezidingweni zakho uma ufisa ukuhlala nalo mlingani. Uyacelwa ukuthi uthinte umeluleki wezemishado ukuze akusize uthole ukwesekwa kochwepheshe okudingekayo ukuze uhlunge ukuthi uzohlala kanjani kulesi simo futhi ube nokuphila okwanelisayo nokujabulisayo.
Ingabe kufanele uhambe? Lalela amathumbu akho. Uma ubuhlungu bokuhlala nalo muntu budlula injabulo onayo nabo, vumela lokho ngoba kukutshela okuthile okubalulekile. Nguwe kuphela owazi okulungele wena.
Ukusebenzisa i-Therapist enelayisense njengebhodi elizwakalayo njengoba usebenza ngendlela yakho eya esinqumweni kuzoba isinyathelo esihle kakhulu ongasenza kulesi simo. Ngikufisela inhlanhla!