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- Yiba umlingani ofanele
- Umshado - hhayi umshado nje kuphela
- Ukwamukelwa okuphelele
- Inani lokuhlangana nokuhambisana
Ngokungazelelwe kubonakala sengathi wonke umuntu oseduze kwakho uyabhangqa, uyashada futhi uqala umndeni wakhe. Ujabule ngempela ngabo kepha awukwazi ukuzibuza ukuthi ngabe nawe ngelinye ilanga uyoba nokufanayo. Umshado uyisinyathelo esibalulekile okufanele usithathe ebuhlotsheni. Futhi akubona bonke abathatha lesi sinyathelo abakulungele ukushada. Kunemibhangqwana eminingi eshada ngaphambi kwesikhathi ngoba icabanga ukuthi kungukuthuthuka okungokwemvelo ebudlelwaneni obungenzeki ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Abantu banenkolelo ejwayelekile eyiphutha yokuthi uthanda umuntu, uyashada futhi uhlala nje ujabule njalo. Hhayi-ke yilokho esikubona kumamuvi, akunjalo? Eqinisweni, kunokunye okuningi kukho kunalokho. Ukuzibophezela okukhulu futhi kubandakanya umsebenzi wokukwenza uphumelele, ube nempilo futhi uhlale isikhathi eside. Akusebenzi nje wedwa ngaphandle kokuthi ube nenhloso ngakho. Ngakho-ke wazi kanjani ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho nikulungele ngempela ukushada?
Yiba umlingani ofanele
Ukuthola umlingani ofanele kubaluleke njengokuthi ube ngumlingani ofanele. Zenzele ukuzihlola ubone ukuthi imaphi amandla owalethayo ebudlelwaneni. Yiziphi izimfanelo ezinhle onazo ezisiza ukuqinisa ukubambisana? Yiziphi ezinye izindawo odinga ukuqhubeka nokukhula kuzo? Sonke sinamaphutha ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi wazi amaphutha akho ngamanye futhi uqale uhambo lwakho olungapheli oluya ekukhuleni komuntu siqu. Ukuba nguzakwethu ofanele kusho nokuthi uyavuma futhi wamukele ukuthi unesibopho sokwakha ulwazi lwakho. Ungumnikazi wemicabango yakho bese ukhetha izimo oziletha ebudlelwaneni ngaleyo ndlela unikele ekuhlangenwe nakho kwakho okuphelele nomlingani wakho.
Umshado - hhayi umshado nje kuphela
Abanye abantu bathandana nomqondo womshado nokuhlelwa komshado. Umcabango wezingubo ezinhle, izimbali, ukuqoqwa komndeni nabangane ngomkhosi omkhulu ngisho neholidi lomshado elilandelayo ngumcabango othokozisayo kubantu abaningi. Umshado uhlala amahora ambalwa nje kepha umshado uzohlala impilo yonke (ngethemba!). Thembeka kuwe ngokwakho ngalokho oyikho ngempela. Ingabe kumane kungumshado noma ukuzibophezela kwempilo yonke? Ngenkathi ukuhlela usuku olukhulu kungumsebenzi omningi futhi kungaba mnandi kakhulu, umsebenzi wangempela uqala lapho umshado uqala.
Ukwamukelwa okuphelele
Ukwethembeka kuyitshe legumbi lanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo obunempilo nobunenjongo. Udinga ukwazi ukwethembeka kumlingani wakho ngakho konke, kufaka phakathi amaqiniso ajulile, amabi ngawe ongakaze ulokothe ukuwabelana nomunye umuntu. Uthando olungenamibandela luyisisekelo somshado. Umlingani wakho udinga ukukwazi ukwamukela nonke, okubandakanya izingxenye ezingathandeki noma okholelwa ukuthi azithandeki kangako. Udinga ukwazi ukwenza okufanayo kumlingani wakho. Uma ungakaze wabelane ngalezo zingxenye ezingathandeki kangako owakwakho uyazi ukuthi ngubani abashadayo?
Kunconyiwe - Inkambo Yokushada Ngaphambi Kwe-inthanethi
Ungathanda ukushada nomuntu ongamazi ngokweqiniso? Ukwamukela akufani nokuthi "ukubekezelela". Kumane kungumphumela wengxoxo ethembekile eholela ekwamukelweni kwento ethile engamukeleki. Uma wamukela okuthile, uyeka umzamo ongatheli wokuthi "ushintshe" oshade naye abe ngumuntu ofuna ukuba abe yilo muntu futhi bengeyena. Indida yokwamukelwa ukuthi, ngokwamukela, ushintsho lungenzeka lodwa.
Inani lokuhlangana nokuhambisana
Ngenkathi wena nomlingani wakho ningatholi ukuthi nihambisana nazo zonke izinto, kunezindawo ezithile ezibalulekile lapho ukuhambisana kudingeka khona emshadweni ophumelelayo. I-value congruence kulapho uphila ngokuvumelana namagugu akho nezinkolelo zakho. Uma uthola ukuthi uvame ukulahla izindinganiso zakho nezinkolelo zakho ukuze zilungele umlingani wakho, lapho-ke kungahle kube nezinkinga zokuhambisana ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ngenkathi wena nezindinganiso nezinkolelo zomlingani wakho zingahle zingahambisani ne-100% lesikhathi kufanele isikhathi esiningi.
Ukuhlala ngokuhlangana nezindinganiso zakho kuyadingeka enhlalakahleni yakho yengqondo. Uma lokhu kuyinto ongakwazi ukuyenza ngenkathi uhleli nomlingani wakho, khona-ke kungahle kungabi ubuhlobo obulungile futhi kungadingeki ukusho eyodwa okungenzeka ukuthi kufanele ingangeni emshadweni. Izingxoxo mayelana nezinhloso nokulindelwe ngomshado kufanele kuxoxwe ngazo ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Lokhu kukwenza ukwazi ukuba nombono ocacile ngokulindelwe ngumlingani wakho nokuthi ngabe ahambisana yini noma cha.
Umshado uyisipho esihle futhi kufanele usithathe ngokungathi sína. Akusona isinqumo okufanele sithathwe kalula noma senziwe ngokuxhamazela. Yize kukhona ezinye izimpawu okufanele zicatshangelwe ekuhloleni ukulungela kwakho ukushada, lezi yizindawo ezimbalwa nje lapho kufanele kubekwe khona isisindo esibalulekile.