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- 1. Thola izindaba ezisemqoka ofuna ukusebenzela kuzo
- 2. Khumbula: Ukuxazulula izingxabano kuqala ngawe
- 3. Khuluma usendaweni enomusa, ezolile nenenhlonipho
- 4. Ingabe umelaphi wakho akufundise izindlela zokuxhumana ezinempilo
- 5. Nazi ezinye izindlela zokwethula izifundo ezibucayi ngaphandle kokuhlelela impi:
- 6. Hlanganyelani nomunye
- 7. Yithi ngiyabonga
Imuphi umshado ongenazo izinkinga zawo? Bambalwa. Eqinisweni, leyo mibhangqwana ethi ayinazinkinga kungenzeka ukuthi iphika kakhulu noma ayixhumani nomunye nomunye. Kithina sonke, kudingeka sazi ukuthi izinkinga zomshado zingenzeka, futhi sidinga ukubhekana nazo, singazizi, ukuze ubuhlobo bethu bukhule.
Esinye sezeluleko ezibaluleke kakhulu zomshado ongasifunda yilesi: uma wena noshade naye nithola ukuthi anikwazi ukuqhubekela phambili ekuxazululeni izinkinga ezakhayo, shayelani izibhamu ezinkulu.
Cela usizo nobungoti bomelaphi womshado onelayisense nomndeni.
Akunamahloni okubonisana nomuntu oqeqeshelwe ukukusiza uzisize, futhi izigidi zemishado efana neyenu ayigcinwanga ngokusindiswa kuphela kepha yaqiniswa, ngemuva kokuchitha isikhathi esithile nomelaphi ofanelekayo.
Ungazilungiselela kanjani kangcono izikhathi zakho zokwelashwa?
1. Thola izindaba ezisemqoka ofuna ukusebenzela kuzo
Ngaphambi kokuqala ukwelashwa komshado, kuyasiza ukuhlala phansi wenze uhlu lwazo zonke izinkinga ongathanda ukuzixazulula. Bhala lokhu kusuka kokubaluleke kakhulu kuye kokungabalulekanga kakhulu. Wena nomyeni wakho ningafuna ukwenza uhlu lwenu oluhlukile, njengoba kungenzeka ukuthi unezinto ezithile obungazimisele ukuhlanganyela ngokukhululekile nomyeni wakho.
Lokhu kuyinzuzo enkulu yokusebenza nomelaphi, ngoba kukuvumela ukuthi ukwazi ukukhipha izingqinamba ekuphepheni kwehhovisi lakhe okungenzeka ukuthi wawunqikaza ukubhekana noshade naye ekhaya.
2. Khumbula: Ukuxazulula izingxabano kuqala ngawe
Esinye iseluleko esibalulekile somshado ukuhlala ukhumbula iqiniso lokuthi awukwazi ukushintsha omunye umuntu. Ungashintsha kuphela kanjani wena ubone futhi usabele ezinkingeni emshadweni wakho. Ngakho-ke lapho usebenza kulezi zinkinga zomshado, kungaba sehhovisi lomelaphi noma ekhaya noshade naye, khumbula ukuthi ufuna ukugxila kuwe.
Yini ongayenza ukuze uqhubekele phambili ngokukhiqiza nezinkinga ezikugcina kuphethini ethile engemihle? Ungaziqamba kabusha kanjani izimo ezikubangela ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka? Uma izinto zingaguquki, uzibona ukuphi eminyakeni emihlanu, eyishumi? Ungaphila nalokho? Uma kungenjalo, yiziphi izinyathelo ezingakwenza wena ukuthatha ukushintsha izinto?
3. Khuluma usendaweni enomusa, ezolile nenenhlonipho
Lapho imibhangqwana ixoxa ngezinkinga zayo zomshado, kulula ukuthi ithoni likhuphuke futhi kusolwe ukunikezwa.
Sungula iqoqo lemithetho ngaphambi kokuba ube yingxoxo.
Sizophathana ngomusa. Sizokhuluma ngezwi elipholile. Siyahloniphana futhi ngeke sizihambise ngokubizana ngamagama noma ukuhlambalaza.
Futhi qiniseka ukuthi kunomphumela uma noma iyiphi yale mithetho ingagcinwa. Sizohlaba ikhefu engxoxweni bese sizikhiphela emakamelweni ahlukene size sehlise umoya futhi sizizwe sikulungele ukuqhubeka.
4. Ingabe umelaphi wakho akufundise izindlela zokuxhumana ezinempilo
Umgomo akukhona ukuqeda zonke izinkinga emshadweni wakho. Umgomo ukufunda amathuluzi amahle, anempilo ongawasebenzisa lapho kuvela izinkinga zomshado. Elinye lamathuluzi angcono kakhulu ongaba nalo kuthuluzi lakho lomshado amakhono amahle wokuxhumana.
5. Nazi ezinye izindlela zokwethula izifundo ezibucayi ngaphandle kokuhlelela impi:
"Ngizwa ......" kungcono kunokuthi "Ungenza ngizizwe ......"
“Ngikhathazeka ngo ....” Kungcono kunokuthi “Ungenza ngikhathazeke ngo .....”
“Ngingathanda uku .....” kungcono kunokuthi “Ngingathanda ...”
"Ngiyakuqonda ukuthi kungani ubona izinto ngaleyondlela" kungcono kunokuthi "Awukho kahle futhi awuqondi ngokuphelele ukuthi kwenzekani lapha."
Bona ukuthi izitatimende zokuqala azisongeli kanjani? Bavula ingxoxo kunokuvala umlingani wakho.
6. Hlanganyelani nomunye
Inkinga evamile emshadweni ukuba matasa. Yomibili le mibhangqwana iyasebenza, kunezingane okufanele zinakekelwe, ikhaya eligcinwe lihlelekile futhi lisebenza, nayo yonke eminye imisebenzi edonsela ukunaka kwakho kude komunye nomunye. Akumangalisi ukuthi abantu abashadile bazizwe benganakiwe. Kwesinye isikhathi, ukumane wenze iphuzu lokuhlola kusihlwa njalo noshade naye kwanele ukugcina inkinga encane ingakhuli ibe nkulu.
Ngenkathi kukulingisa ukuzipholela phambi kwethelevishini uma usunakekele yonke eminye imisebenzi yakho ephathelene nomndeni, zinike isikhathi sokuhlala nomlingani wakho nibone ukuthi baqhuba kanjani.
Jikela kubo, ubathinte, ubabuze ukuthi belunjani usuku lwabo.
Vumela impendulo yabo, bese uyithatha lapho. Akukho okusiza umbhangqwana ukuthi uhlale uzibophezele njengokuzwelana, ukubonana nokukhombisa ukuthi usuku / impilo yawo ibalulekile kuwe.
7. Yithi ngiyabonga
Inkinga ejwayelekile imibiko yabashadikazi ukuthi bazizwa besizakala noma imizamo yabo ingaziwa. Lokhu kuvame kakhulu emishadweni yesikhathi eside, lapho kulula ukukhohlwa ukubonga oshade naye ngezinto ojwayele ukuzithola kubo: ukudla okumnandi, noma ikhaya elihlanzekile, noma ukushintshwa kukawoyela emotweni yakho.
Ukunganaki ukubonga kubanga umuzwa ongemuhle ebudlelwaneni, ngakho-ke qiniseka ukuthi uthi ngiyabonga okungenani kanye ngosuku. Wonke umuntu uthanda ukuzizwa ebonwa futhi eziswa, futhi uzozizwa ungcono ngokunikela ngokubonga kumuntu obaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho.