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- Incazelo yothando olunothando
- Ake sibheke isici somzimba sothando oluvuthayo
- Zithini ezinye zezazi ngothando olunothando?
- Incazelo yothando oluthandekayo
Lapho iningi lentsha licabanga ukuthi impilo yalo yothando yesikhathi esizayo izobukeka kanjani, uthando olunentshisekelo luphambili ohlwini lwazo lwezifiso, kanye nokuhlangana okujulile ngokomzwelo nomlingani walo, ubungani beqiniso, kanye nomuzwa wokuzizwa uphephile futhi uvikelekile eyodwa bashada.
Kodwa luyini “uthando olunothando”?
Incazelo yothando olunothando
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yomphakathi u-Elaine Hatfield, uchwepheshe kwezobudlelwano besayensi, uchaza uthando olunothando “njengesimo sokulangazelela okukhulu ubunye nomunye.”
Lolu hlobo lwemizwa lukhona kakhulu ekuqaleni kobudlelwano obuningi bothando. Sonke sihlangabezane nalesi simo, lapho konke esikucabanga ngakho kungabathandekayo bethu, okwenza kube nzima ukugxila emsebenzini nakweminye imithwalo yemfanelo.
Uthando oluthandekayo lucishe lube yinto efana nomcabango. Uma sikanye nozakwethu sifuna nje ukuxhumana nabo ngokomzimba, futhi lapho sehlukanisiwe nabo, ubuhlungu bokuba khona kwabo cishe abubekezeleleki. Kukule ndawo lapho kuzalwa khona ubuciko, umculo, izinkondlo nemibhalo emihle.
Ake sibheke isici somzimba sothando oluvuthayo
Kulezi zinsuku zokuqala zobudlelwano, uthando olunothando lusho ukwenza uthando okushisayo, okuvamile, ukujoyina imiphefumulo, okumangalisa impela. Awukwazi ukususa izandla zakho komunye nomunye, bese usebenzisa noma imaphi amathuba okuthola phansi futhi ungcolise ekamelweni.
Lezi yizikhathi zokwenza izinkanuko nezothando kakhulu, izikhathi zokulondolozwa. Lokhu kwenza uthando okunothando kusebenza njengeglu, kukuhlanganisa ndawonye ukuze ukwazi ukubhekana nezikhathi ezingenakugwemeka-kude kakhulu esikhathini esizayo, ngethemba ukuthi lapho uthando lungeke luthande khona nalapho ukusondelana kwakho kungabuzwa khona. Kepha masingacabangi ngalokho manje. Jabulela lokhu kwenziwa kothando, lapho ukhona kakhulu futhi ugxile enjabulweni kazakwenu. Nifunda ulimi lomunye nomunye, ngakho-ke yehlisa ijubane, ulalele omunye umuntu, futhi wenze ukubala njalo kwesibili.
Zithini ezinye zezazi ngothando olunothando?
Nazi ezinye izingcaphuno ngothando olunothando.
Amahora engiwachitha nawe ngiwabheka njengohlobo lwensimu enamakha, ukuhwalala okufiphele, nomthombo oyiculela. Wena nawe wedwa ungenza ngizizwe ukuthi ngiyaphila. Abanye abantu kuthiwa babonile izingelosi, kepha mina ngikubonile futhi wenele.
UGeorge Moore
Sasithanda ngothando olwalungaphezu kothando.
Inkondlo ka-Edgar Allan
Sisebenza kahle ihora ngothando oluvuthayo, ngaphandle kokusonteka, ngaphandle kokunambitha. Lapho sekuqediwe, akuqediwe, silala sisale sisezingalweni zomunye nomunye sibekezelelwe uthando lwethu, ngobumnene, inkanuko lapho wonke umuntu angabamba iqhaza khona.
U-Anais Nin
Angisakwazi ukucabanga okunye ngaphandle kwakho. Naphezu kwami, umcabango wami ungiyisa kuwe. Ngiyakuthinta, ngiyakuqabula, ngiyakuphulula, inkulungwane yama-caress amahle kakhulu angithatha.
U-Honore de Balzac
Uyazi ukuthi uyathandana lapho ungafuni ukulala ngoba iqiniso ekugcineni lingcono kunamaphupho akho.
UTheodor Seuss Geisel
Sasiba ndawonye futhi sibe nezincwadi zethu futhi ebusuku sifudumele embhedeni kanye namafasitela avulekile nezinkanyezi zikhanya.
U-Ernest Hemingway
Ngingathanda ukuhlanganyela isikhathi esisodwa sokuphila nawe kunokuba ngibhekane nayo yonke iminyaka yalo mhlaba wedwa.
R. R. Tolkien
Uma ngiyazi ukuthi luyini uthando, kungenxa yakho.
UHerman Hesse
"Uthando luqukethe lokhu, ukuthi ukuhlala yedwa kuvikela futhi kuthintane futhi kubingelelane."
URainer Maria Rilke
Amazwi akho angukudla kwami, nomoya wakho iwayini lami. Uyikho konke kimi. ”
USarah Bernhardt
Incazelo yothando oluthandekayo
Okokuqala, ake sihlole ukuthi uthando olunothando alusho ukuthini.
Uthando oluthandekayo alunjalo
- Kuyisidina
- Kufiphele
- Okungaxhumani
- Kugcwele izimfihlo namanga
- Ukubamba izinto emuva
- Ukuziba okunye
- Ukungaphenduli kuma-imeyili, izingcingo, imibhalo
- Kugcwele ukudlala umdlalo futhi uzama ukubonakala upholile kunomlingani wakho
- Ukungamvumeli umlingani wakho
- Ukungalaleli umlingani wakho
- Ukungamboni ngempela umlingani wakho
Uthando oluthandekayo luthi:
- Ukubona, ukwazisa nokwazisa umlingani wakho
- Ukucabanga ngazo ngokungapheli kusukela lapho uvuka ekuseni kuze kube umzuzu wokulala ebusuku
- Ukufuna ukuba eceleni kwabo ngaso sonke isikhathi
- Ukufuna ukuba itheku labo eliphephile
- Ukukhathalela okuningi ngabo kunokukhathalela wena
- Ukwenza uthando nokucabanga ngenjabulo yabo kuqala, nokwakho kube kwesibili
- Ukukhipha injabulo ngomcabango wokuzibona kungekudala
- Ukungalali ebusuku
- Izinsuku ezinjengephupho
Ukufingqa konke, uthando olunothando yisimo lapho ubudlelwano obuningi bothando buqala khona.
Luhlala isikhathi esingakanani lolu thando? Kusemuntwini ngamunye. Kwabambalwa abanenhlanhla, le nkanuko eshisayo ingahlala impilo yonke. Kepha lokho kudinga umzamo nokuzinikela ekunakekeleni ngokweqiniso ukugcina amalahle avutha.
Kwemibhangqwana eminingi, kukhona ukwehla okujwayelekile nokugelezela othandweni olunothando. Icebo lokungalilahli ithemba lapho inkanuko ibonakala ifiphala. I-Passion ingahlala ibuyiselwa ngomsebenzi othile nokunakwa okuvela kuzo zombili izinhlangothi.
Ngenkathi ungeke uyithole indlela yakho yokubuyela ezingeni lokushisa owake wabhekana nalo ezinsukwini zakho zakuqala, ungathola futhi olunye uhlobo lokuzola lothando, olungasekelwa futhi lukhuliswe “uze uhlukane nokufa.”