-Delile
- 1. Izinkolelo nezenkolo
- 2. Izizathu zezokwelapha
- 3. Izizathu zengqondo
- 4. Izizathu zomphakathi
- Buhle:
- Nebubi:
Ubudlelwano bukaPlato ubudlelwano obusondelene ngokomzwelo ngaphandle kocansi. Lapha sizohlola ubuhle nobubi bokuzibandakanya ocansini nokugcina ubudlelwano obusondelene ngokomzwelo nomuntu othandana naye ngenhloso yokukhetha umuntu ozoshada naye.
Ake sihlole ukuthi kungani umuntu angafuna ukuba sothandweni olusondelene ngokomzwelo lweplato ngaphandle kocansi.
1. Izinkolelo nezenkolo
Abantu abaningi benza ucansi ngaphambi komshado ngenxa yezinkolelo zenkolo. Kwamanye amazwe, akukho emthethweni ngemibhangqwana ukuthi iye ocansini ngaphambi komshado, yingakho ukusondelana okuhambisana ne-plonic kuphela kwendlela esalayo yemibhangqwana enjalo.
2. Izizathu zezokwelapha
Abanye abantu banezizathu zokwelashwa zokuziyeka ngenkathi beshadile. Isibonelo, umuntu oshadile kungenzeka ukuthi ube sengozini yemoto kanti udokotela kungenzeka ukuthi welule isiguli sakhe ukuthi singazibandakanyi kunoma yimuphi umsebenzi onzima, kufaka phakathi ucansi, kuze kufike esinye isaziso.
Imibhangqwana enjalo ifunda ukuzijwayeza ukuzithiba ebudlelwaneni. Ababambiqhaza abaqala uhlelo lokululama okuyizinyathelo eziyi-12 bavame ukwelulekwa ukuthi bangazibandakanyi ebudlelwaneni bezocansi isikhathi esithile ukuze bahlale begxile kulolu hlelo.
3. Izizathu zengqondo
Abanye abantu bathatha isifungo sokungashadi ngenxa yezizathu ezingokwengqondo. Eyodwa, ukuze kuthuthukiswe indlela entsha yokucabanga yokushintsha izici zempilo yabo noma ukuthatha isikhathi sokululama ebudlelwaneni obudlule. Abazali abaningi abangabodwa bazibophezela ekugwemeni ucansi futhi bafunda ukuhlala bengenzi lutho ebudlelwaneni ukuze bakhulise izingane.
4. Izizathu zomphakathi
Umthetho owaziwayo wanamuhla "wezinyanga ezintathu" uyisibonelo sakudala senhlalo sobudlelwano beplato.
Imithetho enjalo yobudlelwano beplato inika inkululeko eyenele kwabesifazane abelulekwa ukuba bathandane futhi bajabulele ubungani babalingani babo besilisa kepha balinde okungenani izinyanga ezintathu ngaphambi kokuya ocansini nomlingani wabo ngoba kusungula izinzuzo eziningi zobudlelwano.
Akunandaba noma yiziphi izizathu zokuthi kungani umuntu engakhetha ukungayi ocansini, akusho ukuthi lowo muntu akakufuni ukuhlangana naye. Basenaso isidingo sokusondelana nangokomzwelo ukuhlala bexhumekile futhi bathandana kodwa ngokuqonda ukuthi ngeke lube khona ucansi. Abantu abaningi bagcina ubudlelwano obusondelene be-platonic izinyanga, kanti abanye iminyaka ngaphambi kokuzibophezela emshadweni.
Imibhangqwana ifunda ukuthi ingabhekana kanjani nokuzithiba ebudlelwaneni ngoba ubudlelwano beplaton bunezabelo zazo. Kepha, umuntu udinga ukuqonda izinzuzo nobubi bokuzila ngaphambi kokuzibophezela ebudlelwaneni obungavumi.
Buhle:
- Ukuzinika isikhathi sokwazi umuntu ngaphambi kocansi kusho ukuthi awuqomi nezibuko ezinombala we-rose. Ngakho-ke, ngeke uhumushe kabi ukuziphatha okungamukeleki ukuthi kwamukeleke.
Isibonelo, umuntu ongacabanga ukuthi ukhathazekile ngawe kungenzeka abe yinqaba yokulawula. Ukuziphatha kokukhathazeka kwamukelekile, kepha isimilo se-control freak siyi-break-breaker.
- Ukuzinika isikhathi sokwazi umuntu ngaphambi kocansi kuzokunika isikhathi sokuxoxa ngezimfihlo. Izinkulumo zakho zizoveza imininingwane mayelana nokuxilongwa kwe-STD (Izifo Ezithathelwana Ngocansi) noma umlando wezokwelapha womndeni wofuzo okudingeka wazi ngawo. Ikakhulukazi, uma ufuna ukuba nezingane futhi uqale umndeni.
- Abantu abashadile bayayeka ukuya ocansini ngezikhathi ezithile lapho belungisa ubudlelwano babo kusuka ezindabeni zokwethembana, inhlonipho kanye nokuzibophezela. Ukuthola ukwethenjwa, inhlonipho, nokuzibophezela kuyizinzuzo eziyinhloko "zomthetho wezinyanga ezintathu".
Ukuzithiba emshadweni umthetho oweluleka abesilisa nabesifazane ukuthi bangalali nomuntu abazoba naye okungenani izinyanga ezintathu. Umqondo ngukukhipha abantu abangathembekile futhi uthole ngemikhuba yokwephula isivumelwano noma izimfihlo.
Abantu abaningi ngeke banamathele uma bengayi ocansini ngokushesha ngoba empeleni abafunanga ubuhlobo obungathi sína. Noma kungenzeka ukuthi basho okunye ukuthola izimpahla. Bangashada. Kulesi simo, beningeke nitshale imali nonke, ngakho-ke nilahlekelwe yimpahla.
Umshado kaPlato mhlawumbe kuwumqondo omuhle ukugcina ukuzihlonipha nokuzethemba kwakho.
Nebubi:
- Abangani abangaphezu koyedwa. Uma kungabekiwe imingcele, umlingani wakho angabandakanyeka ebuhlotsheni obungokomzwelo obusondelene obungaphezu koyedwa ngokucabanga ukuthi abayi ocansini.
Ngakho-ke, bangaba nabangane abaningi. Inkinga ukungazinikeli nokuzithiba. Omunye walabo bangane angaba "umngane onenzuzo".
- Umlilo awusekho. Uma ubudlelwano obusondelene ngokomzwelo beplatonic bungahlakuli ukukhangwa ngokobulili okwabelwana ngabo bobabili abathintekayo, ubudlelwano ngeke buye ezingeni elilandelayo. Ungahle ube njengomndeni noma izindlela ezihlukile.
- Ukuqeda ukuyeka ucansi. Uma umbhangqwana ushadile, izidingo zomunye womuntu zocansi zingaba namandla kunomunye, ziphoqelele omunye ukuba aphumele ngaphandle kobudlelwano bezocansi.
Umshado awudalelwanga ukuba ube nobudlelwano obusondelene ngokomzwelo nokuzithiba kocansi noma ngabe kunesidingo sokwenza kanjalo isikhathi esifushane.
Ekuphetheni, kunezizathu zezokwelapha, ezenkolo, ezengqondo nezenhlalo zokuthi kungani abantu bekhetha ukuzibandakanya ebudlelwaneni beplato nokuzithiba kwezocansi.
Izinzuzo zobudlelwano beplato ngaphandle kocansi zinika abalingani isikhathi sokusungula nokuqinisa ukwethembana, inhlonipho, nokuzibophezela ebudlelwaneni. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ingangenisa abalingani abaningi ebudlelwaneni uma imingcele ingasethiwe.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukukhangwa ngokocansi kungaphela futhi ubudlelwano abuthuthuki buye ezingeni elilandelayo. Lezi zinhlobo zobudlelwano kungenzeka zingabi yindlela engcono kakhulu yemishado ngaphandle kokuthi udokotela onguchwepheshe ayifundisile.