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- Isibopho sikaMama-Ingane - Esijwayelekile nesobuciko
- Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu beNarcissistic
- Ngabe Unomama Othanda Ukuthambisa?
- Yimuphi umonakalo owenziwa ngumama othanda ukuthanda izidakamizwa?
Ukukhula nomama othanda ukuhlanekezela unamandla okushiya imiphumela engapheli yempilo yengane. Yize bonke ubudlelwano bomama nengane bunezici zokuhlekisa ngabo, njengoba sizoxoxa, kukhona umehluko phakathi kwale nqubo ejwayelekile yokusebenza kwengqondo nokugula.
Ukungezwani kobuntu be-narcissistic kuwukuxilongwa kwengqondo, akuyona nje indlela ongamchaza ngayo umuntu ozicabangela ngokweqile futhi onobugovu.
Ngakho-ke, inomthelela omubi kuwo wonke umuntu obandakanyeka kumuntu onjalo, futhi ikakhulukazi kumuntu osengozini njengengane.
Isibopho sikaMama-Ingane - Esijwayelekile nesobuciko
I-narcissism yayisetshenziswa kakhulu kwi-psychology ngaphakathi kwezikole zemicabango (amagama amakhulu ayo kwakunguFreud, Adler noma uJung). Kanjalo, kungaba yi-tad enzima ukuyiqonda ngisho nezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ezingezona lezo zifundo. Yize kunjalo, lapho yenziwe lula, eminye imigomo eyisisekelo isobala futhi icacele noma ngubani.
Ngokwemvelo uqobo lwesibopho phakathi kukamama nengane, kunzima kuwo wonke umama ukuvumela ukwahlukaniswa kwendodana yakhe noma kwendodakazi yakhe. Ingane yayiyingxenye yakhe engenakuhlukaniswa izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye. Ngemuva kwalokho, usana alunakukwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kokunakekelwa njalo (impela asikhulumi ngamacala adabukisayo lapho umama angakwazi noma anganakekeli ingane yakhe).
Njengoba ingane ikhula, kusadingeka ukunakwa okuningi. Kepha, futhi ifuna ukuzimela.
Wonke umama unenkinga ethile yokuyeka ukuhamba. Ngandlela thile, isibopho esiphakathi kwabo siyinto ehlekisayo ngomqondo kamama obheka ingane njengengxenye yakhe. Kodwa-ke, omama abaningi bajabulela umsebenzi omkhulu abawenzile wokukhulisa umuntu onekhono futhi ojabulayo ozimele. Omama beNarcissistic abenzi. Eqinisweni, abavumeli ngempela ukuthi lokhu kwenzeke.
Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu beNarcissistic
Njengoba sesishilo, ubuntu be-narcissistic buyisifo esisemthethweni. Izimpawu zayo eziyinhloko ukugxila ngokuphelele kuwe, ukungabi nozwelo nokungakwazi ukwakha ukusondelana kweqiniso nabantu. Abantu abasebenzisa izihlukumezi bayakhohlisa, bayakhohlisa, abanamusa futhi banobutha. Abaziphathi kahle, banamawala futhi bathambekele ekuthatheni ingozi.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, zonke lezi zimpawu zokuphazamiseka kobuntu zizinzile kuzo zonke izizinda zokuphila, naphakathi nayo yonke impilo yomuntu. Okusho elinye iphuzu elibalulekile - ukuphazamiseka kobuntu kukonke kufaka phakathi i-narcissistic, kunzima kakhulu ukuselapha. Eqinisweni, ochwepheshe abaningi bakubheka njengokungelashwa. Mane nje amakhono athile okusebenzisana nawathambile angafundwa, kepha umnyombo uhlala unjalo.
Ngabe Unomama Othanda Ukuthambisa?
Iningi lethu lihlangane nomuntu othanda izinto zobuthakathaka, futhi abaningi bebazi nomuntu onesifo sobuntu obuthanda ukuba yindlala. Yize kunjalo, lapho sihlangana nomuntu othile futhi sibona ukuthi unazo lezi zimfanelo, cishe sizobalekela kubo. Noma, okungenani, sizoba sethubeni lokwenza kanjalo.
Ngeshwa, abesifazane abathandanayo banezingane. Futhi yilezi zingane ezingakwazi (imvamisa njalo) ukuzikhulula ethonyeni lonina.
Uma uzibuza ukuthi ngabe umama wakho unalesi sifo, noma okungenani unezici ezivelele ze-narcissistic, ungathatha le mibuzo njengesiqalo. Kodwa-ke, uma usacubungula leyo nketho ngemuva kwakho konke okushiwo ngenhla, kungenzeka ukuthi ulungile. Ngeshwa, abantu abaningi bathola ukuthi abazali babo bangama-narcissists ekwelashweni kwengqondo, njengoba iningi lalabo abanesidingo sosizo olunjalo lapho sebekhulile yizingane zabazali abaphethwe yilesi sifo.
Yimuphi umonakalo owenziwa ngumama othanda ukuthanda izidakamizwa?
Umuntu angazibuza ukuthi kungani umuntu ozicabangela kangaka angafuna ukuba nengane, uma kubhekwa ukuthi kudinga ukuzidela okungakanani ukukhulisa ingane.
Noma kunjalo, ungakhohlwa umgqugquzeli oyinhloko womuntu othanda ubudlabha - ukuba mkhulu. Futhi ukuba nengane kubanika izindlela eziningi ezahlukahlukene zokufeza lokho.
Kusuka entweni enhle, ngaphezulu kwesibhamu sesibili sempumelelo, kuze kufike ezingeni lokwelula isikhathi sempilo yakhe ngempilo yengane yakhe.
Ingane kamama we-narcissistic kulindeleke ukuthi yenze kahle kuzo zonke izingxenye zempilo yayo. Akufanele neze zigqame kunina, noma kunjalo. Kepha, kufanele babe necala futhi bajabulise umama nganoma iyiphi indlela. Kodwa-ke, akukho lutho oluyohlala lwanele ngokwanele. Ngenxa yalokhu, izingane zomama abathandana nabathandanayo cishe bazokhula bangavikeleki ngokweqile.
Umuntu omdala obenomama (noma esenaye) ongumama othanda ukuba yingozi usengcupheni yokuba ngumuntu ojabulisa abantu aze afinyelele ekubeni sethubeni lokusizakala, udlame lwasekhaya, nazo zonke izinhlobo zokuhlukumezeka nobubi. Iningi lezingane zomama abathandanayo bayoba nokuphazamiseka ngokomzwelo futhi bazizwe benomuzwa wempilo yonke wokuzijongela phansi. Ukuba nomama we-narcissistic kushiya izibazi ezimbi, kepha, ngokungafani naye, ingane inethuba lokululama ngokusekelwa ngochwepheshe.