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- 1.Qaphela oshade naye njengomuntu othanda izidakamizwa
- 2. Zitholele ummeli wedivosi onamava
- 3. Hlala kude nowayengumlingani wakho we-narcissist
- 4. Bhala konke ongakwenza
- 5. Qaphela yonke imiphumela engaba khona
- 6. Zizungeze ngohlelo lokusekela
Isehlukaniso ngokwaso simapeketwane sisodwa. Kepha uma ihlobene nomlingani we-narcissist, ijwayele ukuba yimbi. AbakwaNarcissist ngabantu abazithandayo, abanobugovu, abazikhukhumezayo futhi abanomuzwa oqinile wokuthola ilungelo.
Esehlukanisweni, imvamisa omunye wabalingani uyindlalifa kanti omunye unengqondo. Ngulo mlingani we-narcissist ongadala izingxabano ezinkulu yedwa futhi enze izimo zibe zimbi kakhulu. Bangabantu abanesihluku futhi abangenazwela abakwaziyo futhi abazokwenza uma kudingeka, bahlukumeze ubuhlungu obumangalisayo kulabo ababazungezile. Bajwayele ukungakuphathi kahle ukugxekwa nokwenqatshwa kahle futhi yingakho, benza inqubo yesehlukaniso ibe yinde futhi ikhathaze.
Ngakho-ke, kuphephile ukusho ukuthi abakwa-narcissist nesehlukaniso, ndawonye, yizinto ezimbili umuntu okufanele azigweme ngazo zonke izindlela.
Okushiwo ngezansi ngezansi kunamathiphu ambalwa awusizo wokuthi ungawina kanjani lapho uhlukanisa nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist.
1.Qaphela oshade naye njengomuntu othanda izidakamizwa
Ukuzikhukhumeza ne-egomaniac akumenzi umuntu abe yi-narcissist. Okwehlukanisa abantu abathanda ukucasula kithina sonke ukungabi nozwela nokwenqaba ukwamukela noma yimuphi umthwalo.
Bazibona njengabalungile futhi basola konke okungalungile kwabanye.
Ngokusho kwabo, akukho lutho oluyiphutha labo ngoba bamane baphelele!
Okwesibili, bazibona bengcono kunabanye futhi bezwa isidingo sokulungisa abanye ngokugxeka nangokulawula ukulawula wonke umuntu nakho konke. Abantu abanjalo kaningi banomona ngempumelelo yabanye futhi abatholakali ngokomzwelo.
Kodwa-ke, basakwazi ukuphatha abanye ngokusebenzisa i-façade yokunakekelwa nokuqonda. Uma uthola zonke lezi zimfanelo kumlingani wakho, lapho-ke kunesidingo esikhulu sokuthi ubaleke.
2. Zitholele ummeli wedivosi onamava
Ungahambi ngale ndlela ngaphandle kommeli. Udinga ummeli ozokusiza ekuqondiseni enqubweni yesehlukaniso, okungamangalisi ukuthi izoba nzima. Okwesibili, udinga ummeli owaziyo abakwenzayo okungukuthi, ummeli onolwazi, onolwazi.
Akubona bonke abameli abafanayo noma kunjalo; abanye bangababonisi abahle kanti abanye abayilutho nje.
Qiniseka ukuthi ukhetha ummeli ofanele, uma kungenjalo ngeke benze lutho ngaphandle kokwenza idrama emnandi yalowo owayengumlingani wakho we-narcissist, into abazoyithokozela nakanjani, futhi bakubizele imali enkulu ngasikhathi sinye.
Dala isu nommeli wakho ukubhekana namasu ama-narcissists ukukusiza ukuthi uqhubeke nezinqubo zomthetho.
3. Hlala kude nowayengumlingani wakho we-narcissist
Phuma ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka! Lapho lowo owawushade naye esazi ukuthi ufuna isehlukaniso bayazi ukuthi balahlekelwa amandla namandla kuwe.
Lokhu kulawulwa namandla yikhona okushayela abaningi bama-narcissist ngakho-ke, ngeke bancame kalula.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma ukhetha ukuhlala nabo noma ukubabona kaninginingi, kungenzeka ukuthi bazokwazi ukukukhohlisa noma bakufake ogibeni lwabo. Hlala wazi ngazo zonke izindlela zabo zokukhohlisa nezokulawula ingqondo futhi ungazweli kubo.
4. Bhala konke ongakwenza
AbakwaNarcissists bakuthola kulula kakhulu ukuqamba amanga. Bazokhuluma izinto ezingelona iqiniso ngokuphelele ngisho nangaphansi kwesifungo ukuze bondle umuzwa wabo futhi bakubone uhlulwa. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi ugcine yonke imibhalo nobufakazi.
Gcina zonke izithombe-skrini, imiyalezo ebhaliwe, imiyalezo yokulalelwayo, ama-imeyili, nayo yonke into okholelwa ukuthi ingaphazanyiswa kalula ngenye indlela.
Kuhle futhi uma ungabamba wonke amaphepha okuqala uwagcine endaweni ephephile, lapho bengenakufinyelela khona.
5. Qaphela yonke imiphumela engaba khona
Qaphela ngaso sonke isikhathi, gcina amehlo nezindlebe zivulekile. Kunamathuba amaningi okuthi ijaji lingahle lingamboni umhlukumezi kumlingani wakho wangaphambili njengoba wenza. Njengoba kushiwo ukuthi umuntu kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi athembele kokuhle kepha azilungiselele okubi kakhulu!
Udinga ukunakekela isinyathelo ngasinye osithathayo esahlukweni esandulele ikakhulukazi uma unezingane.
Qinisekisa ukuthi ijaji liyazi ukuthi ungumzali ongcono kakhulu izingane ezingaba nabo!
6. Zizungeze ngohlelo lokusekela
Ngenkathi ubhekene nomuntu osebenzisa izihibe nesehlukaniso, kuzoba nezikhathi lapho uzokhathala futhi ufune umuntu ongaxoxa naye.
Ngakho-ke, qiniseka ukuthi uzungezwe ngabantu abakuthandayo nabakunakekelayo futhi abazoba eceleni kwakho ukukusiza noma nini lapho ukudinga khona.
Isehlukaniso siyinkqubo enzima, ukuyihlanganisa nomuntu othanda izidakamizwa kuzomane kube kubi kakhulu. Ukungahlangani kwezomthetho, kwezezimali nangokomzwelo nakho kuzoba nzima kakhulu kuwe kepha kubalulekile ukuthi uzinakekele kukho konke futhi uhlale uqine!