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- Izimiso Eziyisikhombisa Zokwenza Umshado Usebenze: Umhlahlandlela Osebenzayo Ovela Kwezobudlelwano Obubaluleke Kakhulu Bezwe
- nguJohn Gottman noNan Silver
- Izilimi Ezi-5 Zothando: Imfihlo Yothando Oluhlala Njalo
- nguGary G. Chapman
- Uthando Nenhlonipho: Uthando Alufisa Kakhulu; Inhlonipho Ayidinga Kakhulu
- ngu-Emerson Eggerichs
- Imingcele Emshadweni
- nguHenry Cloud noJohn Townsend
- Izidingo Zakhe, Izidingo Zakhe: Ukwakha Umshado Othandanayo
- by UWillard F. Harley Jr.
- Ngibambe Ngiqinile: Izingxoxo eziyisikhombisa zempilo yonke yothando
- nguSusan Johnson
Isikhathi — usukulungele ukuthatha incwadi eyodwa noma ezimbili ngomshado. Kade ucabanga ngakho isikhashana futhi usukulungele ukuthenga. Manje yini? Uma upheqa noma isiphi isitolo sendawo, sesha ngokushesha esigabeni sencwadi sama-Amazon, noma uswayipha uzungeze indawo ye-ebook yethebhulethi yakho, uzothola izincwadi eziningi ngomshado. Kuningi kakhulu, kungamangaza. Ukhetha kanjani ukuthi yikuphi okulungele wena nomshado wakho?
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhetha incwadi ekhumbula ukuqina komshado wakho jikelele. Impela, ungakhetha incwadi noma ezimbili ezikhuluma ngezinkinga ezithile, kepha lokho bekungeke yini kuswele isithombe esikhulu?
Emshadweni, kunemininingwane, futhi kukhona nomshado jikelele. Kuzohlala kunemininingwane ephezulu noma phansi. Okubalulekile ukugxila ekutheni umshado wakho uqhuba kanjani ngomqondo ojwayelekile. Lokho ukuqina komshado wakho. Ngakho-ke manje ufuna ukuthola incwadi engcono kakhulu yokufaneleka komshado yakho noshade naye. Incwadi ekhuluma ngomnyombo wokuthi kungani umshado usebenza noma ungasebenzi nokuthi ungawulungisa kanjani kangcono. Ngoba uma usungakwenza lokho, imininingwane izolungisa yona.
Bheka uhlu lwethu lwezincwadi ezifanele kakhulu zemishado yemibhangqwana:
Izimiso Eziyisikhombisa Zokwenza Umshado Usebenze: Umhlahlandlela Osebenzayo Ovela Kwezobudlelwano Obubaluleke Kakhulu Bezwe
nguJohn Gottman noNan Silver
Abantu bafunda zonke izinhlobo zezinto, kepha uJohn Gottman ufunda into eyodwa esemqoka — imishado. Uma ufuna ukufeza izinga elikhulu lokuqina komshado, angakutshela ukuthi ukwenze kanjani. Ungumqondisi we-Marriage and Family Institute futhi ufunde imishado phakathi neminyaka eminingi. Incwadi iyisiqondiso esisebenzayo esinemibuzo nezimiso zokusiza imibhangqwana ibe nobudlelwano obungcono jikelele.
Izilimi Ezi-5 Zothando: Imfihlo Yothando Oluhlala Njalo
nguGary G. Chapman
Abesilisa nabesifazane bahlukile — noma ngubani angakubona lokho. Kepha bewazi ukuthi ngamunye wethu unezindlela zakhe azithandayo zokuthola uthando? Yingakho le ncwadi ingenye yezincwadi ezinhle kakhulu zokuqina komshado emibhangqwaneni. Kuthola umnyombo wokuthi uyini umshado — uthando. Ngakho-ke thokomala futhi ufunde konke ngolimi lwakho lothando nangolimi lothando lomlingani wakho. Akuyona into engavamile ukushada nomuntu olimi lakhe lothando akuyona into omunye umlingani akayona imvelo ekunikezeni. Kuthatha umsebenzi othile ukwenza ushintsho, kepha umzamo uwufanele.
Uthando Nenhlonipho: Uthando Alufisa Kakhulu; Inhlonipho Ayidinga Kakhulu
ngu-Emerson Eggerichs
Mhlawumbe uzwile ukuthi uthando kumuntu wesilisa lisho inhlonipho, nokuthi lolo thando kowesifazane luthando. Kule ncwadi imfanelo yasemshadweni, funda ngalokho umbhali akufundile eminyakeni eminingi yokweluleka imibhangqwana ebifuna nje ukuzizwa ithandwa ngendlela ebenze bazizwe bephelele kakhulu. Awukwazi ukungahambi kahle ngothando oluthile nenhlonipho emshadweni.
Imingcele Emshadweni
nguHenry Cloud noJohn Townsend
Wake wacabanga ukuthi ukufaneleka komshado wakho kungancika emingceleni? Ngoba lapho imigqa yeqiwa, umshado uwonke uyalimala. Abantu badinga induduzo yemingcele, futhi inhlonipho eyisisekelo emshadweni ikhonjiswa ngokuhlala kuleyo mingcele. Kukhombisa ukuthi siyamkhathalela omunye umuntu futhi siyazinaka izidingo zakhe. Le ncwadi ibuye ihlanganise nokuthi imingcele ingasiza kanjani umshado ukuthi uhlale uvikelekile ezintweni ezingaphandle okungafanele zingene.
Izidingo Zakhe, Izidingo Zakhe: Ukwakha Umshado Othandanayo
by UWillard F. Harley Jr.
Uma ufinyelela ezisekelweni zokufaneleka emshadweni, yini umuntu ngamunye ayidingayo ngempela? Yilokho umbhali wale ncwadi akutshela imibhangqwana. Yize sonke sidinga izinto ezifanayo eziyisisekelo, kule ncwadi yokuqina komshado, abafundi bathola ukuthi amadoda nabafazi bazibeka ngendlela ehlukile. Isibonelo, izidingo zakhe zocansi ziphezulu ohlwini lwakhe, kanti uthando luphezulu ohlwini lwakhe. Kuyamangalisa ukuthi amadoda nabesifazane bahlukene kanjani, kepha njengoba amadoda nabafazi behlangana futhi basebenzela ukuzithuthukisa futhi babone ukuthi badingani ngempela, imishado yabo inamandla okuba nkulu ngokweqiniso.
Ngibambe Ngiqinile: Izingxoxo eziyisikhombisa zempilo yonke yothando
nguSusan Johnson
Lokhu kungenye yezincwadi ezinhle zokuqina zomshado zemibhangqwana. Igxile Kwezokwelapha Okugxilwe Emoyeni, esivele isize imishado eminingi. Umqondo oyisisekelo ukwakha "isibopho sokunamathiselwe" esiqinile futhi ube nezingxoxo eziningi zokuphulukisa ezingaholela lapho.