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- 1. Uyakwazi ukuxhumana
- 2. Nijabula ndawonye
- 3. Bangabantu ohamba nabo
- 4. Uyathethelela ukhohlwe
- 5. Usuku lwasebusuku luyisisekelo
- 6. Uyakwazi ukulwa nokulingana
- 7. Uyamthanda owakwakho
Lapho behlisela phansi ushintsho noma bethi 'ngiyakwenza', imibhangqwana eminingi ingathanda ithuba lokuba nezibikezelo zempilo yomshado ezenziwe ngekusasa labo. Ingabe bayojabula? Ingabe umshado wabo uzophumelela? Kepha izitatimende ezinje azinakushiwo ngabashadile - noma akunjalo?
Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi izici ezithile zobuntu, ukuziphatha kobudlelwano, noma ngisho nosuku lwakho lokuzalwa kunganquma ukuthi wena noshade naye nizophila impilo ende futhi enenjabulo ndawonye.
Ungalifingqa ikusasa lobudlelwano bakho nezibikezelo zempilo yomshado? Hhayi impela. Kepha kunezici ezimbalwa zokuxoxa okuchazwa ochwepheshe ukuthi zizokwenza umshado wakho uphumelele.
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1. Uyakwazi ukuxhumana
Ozakwethu abanezibikezelo ezinhle kakhulu zokuphila komshado imvamisa yilabo abakwaziyo ukuxhumana ngokukhululeka omunye nomunye. Cishe uzwile ukuthi ukuxhumana okuhle kungenye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu empilweni yomshado enempilo.
Imibhangqwana engakhulumisani njalo ivame ukungaboni ngaso linye nokuphikisana ngoba ayizenzisanga izidingo zayo noma ayicacisanga. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuxhumana noshade naye kungakusiza ugweme izingxabano ezingadingekile, ukucasukela noma ukuvimba ngamatshe ngoba kuvumela bobabili abalingani bazi kahle ukuthi inkinga ikuphi.
Ukuxhumana futhi kwakha ukwethembana ebudlelwaneni, ngoba umlingani ngamunye uyazi ukuthi omunye akesabi ukukhuluma ngobuqotho nabo.
2. Nijabula ndawonye
U-Audrey Hepburn wake wacashunwa ethi “Ngicabanga ngokweqiniso ukuthi yinto engiyithanda kakhulu, ukuhleka. Welapha inqwaba yezifo. Cishe yinto ebaluleke kakhulu leyo kumuntu. ” Ngenkathi ukuhleka mhlawumbe akuyona 'into ebaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni obuningi, nakanjani kunamandla ngemuva kwakho.
Ukuhleka kuyisithuthukisi semvelo esinciphisa ukukhathazeka kanye nengcindezi, okwenza kube inkomba ephelele yokuthi ngabe ubudlelwano bakho buzojabula yini noma buphumule noma bube yisiphithiphithi sezinzwa.
Ukudlala nokudlala amahlaya kuyinto enhle ebudlelwaneni bezothando.
3. Bangabantu ohamba nabo
Uma kwenzeka okuthile okuhle, umuntu wokuqala ofuna ukugubha naye kungumlingani wakho. Uyazi ukuthi ngeke babe nomona noma bangabaze izindaba zakho ezinhle - bazojabula kakhulu!
Uma uthola ikhadi lesipho noma uthola isimemo somcimbi ozayo, oshade naye ungumuntu wokuqala ohlwini lwakho ongaluthatha. Ubabeka ngaphambi kwanoma ngubani omunye futhi abaphezulu kakhulu ohlwini lwabantu ofuna ukuchitha isikhathi sakho nabo.
Ngokufanayo, uma kunezindaba ezimbi noma izimo ezingezinhle empilweni yakho, awucabangi nganoma ngubani ongakududuza ngaphezu komlingani wakho. Uma unomuntu ofanele, lena akuyona ingxoxo ozoyesaba ukuba nayo, yingxoxo ofisa ukuba nayo. Noma izindaba zizobahlukumeza noma ziveze okubi kuwe.
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4. Uyathethelela ukhohlwe
Imibhangqwana eminingi kakhulu ilahlekelwa yindlela ngokubamba amagqubu amadala nentukuthelo. Imibhangqwana ehlakaniphile iyazi ukuthi ukuthethelela nokukhohlwa konke kuyingxenye yesivumelwano. Esikhundleni sokubambelela enkingeni, ibinzana, noma isenzo esenziwe kubo, oshade naye uzodedela inkinga uma sekudingidwe ngayo. Imibhangqwana ejabulayo nayo ifunda ukuxhuma kabusha ngemuva kwengxabano ukwenza inqubo yokuxolelana ibe lula kakhulu.
5. Usuku lwasebusuku luyisisekelo
Ukwaneliseka emshadweni kuyanda lapho imibhangqwana ichitha isikhathi sayo sokuphumula ndawonye. Kungakho imibhangqwana enesibikezelo sokuphila emshadweni ojabulayo ingagcini ngobusuku bosuku. Lolu suku lokuma, olwenziwa kanye noma ngaphezulu ngenyanga, luyindlela enhle yokuthi imibhangqwana ichithe isikhathi ndawonye. Usuku lwasebusuku lunikeza imibhangqwana ithuba lokuhlela imicimbi ekhethekile noma ukumangaza abashade nabo ngezinto abangazithanda. Ubusuku lapho bengabuyela khona ukuthi kwakunjani ngenkathi bethandana kuqala futhi bakhe imakhemikhali ethile yezocansi. Ukuze sazane sonke futhi.
Ukuba nosuku lwasebusuku oluhleliwe kumayelana nokugcina uthando lwakho luphilile. Kuhle futhi kubazali abanezingane ezincane ezibheke ukuchitha isikhathi sodwa ndawonye lapho zingakwazi khona ukunakekelana. Ukwenza umlingani wakho eze kuqala empilweni yakho kuyinto enkulu ekutheni ubuhlobo bakho buzophumelela noma cha.
6. Uyakwazi ukulwa nokulingana
Ukungezwani nakanjani kuzokwenzeka kunoma imuphi umshado, kepha yindlela oyisingatha ngayo ezokhuluma kabanzi ngobudlelwano bakho. Imibhangqwana ejabulayo ixoxa ngezinhlonipho futhi isebenzisa izingxabano njengesikhuthazi sokuxazulula inkinga.
Labo abalwa nokulingana abayihoxisi noma bayilulaze inkinga. Esikhundleni salokho, balalela ngesineke, bakhombise inhlonipho, bahlale esihlokweni, futhi abesabi ukuxolisa uma ngabe benze iphutha (futhi kwesinye isikhathi noma bengekho.)
Abashadikazi abangajabule basebenzisa ingxabano njengethuba lokuhlasela ngomlingiswa ngomlomo, baphendukele ekubizeni amagama, bakhulise okuhlangenwe nakho okulimazayo bakudala, futhi bagxile kakhulu ekushayeni oshade naye kunokuxazulula izingqinamba zabo.
7. Uyamthanda owakwakho
Ezweni elihle, umlingani wakho womshado futhi ungumngane wakho omkhulu. Lesi futhi yisibalo esisebenza njengesibikezelo esihle sempilo yomshado ojabulisayo. Kusebenza ngaphandle kokusho ukuthi uma ushade nomlingani wakho, ingabe uyabathanda. Kodwa izimpawu zokutshela ukuhlala ndawonye lapho imibhangqwana ithandana ngempela. Lokhu kusho ukuthi awuyena nje ophathina bezothando - ningabangani nani, futhi.
Inkanuko nokuthatheka kungadlulela emshadweni futhi kugeleze emshadweni, kwesinye isikhathi kuze kuphele, kepha inqobo nje uma nithokozela ngobuqotho ukuba nenkampani yomunye nomunye nizohlala ninomunye nomunye.
Lapho ushade nomuntu ofanele, ubudlelwano bakho busebenza nje. Ukuqagela impilo yomshado kungahle kungabi semakhaleni ngaso sonke isikhathi, kepha ngokwenza omunye nomunye abaluleke kakhulu, asekele, asebenzise ukuxhumana okuthembekile, futhi alwe nobulungiswa, nakanjani uzonikeza umshado wakho impumelelo ebonakalayo.