-Delile
- Uthando lukhona ezithweni ezincane
- Musa ukubambelela kokungalungile
- Musa ukuthathelana phansi
- Ukuzinakekela kuqala ukuze ubonakale njengomlingani ongcono kakhulu ongaba yikho
- Dlala ngamandla akho
- Ukuphikisana
- Kodwa ungalali uthukuthele
- Ucansi. Ungayinaki
Ezweni lanamuhla lanamuhla kwesinye isikhathi sikhukhula eceleni ukuhlakanipha okudala, sicabanga ukuthi esikubona ku-intanethi kuhlobene kakhulu, kuyakhanya kakhulu, kuhambisana kakhulu nokuthanda izinto zesimanje.
Kepha ama-adage amadala ahlala esikweni elijwayelekile ngesizathu: asenengqondo. Izeluleko ezinikezwe izizukulwane ngezizukulwane zihlala zinempilo ngoba zikhuluma nathi nezimo zethu. Njengoba isisho sithi, ‘akukho okusha phansi kwelanga’, futhi lokho kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi njengoba kusebenza emshadweni.
Abantu kuyo yonke iminyaka baye bashada ngezizathu ezifanayo: ukuhlanganisa ubuso nobuso nalowo muntu okhethekile othathe inhliziyo, ingqondo nomphefumulo wakho.
Ake sibheke ezinye zezeluleko zomshado eziqhubeke emashumini eminyaka, futhi zisasebenza namuhla njengoba zazinjalo eminyakeni eyikhulu eyedlule. Ngoba ngenkathi i-hemlines nezitayela zezicathulo zishintsha, izisekelo zothando azishintshi.
Uthando lukhona ezithweni ezincane
Amabhayisikobho asenza sicabange ukuthi ngaphandle kokuthi uthando lukhonjiswe ngezenzo ezinkulu ezinkulu, alulona uthando ngempela.Mangaki amafilimu asikhombisa iziphakamiso zemishado ezenziwe ngohlelo lwe-intercom, noma i- "Ngiyakuthanda, Irene" ezisakazwa phezu kweJumbotron emdlalweni we-baseball?
Kepha imibhangqwana ejabule eshade isikhathi eside iyalazi leli qiniso, yizinto ezincane zansuku zonke ozenzela umlingani wakho ezikhombisa futhi ziqinisa uthando lwenu.
Kusukela ekulungiseleni inkomishi yakhe yekhofi ngendlela ayithanda ngayo ekuseni, kuya ekubhaleni kwakhe isimemezelo asithandayo “ngoba”.
Lezi zinhle ezincane zinikeza oshade naye i-hormone ye-hormone dopamine ezwa kahle, edala leyo mpendulo ejabulisayo, ibakhumbuze ukuthi ungumuntu okhethekile ngempela.
Musa ukubambelela kokungalungile
Abashadikazi asebekhulile bazokutshela ukuthi imfihlo yobudlelwano babo obude yilokhoabakaze bagxile ezintweni ezincane ezibakhathazayo ngomlingani wabo.
Esikhundleni salokho, bagxila kuzo zonke izinto ezinhle abazibonayo. Ngakho-ke lapho uqala ukukhononda ngoba oshade naye wakhohlwa ukuhambisa kabusha lo mkhawulo futhi, beka lokho eceleni bese ukhumbula ukuthi uyakwazi ukudlala nezingane nokukhuluma i-baseball nobaba wakho.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi awudingi ukuletha udaba olucasulayo, kepha vele ungachithi ubusuku kulo. I-“O, s'thandwa, elula nje, singaluthola uhlelo ukuze ukukhishwa kabusha kukhishwe ngesikhathi?” uzokwenza.
Musa ukuthathelana phansi
Abantu bayathanda ukwaziswa.
Oshade naye uyayithanda lapho ezizwa ebonwa, ezwa futhi ehlonishwa. Ngakho-ke zinike isikhathi usuku ngalunye ukuzwakalisa ukubonga kubo.
Ukusuka ekubabongeni ngokuba wusizo olungaka endlini ngokubatshela ukuthi ukujabulele kakhulu ukushada nabo, akumele kube inkulumo enkulu. Amagama ambalwa nje azosiza kakhulu ekugcineni ilangabi lothando livutha.
Ukuzinakekela kuqala ukuze ubonakale njengomlingani ongcono kakhulu ongaba yikho
Imibhangqwana emikhulu iyazi ukuthi ihle kakhulu futhi ihlukene ngokwehlukana.
Oshade naye akayena umqeqeshi wakho, umelaphi wakho, noma udokotela wakho. Uma udinga usizo lokuxazulula noma yiziphi izinkinga zempilo yengqondo, bheka umeluleki onguchwepheshe.
Uma udinga inkuthazo ethile yokuthola ukuma kahle noma ukunciphisa umzimba, letha uchwepheshe wangaphandle.
Iphuzu ukuthi ufuna ukuba ngumuntu ongcono kakhulu kuwe ukuze usebenze njengomuntu omdala olinganiselayo ngokomongo wobudlelwano bakho. Lokhu kusho ukwenza okusemandleni ukuze uzizwe ukhululekile ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba. Impilo yakho nempilo yezithandani zakho kuwufanele umsebenzi.
Dlala ngamandla akho
Imibhangqwana eminingi yanamuhla icabanga ukuthi yonke into kufanele ilingane ngo-100% emshadweni. Amahora okusebenza, imisebenzi yokunakekela izingane, ezezimali, kepha lokhu akubheki amandla nobuthakathaka bomuntu siqu.
Yenza ukuhlolwa kweqiniso kwamaphuzu aqinile womunye nomunye.
Uma kunengqondo kangcono ukuthi omunye wenu asebenze amahora amaningi ukuze athuthukise umsebenzi kanti omunye ethatha imithwalo yemfanelo yasendlini, hambani nalokho. Uma nje nobabili nijabule futhi nivumelana ngokusethwa, alikho ihlazo ekungayihlukanisi yonke imininingwane phakathi nendawo.
Ukuphikisana
Yebo, phikisana. Ungase ucabange ukuthi ukuphikisana kuwuphawu olubi emshadweni.
CAma-ouples axabanayo empeleni athandana kakhulu kunemibhangqwana ebambe konke.
Ngakho-ke qhubeka ungene ezingxabanweni ezikhiqizayo lapho wena noshade naye ningaboni ngaso linye. Le yindlela osebenza ngayo izinto. Le yindlela oqinisa ngayo isibopho sakho somshado. Lapho umbhangqwana uzizwa ukhululekile ngokwanele ukukhipha amagilavu bese wehla futhi ungcolile, kusho ukuthi bathembana ukuthi bangabantu babo bangempela futhi bangaliwa noma balahlwe.
Uma nje impikiswano ilungile futhi ikhiqiza, unganqikazi ukuphakamisa amazwi akho ngezikhathi ezithile.
Kodwa ungalali uthukuthele
Qiniseka ukuthi leyo ngxabano iyaxazululwa ngaphambi kokushaya i-hay. Ukulala uthukuthele kuzoqinisekisa ukulala okubi ebusuku.
Ngakho-ke funa isixazululo, ukuqabula nokwenza izimonyo. Ucansi lwangemuva kokulwa lunokuthile okuthile kulo, akunjalo?
Ucansi. Ungayinaki
Akulona iqiniso ukuthi ukushisa kocansi kuyafa eminyakeni edlule.
Kunezindlela eziningi kakhulu zokugcina amazinga akho esifiso eqhubeka, noma okungenani unxephezela ngokufaka okungenakugwemeka ku-libido. Okokuqala, yazi ukuthi kuzoba nezikhathi lapho ungazizwa uthanda ukukwenza, futhi lokho kuvamile. Lokhu kungafaka lapho izingane zisencane lapho omunye wenu noma nobabili nigula, izinkinga zomndeni nabazali, noma ukuba matasa nje okuvamile.
Kepha yenza umzamo wokugcina impilo yothando iphila. Hambani niyolala ndawonye. Snuggle noma ngabe akuholeli kwezocansi. Thatha ithuba lezikhathi ezingenazo izingane zokuya ocansini njengoba wenza ezinsukwini zokuqala. Futhi, lapho izingane sezibalekile esidlekeni, qhubeka ngemibono emisha (amathoyizi wezocansi, ukudlala indima, iphupho).
Impilo emnandi yezocansi ingenye yezindlela ezinamandla kakhulu zobudlelwano ongaba nazo.
Kukugcina usondelene futhi usondelene futhi kukukhumbuza ngesinye sezizathu zokuthi ukhethe lowo mlingani wakho omuhle.