-Delile
- Ukuncelisa ibele
- Lala
- Ukuhlelwa kabusha kwengqondo / izindima ezintsha
- Izinkinga ebudlelwaneni
- Ukwenza ngcono impilo yakho yezocansi ngemuva kokubeletha
Ngisanda kulalela i-podcast emayelana nomama nobaba nekhefu lokubeletha / lobaba kanye nempilo yezocansi. Bekuyisiqephu esiveza ukuthi lungaba nzima kanjani ucansi ngemuva kokubeletha.
Imibhangqwana eminingi ibuyele kuyo ngaphambi kokuba ingane yayo iphendule eyodwa, kepha kwabanye, kungathatha isikhashana.
Kwesinye isikhathi isizathu sokuya ocansini okuphansi noma ukungafisi ukusondelana ukungakwazi ukuthola amandla akho - ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba.
Okokuqala nokubaluleke kakhulu, udinga ukwazi ukuthi impilo yezocansi ngemuva kwengane ingaba yinto ekhohlisayo. Okukusebenzele unyaka owedlule ngeke kusebenze manje. Futhi okusebenzela umyeni wakho ngeke kukusebenzele. Ubulili buhlukile, futhi bunokuphila okuncane.
Mina, ngokwami, bengisemakhasini amathathu okubeletha, futhi ulwazi lwami lwezocansi beluhlukile njalo.
Uma ngikhuluma nabanye besifazane, bavame ukuhlanganyela ukuthi nabo bathole okwenzeka kubo ukuze kushintshe.
Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ucansi lwethu luthinteka yizici eziningi ezahlukahlukene empilweni yethu yonke, futhi lukhulu kakhulu futhi alunakufakwa kahle emabhokisini kungakhathalekile ukuthi singathanda kangakanani lokho.
Ngibhale izizathu ezine ezijwayelekile zokushayela ocansini okuphansi kwabesifazane nakwabesilisa, okubangela ukungabi nokusondelana ngemuva kwengane, kepha kukhona nezinye izinto ezingathinta impilo yakho yezocansi.
Ngicela wazi ukuthi ngithe “can shintsha ”; mhlawumbe inkanuko yakho noma idrayivu yakho yocansi ayithinteki, noma mhlawumbe umphumela muhle!
Buka futhi:
Ukuncelisa ibele
Lapho uncelisa ingane yakho ibele, amazinga akho e-prolactin akhula kakhulu. Lawa mazinga aze alinganiswa nokuthi aphakeme emadodeni asekhefini lobaba.
Futhi, kutholakala emadodeni ngemuva nje kwe-ejaculation / orgasm futhi kukholakala ukuthi yilokho okumenza adinge ikhefu elincane ngaphambi kokulungela okuningi.
Iprolactin inciphisa ngokuzenzakalela inkanuko yezocansi, ngaleyo ndlela igqugquzela idrayivu yocansi ephansi kumyeni wakho. Yebo, uMama Wemvelo uyaganga!
Ukuqala ukuzala ngqo ngemuva kokubeletha kungahle kungabi yinto ehlakaniphile ukuyenza uma uhlala ku-Stone Age, ngakho-ke yep, kulokhu, umqondo wezinto eziphilayo awunakuphikiswa.
Lala
Lapho ubusuku bokulala okuphukile buphenduka izinyanga zokulala okuphukile - noma ukungabikho kobuthongo - lokhu kuqala ukukukhathaza.
Kufana ne-akhawunti yakho yasebhange onayo ngokweqile okukhulu, futhi ngokungazelelwe ivele igcwele izinombolo ezibomvu, futhi umeluleki wakho wezezimali ubheke kuwe, ukhathazeke kakhulu.
Ake ngithi nje: yebo, kukhona okuzokwenzeka enkanukweni yakho nasempilweni yakho yezocansi. Amandla ayingcosana, futhi ngokwethembeka, ungathanda ukulala.
Ingqondo yakho iyagijima; amakhono akho okuqonda aqala 'amandla phansi,' kuba nzima kuwe ukuthi uhlale ugxile, futhi okufunayo ngempela-ngempela ukulala.
Ufuna nje ukuvala iso ngaphambi kokuba ingane yakho iphinde ivuke futhi iqale ukufuna izinto kuwe.
Ukulala kubalulekile ngobuhlanya enhlalakahleni jikelele nasempilweni yabantu. Futhi sesivele siyazi ukuthi inhlalakahle jikelele kanye nempilo kubalulekile uma ufuna ukuba nempilo esebenza kahle futhi yanelise ngokocansi.
Ngakho-ke - uma ukhetha ukulala futhi uma ungenawo amandla akho, noma kuwumcabango omuhle: Siyakwamukela ekilabhini labazali abakhathele, lokhu kujwayelekile.
Ukuhlelwa kabusha kwengqondo / izindima ezintsha
Lapho uba abazali (futhi, mhlawumbe), kwenzeka okuthile kuwe njengomuntu. Impela, uma kuyingane yakho yesi-5, uzozizwa ushintshe kancane kunengane yakho yokuqala.
Kodwa-ke, lokho okushiwoyo: ukuba umzali (futhi) kuhlale kukusha, futhi kuzohlala kushintsha ubudlelwano nemilaza yomndeni. Nawe.
Ngakho-ke, ukuphinda uhlobise ingqondo kuzokwenzeka, futhi kungenzeka kukukhathale, kubangele ukushayela okuphansi kocansi.
Ikakhulukazi, uma ukuthola izindima ezintsha njengomama noma ubaba kuyinselele, kuzoqala ukuthinta isimo sakho sengqondo.
Ukuba nokusabela ekuzalweni ngokuqinisekile akuyona into engavamile. Empeleni, kuvame kakhulu kunalokho abazali abaningi abasha abavame ukukukholelwa, futhi yilokho engikutholayo noma yinini lapho ngibamba izingxoxo zabazali abasha emaqenjini wabazali (ahlelwe idolobha engihlala kulo).
Lapho i-psyche 'isebenza isikhathi esengeziwe,' impilo yezocansi kuyaqabukela ibe yinto ephambili kuqala.
Izinkinga ebudlelwaneni
"Uma ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuthi uzohlukanisa, yiba nengane nje" kusho umelaphi wezithandani ezifundweni engake ngazifunda. Futhi ngenkathi lokhu kungahle kube yiqiniso, kuyinto encane.
Kodwa-ke, uma sibheka izibalo zesehlukaniso, kuyasikhombisa ukuthi ubudlelwano buhlukana lapho abancane beza emhlabeni.
Ukuba nokukhulisa izingane kunzima impela, futhi kungumsebenzi omningi owengeziwe. Futhi yize kukuhle, hhayi yonke imibhangqwana - kude - iyenze isebenze.
Yilapho izinselelo ebudlelwaneni - nanoma yiziphi ezinye izinselelo - zizoqala ukubonakala.
Kungenzeka ukuthi umlingani wakho akalungile ekubambisaneni ngaphansi kwengcindezi futhi lapho bengalali kahle? Noma mhlawumbe ukugxekwa kuyizwi elikhulu kakhulu?
Noma mhlawumbe uzithola ulala nefindo esiswini sakho kaningi kaningi? Mhlawumbe izinto nje ze-snowball bese kuba nzima ukukhuluma ngazo? Mhlawumbe ...?
Izinkinga ebudlelwaneni ziyicala eliqinisekile uma kukhulunywa ngedrayivu yocansi ephansi.
Kujwayelekile ukuhlangabezana nezinselelo - kuyacasula njengoba kunjalo - kepha khumbula ukuthi kunezinto eziningi ongazenza ukudala ukuxhumana okungcono komunye nomunye yize kunzima. Uma kunjalo, yilokho okufunayo.
Ukwenza ngcono impilo yakho yezocansi ngemuva kokubeletha
Nazi izinto ezi-3 ongazenza ukulwa ne-sex drive yakho ngemuva kokubeletha:
1. Yamukela ukuthi isikhathi esithile, kunje ukuthi izinto zinjani
Khumbula ukuthi kujwayelekile futhi kunengqondo impela. Uma ungathola izizathu - okungukuthi, uma wazi ukuthi kuyinkinga yokulala, mhlawumbe wena nomlingani wakho ningasebenzela ekuphumuleni okuningi ukuze nisebenze ngokwengeziwe phakathi nosuku.
Ngokuyinhloko, isimo sokwamukela kanye nelukuluku umqondo omuhle lapha.
Kukancane kakhulu lapho singakushintsha lokho esenqaba ukukwamukela. Futhi-ke, uma ufuna ukuthi idrayivu yakho yocansi ephansi iguquke, qala ngokwamukela isimo samanje sezindaba bese kuthi, kusuka lapha, usebenze nomlingani wakho ekwakheni ushintsho.
2. Hlela ukusondelana futhi uzinikeze usizo
Uma ukhona ngilahlekelwe ukusondelana ngokomzimba, bese uhlela umhlangano wozakwethu - wazi kahle ukuthi lokhu kungaphazanyiswa ingane yakho, kepha-ke uzovele uhlele umhlangano omusha.
Uma uyilangazelela, ningahlikihla (oh dear, what a cliché but oh-my, it feels so nice and it prods at the sexual a bit also) noma ungavele uqale ngokusondela futhi uhambe ze umbhede futhi wenze isikhathi eside njengoba uthanda.
Lokhu kungahle kube kuningi kini bafana, noma mhlawumbe nifisa ukuqhubekisela phambili izinto.
Uma uzizwa unesibindi, ungenza ukusikhipha ngokocansi noma unikeze ukwaneliseka ngokocansi - uma ngabe yilokho okufisayo. Mhlawumbe bhekani ifilimu evusa inkanuko noma nilalele indaba evusa inkanuko ndawonye noma mhlawumbe nidlale umdlalo ovusa inkanuko.
3. Thola usizo lokulungisa okudinga ukulungiswa
Uma usuqinisekile ukuthi "okuthile" kudinga ukunakekelwa okwengeziwe futhi mhlawumbe udinga usizo oluthile nge-sex drive yakho ephansi, bese usabela kukho.
Uma lokhu kuyindlela yokuphendula ngemuva kokubeletha, finyelela. Uma ulwa nezinkinga zobudlelwano, bheka ukuthi ngubani ongakusiza.
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi kuyaqabukela ukuthi lezi zinto zizenzele zona, futhi yingakho nizihlukumeza ngokungathathi izinyathelo ngokushesha.
Ngaphandle kwezinyathelo ezimbalwa zokuqala uzizwa unzima futhi uyantengantenga, uqinisekisiwe ukuthi, mhlawumbe ezinyangeni ezi-3-6 zesikhathi, uzibonge ngokwenza kwakho okuthile. Uma usahlabe ikhefu lokuyobeletha, umhlengikazi uvame ukugcwala izinsizakusebenza nemibono yokuthi ungaluthola kanjani usizo oludingayo nge-sex drive yakho ephansi.
Iseluleko sikaMaj: Uma impilo yakho yezocansi idlala ngesikhathi sekhefu lokubeletha, ngicela wazi ukuthi lokhu kujwayelekile, futhi imibhangqwana eminingi ngokwemvelo 'ibuyele kuyo' kungakapheli unyaka wokuqala wokuphila kwengane.