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Lapho kuvela ithuba lokucabanga ngomshado wakho - gijima nalo. Izingcaphuno zomshado zikukhumbuza ukuthi kunjani ukuthandana nokuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukumelana neziphepho eziza nomshado, ulinde uthingo ngakolunye uhlangothi.
Lapho ufunda lezi zingcaphuno zothando, cabanga ngokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba sothandweni, ukuthi ukuzibophezela kusho ukuthini kuwe nakumlingani wakho, nangezithiyo, izinselelo, kanye nempumelelo eniyenzile ndawonye njengombhangqwana.
Izingcaphuno zomshado zothando ziyizicucu ezinhle zeseluleko ezikuvumela ukuba uzindle ngomshado wakho, ngokuhle noma ngokubi. Futhi njengoba izingcaphuno imvamisa umusho kuphela, kulula ukuzikhumbula nokuzindla ngazo.
Uma ufuna "Ngiyakuthanda izingcaphuno eziningi kakhulu", nazi izingcaphuno ezinhle kakhulu ngothando emshadweni ezizokwenza ucabange.
Izingcaphuno ngokuthandana
Izingcaphuno zothando ezinamandla zingakushukumisela ekucabangeni ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho bumi kuphi ngempela. Izingcaphuno zothando olujulile zingashiya umthelela omuhle ohlala njalo emshadweni wakho. Nansi enye yezingcaphuno zothando ezinhle kakhulu ozohlangana nazo. 
Izingcaphuno ezinethemba ngothando nempilo kufanele zifundwe futhi zisatshalaliswe ukugxilisa ukholo othandweni oluya luphela kulezi zinsuku. Nasi isicaphuno “sothando” okufanele ungabelani ngaso nomlingani wakho kuphela kodwa nomndeni wakho nabangane.
Ufuna izingcaphuno "yini uthando"? Uthando akuyona nje izimvemvane esiswini, ukushintshana kwezothando nemikhuba yokusondelana enothando. Kungaphezulu kakhulu kwalokho. Uthando lufaka ukholo, ukukhuthazela, nokubekezela. Nayi enye yezingcaphuno zothando ezingenamibandela ezithinta inhliziyo kakhulu ozothola.
Izingcaphuno zempilo efudumele yenhliziyo zingenza umlingo wokukukhumbuza wena nomlingani wakho ukuthi uthando lwe-surreal nobuhle lunjani. Kungaba yisilinganiso esihle "esihle sothando ekuseni" uma usifuna.
Izingcaphuno zothando ezidlalayo nezimnandi zingafaka ukuqhuma kothando nentshisekelo ebudlelwaneni bakho. Kodwa-ke, ukuthola izingcaphuno zothando ezinje kungathatha umzamo omncane. Nayi enye yezingcaphuno zothando ezimfushane ongakujabulela ukuzifunda.
Uthando lweqiniso lusukela ebunganeni obuqinile.Izingcaphuno zothando lweqiniso ezifana nalezi zika-Ann Landers zizokukwenza ubone ukuthi uthando nobungani bufana kanjani.
Uma uhlonipha umuntu ukuthi ungubani ungathandana naye ngokweqiniso. Izingcaphuno zothando nenhlonipho zingakusiza uqonde ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuvumela umlingani wakho abe yibo. Nasi isicaphuni sothando esimnandi esizoletha ukumamatheka ebusweni bakho.
Lapho usunomuntu isikhathi eside kangangokuba uzizwa sengathi ungomunye nomunye, uba yindawo. Izingcaphuno zothando olungunaphakade ezifana nalezi ezingezansi zizokukwenza uzizwe ukugijimela kothando nokuxhumeka okuqinile owabelana nomlingani wakho.
Ngaphambi kokuthi ubheke izingcaphuno "Ngiyakuthanda" kubalulekile ukuthi uqiniseke ukuthi ululungele uthando. Ukucaphuna okuphefumulelwe ngothando olufana nalolu olungezansi kuzokusiza uqonde umehluko phakathi kokuthandana ngezizathu ezifanele nokuthandana ngezizathu ezingalungile.
Izingcaphuno zothando ezidumile zingase zizwakale njengezinhlobo ezithile, noma kunjalo, azikalahli ukubaluleka kwazo. Izilinganiso zikaNicholas Sparks yizintandokazi zesikhathi sonke kubathandi bezinoveli zothando. Nayi enye yezingcaphuno ezidume kakhulu ngothando olwenziwe nguye.
Ngaphambi kokuthi ubheke "izingcaphuno zothando" kufanele unikeze "izingcaphuno zothando lwakho" zifunde. Yilapho uzithanda wena kuphela lapho ungathola khona uthando lweqiniso. Uthando alugcini nje ngokuthandana nezimbali, uzophinde uhlangane nezinselelo kanye nokuqaqanjelwa izinhliziyo endleleni. Izingcaphuno "Zothando zibuhlungu" zingakuphulukisa ekuhluphekeni kwenhliziyo futhi zikukhuthaze ukuthi uye phambili. Funda izingcaphuno zokuthula nothando uma uzizwa uphindisela futhi uziphindiselela. Inzondo ayisoze yathela.
Nayi ingcaphuno yothando ekhuthazayo ekhombisa amandla abophayo othando. Funda kulesi sicaphuno sothando esihle nesifushane esingakhuthaza wena noshade naye ukuba nisondele, ngokuxubana nikuhlanganise isikhala somuntu ngamunye sibe sinye.
Ukuba sothandweni yisimo esijabulisa kakhulu, lapho ungeke ulinde ukuvuka usuku ngalunye wazi ukuthi unomlingani omuhle, ozoba seqenjini elifanayo nawe. Funda futhi wabelane ngakho nomlingani wakho ekuseni bese ubuka ukumamatheka okukhazimulayo kusabalala ebusweni babo.
Isilinganiso esinamandla sothando esifingqa konke ngamagama ambalwa nje. Umhlaba ujabulise kakhulu, uzolile futhi ujabulisa ngasikhathi sinye uma ukunye.
Khombisa oshade naye ukuthi uthando lwakho luqine kangakanani. Lesi sicaphuna sothando esinamandla sigubha imizwa yokuthanda nokwanga umlingani wakho ngazo zonke izinsumpa, ubuthakathaka nobuthakathaka babo.
Zimbalwa izinto ezifana nothando ezingaphatheki. I-potion yothando iyinhlanganisela ekhanda yokuzinikela okungantengantengi nokuthanda okungenakuqhathaniswa, intshisekelo, nemizwelo. Funda kulesi silinganiso sothando olunomoya opholile nomlingani wakho futhi uzibuke zigcwele imizwa engalawuleki.
Lesi sicaphuno sothando sikhuluma ngokubeka injabulo nenhlalakahle yomlingani wakho ngaphezu kweyakho. Uthando olunobugovu luhlala isikhashana, uthando lungumhlatshelo emvelweni futhi isithandwa seqiniso asisoze sangcolisa umuzwa omuhle nangomcabango omubi.
Amandla enkulumo awakwazi ukudwetshwa ngokwanele ebuhlotsheni. Ukuthula ebudlelwaneni kungaphonsa isikhali phakathi kwezinyoni zothando. Ungazibambi ekuhlanganyeleni imizwa yakho esuka enhliziyweni ngento oyithandayo. Lesi silinganiso sothando kufanele sikukhuthaze ukuthi utshele isithandwa sakho ukuthi bathandwa futhi baziswa ngokujule kangakanani.
Umtshela kanjani oshade naye ukuthi bayikho konke obukade uphupha ngakho? Vuselela imizwa eshukumisayo yothando empilweni yakho yothando ngalesi sisho sothando.
Uthando lweqiniso lusukela endaweni yokuzethemba hhayi ekuvikelekeni. Fakazela uthando lwakho olungapheli kumlingani wakho bese ubatshela ukuthi uvikeleke kangakanani kusikhala sakho sekhanda ngalesi silinganiso sothando esiveza umuzwa wothando ozolile futhi owakhiwe, ongenakho ukungaqiniseki okuyisiphithiphithi.
Ingabe uthando lungabalwa? kahle, ngokusobala kungaba njalo. Yenza umlingani wakho awe ngenxa yokusika kwakho ngesilinganiso sothando esincishiswe ngokweqile!
Ngakho-ke, wonke umuntu ubelokhu ekutshela ukuthi ungumgcini! Lesi silinganiso sothando sikutshela ukuthi ubambelele ngokuqinile kulo muntu omuhle empilweni yakho. Khumbula lesi silinganiso sothando lapho ubudlelwano bakho bufika emanzini angenanjongo ngoba awufuni igagasi elinamandla lokunyakazisa isisekelo sobudlelwano bakho nomlingani omthanda ngokweqiniso, futhi okuthandayo enyangeni nasemuva!
Swarm othandekayo wakho ngesimemezelo sothando, uthando, nokuzinikela ngalesi sisho sothando esingokomzwelo esizokwenza oshade naye azizwe njengomuntu onenhlanhla kakhulu ukuhamba ebusweni bomhlaba!
Ezothando zodwa azikwazi ukugcina ubuhlobo obujabulisayo. Ubungane nomlingani wakho yikhona okuzokusiza ukwazi ukubhekana neziphepho ndawonye, nijabulelane futhi nibe isifuba somunye nomunye noma sekutheni. Funda kule quote okuzoba yisikhumbuzo esimnene kini sobabili sokuba nobungane kuze kube phakade.
Lapho ama-chips esehlile futhi umlingani wakho ukude, ubatshela kanjani ngobuhlungu obuklebhula bokuhlukana nomphefumulo wakho? Lesi sicaphuno sithwebula ubuhlungu benhliziyo ekhanyayo.
Ukuthanda nokwenza umlingani wakho abuyisele imizwa efanayo ngamandla afanayo kuyinjabulo engaziwa. Vulela isimo sakho senjabulo kumlingani wakho ngalesi silinganiso sothando esijabulisayo esingabuzwa ukuthi imuphi umphefumulo ojabulayo othandweni uzizwa kanjani.
Uyini umcebo oligugu ngempela? Umngane omkhulu noma umlingani othandana naye? Kuthiwani uma ushaye i-jackpot eyigugu nomlingani ophindeka kabili njengo-3 am buddy nesithandwa sami? Yiya kubo futhi uzwakalise ukubonga kwakho ngosizo lwalesi silinganiso esifaka injabulo yothando nobungane obusongwe baba munye. 
Uthando akusilo umbhede wama roses. Uma umthanda ngokweqiniso umuntu awumfulatheli lapho kuvela uhlangothi lwabo olungathandeki. Ukhombisa uthando lwakho olungapheli ngokuthatha uhlangothi lwabo olubi kunawo wonke amagxathu akho, ngokuzithandela njengoba wamukele uhlangothi lwabo oluhle kakhulu. Lesi sicaphuna esinamandla sithwebula umnyombo wothando olungantengantengi.
Ukuzithanda luhlobo lothando oluhamba phambili futhi uma uzithanda ngokweqiniso, awusoze wavula indlela yomlingani empilweni yakho, ongakuphathi ngothando, ngenhlonipho nangobumnene. Lesi sicaphuna sothando esinamandla sizokushukumisela ekwamukeleni noma yini ngaphandle kokuphathwa okufanelekile ebudlelwaneni.
Ukuncama uthando ngoba woniwe ebudlelwaneni? Ungamane uphele amandla! Ithemba liyantanta futhi lesi sicaphuno yilokho okufanele ukufunde futhi wazi ukuthi uzokwakha ukuxhumana okunengqondo futhi uthandwe ngumlingani oqotho ephutheni njengoba unjalo.
Uyangithanda, akangithandi? Ukudonsa phakathi kwesimo sokuqiniseka ukuthi i-crush yakho ikuthanda futhi nesimo senkinga lapho unokungabaza khona? Iyiphi indlela engcono yokukhanyisa isimo esinjalo 'sezindaba' kunokufunda nokuhleka kanye nalesi silinganiso sothando esihlekisayo.
Lapho unakekela inhliziyo ephukile bese uhlangana nomuntu onenhliziyo ebuhlungu futhi uthole ukuxhumana okubophayo komunye nomunye, ungahamba kahle ukuthola izinga elisha lenjabulo nothando ndawonye. Lesi silinganiso sihlanganisa amandla okuphulukisa othando angakusivusa wena nomlingani wakho njengoba kungekho okunye.
Sway umlingani wakho ngokusho ukuthi uzibophezele ekubathandeni noma ngabe ubhekene nezilingo nezinsizi. Faka amandla amakhulu othando lweqiniso ebuhlotsheni bakho nalesi silinganiso sothando esinamandla.
Ngakho-ke, umlingani wakho angenza njengengane ekhule kakhulu kwesinye isikhathi, kepha uthola ukuthi kuyathandeka yize uzama kanzima ukuzenza ucasukile. Qhubeka ubatshele ukuthi yize bebancane kakhulu, awukwazi ukuyeka ukubaphusha. Lesi sisho sothando esihlekisayo sisho konke.
Ukugona kungumuzwa omuhle kunayo yonke emhlabeni, okwesibili kuya kokunye, othi uyathandwa futhi uyaziswa. Tshela umlingani wakho ukuthi uncibilika kanjani ezandleni zabo futhi uzizwe sengathi ufinyelele endaweni ephephile lapho bekugona ngokufudumele.
Ekhaya kulapho inhliziyo ikhona. Letha i-bonhomie ngalesi sicaphuno esihle esibonisa uthando, uthando kanye nezibopho zomndeni ngamagama ambalwa nje amahle ahlanganiswe ndawonye. 
Uthando alwazi mingcele. Akunasizathu. Khombisa abanye abashiye izitabane futhi bagubhe umsangano othandweni ngalesi silinganiso sothando esimnandi esizokwenza ufune ukugonana futhi kaninginingi.
Uma ubukhona bomlingani wakho kungumoya ongaphansi kwamaphiko akho, batshele ukuthi ujabula kanjani lapho bekugeza ngalo lonke uthando lwabo nokuthi kukwenza kanjani ukhuphuke phezulu. Nayi enye yezingcaphuno zothando ezimfushane ongakujabulela ukuzifunda.
Noma impilo ikuphonsela inselelo, ungathola induduzo ezingalweni zothando lomlingani wakho futhi nibhekane neziphepho ndawonye. Nansi enye yezingcaphuno zothando ezithinta inhliziyo ozothola ngokuthola ubuhle empilweni, noma ngabe kukude kakhulu.
Uthando alubizi futhi lesi sicaphuno sothando yikho kanye okudingayo ukuze wabelane ngento yakho eyigugu yothando. Izingcaphuno zothando ezinjengalezi ezingezansi zizokwenza uzizwe ukwanda okuqinile kothando onakho enhliziyweni yakho ngomphefumulo wakho.
Uthando luthanda konke. Uthando lunqoba konke. Bungaza umuzwa onqobayo wothando onqoba zonke izingqinamba ngendlela yawo, ngalesi sisho esinamandla sothando esikhuluma ngokuwina yize kunezinselelo eziza nothando lweqiniso.
Lufana kanjani uthando noKhisimusi? Lesi silinganiso sothando sikhombisa ukufana okuhle phakathi kothando noKhisimusi okuthi bobabili bagubhe imizwa yokupha, yokwabelana nokuletha injabulo ezimpilweni.
Awudingi ukuhlanganisa amagama amnandi kakhulu ndawonye noma ucule i-symphony ecacile kumlingani wakho ukuze usho imizwelo yakho esuka enhliziyweni. Lesi silinganiso sothando siphakamisa ubhontshisi ekulula kothando. Lesi sicaphuno sothando esikhuthazayo sizokukhuthaza ukuthi usho izinto koshade naye njengoba zinjalo, ngaphandle kokubambana nenselelo yokuzwakala uphelele.
Uthando lwenza impilo ibe mnandi. Kanjani? Funda kulesi sicaphuno sothando futhi uzokwazi ukuthi uthanda kanjani futhi uthandwe kusabalalisa ukufafaza okunomusa empilweni yakho.
Imali ayikwazi ukuthenga uthando. Imizwa esondelene nothando ingazwakala kuphela futhi ihlangenwe nakho. Lapho ufunda lesi silinganiso sothando, cabanga ngokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba sothandweni.
Lesi silinganiso esihle sothando sithwebula kahle imizwa yesithandwa esithandekile, futhi ungaziqonda naso uma unalowo muntu okhethekile okuphalazelayo, isikhathi ngasinye lapho eza kuwe.
Uma usebudlelwaneni obunothando, wakha imemori yezinkumbulo ezinhle. Nansi enye yezingcaphuno zothando ezinhle kakhulu ozohlangana nazo ngezikhumbuzo oziqoqa ohambweni lwakho lothando.
Ukucaphuna kothando okubhala imizwa enothando yezinhliziyo zangakusasa. Isilinganiso esifanelekile ongabelana ngaso noshade naye lapho ufuna ukubenza bezwe ukujula kothando lwakho.
Ngeke yini kube okuqabulayo ukutshela oshade naye ukuthi baphelele njengabo, nokuthi ubathanda kanjani njengoba benjalo? Isilinganiso esinamandla esizokwenza oshade naye azizwe ekhethekile ngokweqile.
Lapho wazi ukuthi usumtholile lowo, ufisa ukuchitha impilo yakho yonke naye, umemezele uthando lwakho ngokubatshela ukuthi yisinqumo esihle kakhulu empilweni yakho ukuthi uzinikele kubo. Nasi esinye sezilinganiso zothando ezithinta inhliziyo ozothola.
Lapho kuluthando lweqiniso, amandla nesibindi kuyalandela nje. Tshela oshade naye ukuthi ujabule kangakanani ukubathanda futhi uthandwe futhi ngolaka olufanayo ngokunikezela lesi silinganiso sothando kubo.
Uma uzithola udida ukuthandana nothando, nasi isicaphuno esiqondayo esizosusa umehluko phakathi kwemigqa efiphele phakathi kothando nezothando.
Uthando ludlula amandla, njalo. Lesi silinganiso sothando sigubha amandla othando nokuthula okulethayo.
Uma ukhetha ukuthanda, kudinga ukuthi wenze ikholi yokwahlulela efanele. Fakani ukuqhuma kwamandla ebuhlotsheni benu ngokufunda kulesi sicaphuno esikhuthazayo ndawonye ngokuzibophezela nezethembiso ohlose ukuzigcina.
Nasi isithombe esihle somshado wothando esizoletha ukumamatheka ebusweni bomlingani wakho.
Umenza kanjani umlingani wakho ukuthi angene enhliziyweni yakho egcwele uthando nokubathanda. Yebo, lesi silinganiso sothando kufanele senze ubuqili! Nasi isicaphuno “sothando” okufanele usabe nomlingani wakho futhi nibabuke bethokoza!
