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- 1. Akukho ukukhangana ngokomzimba
- 2. Hhayi ukuzenzakalela
- 3. Ukucindezeleka okungapheli
- 4. Izinkinga zempilo
- 5. Ukungaboni ngaso linye
Konke kuhamba kahle ngokungazelelwe umlilo awusekho. Kwakunesikhathi lapho, lapho nina nobabili babemane nibukane bese kunzima ukumela ugesi owawungena emithanjeni yakho. Benivumelana ngakho konke. Noma nini lapho wawuseduze nabanye, i-chemistry yakho yayizokhanyisa igumbi. Benicabanga usuku lonke. Kepha usike kuze kube manje, uqhubeka ubheka ifoni yakho futhi ayikhali kaningi. Kwenzenjani?
Ngezansi kunezinto ezinhlanu ezidala ukulahlekelwa ukusondelana ngokomzwelo emadodeni.
1. Akukho ukukhangana ngokomzimba
Imizimba yethu iyashintsha njengoba indlela yethu yokuphila iguquka. Uma indlela yakho yokuphila isihlala phansi, khona-ke kungenzeka ukuthi uzuze amakhilogremu ambalwa. Abanye abashade abakuboni njengokuyinto enkulu lapho abanye bacabanga ukuthi kuyisigebengu esivumelanayo. Khuluma ngayo noshade naye ngaphandle kokuzivikela. Unkosikazi wabuza umyeni wakhe, "Ngesikhathi sihlangana okokuqala, yini oyithole ikhanga kakhulu ngami, ubuntu bami noma ubuhlakani bami?" Umyeni uphendule wathi, “Ngikubonile uhamba ulwandle. Ubushisa. Ngemuva kokukwazi, ngase ngithanda ubuchopho bakho. Angibubonanga ubuchopho bakho olwandle. ” Ngicabanga ukuthi kuphephile ukusho, kudingeka ukuthi kube nezinga elithile lokuheha ngokomzimba ukugcina ukusondelana ngokomzwelo. Kungumzwelo oyisisekelo wezinhlobo zabantu.
2. Hhayi ukuzenzakalela
Ebudlelwaneni, ukwamukelwa kudlala indima enkulu. Ukuzivumelanisa nezimo kushiya indawo yenu nobabili ukuze nenze amaphutha futhi niwenze abe okuzenzakalelayo, asekelayo, akhuthazayo, futhi abe mnandi. Isibonelo, uma umlingani wakho efika emfushane ngokuhlobisa igumbi, esikhundleni sokukhononda ngokubukeka kwalo kubi. Faka futhi ufafaze upende, wonakalise kakhulu, ngemibala engasile bese ufuthana. Le mahlaya azenzekelayo avumela umlingani wakho azi, akuyona into enkulu. Kungaba khona ukungcola ukuhlanza ngemuva kwalokho kepha ababili bangakwenza ngokushesha kunoyedwa. Dlalani ndawonye. Ukuzenzekelayo kungenza izinto zibe mnandi. Kudingeka indawo ebudlelwaneni ukuze oshade naye enze amaphutha. Kudingeka kube nokuguquguquka kwezinhlangothi zombili ukwenza amaphutha. Lapho kungekho ukuguquguquka kwezinto noma izinto ezizenzekelayo emshadweni, kuba nokulahlekelwa ukusondelana ngokomzwelo emshadweni.
3. Ukucindezeleka okungapheli
Umzimba womuntu ukhipha i-hormone cortisol ekuphenduleni ukucindezeleka. Ukucindezeleka okungapheli kubangela ukucindezeleka futhi ekugcineni kugule ingqondo. Ukucindezeleka kwenza abantu bakhathale futhi kungavumelani. Uma ucindezelekile awukwazi ukuzwa ukusondelana ngokomzwelo. Izindaba ezimnandi ukuthi ukucindezeleka kuyalawuleka. Khomba imbangela ebangela ingcindezi ezimpilweni zakho bese ubhekana nayo ngqo. Uma kuwuchungechunge lwezehlakalo, funda ukuzindla, ukuzivocavoca umzimba, ulalele umculo omnandi, noma ufunde. Yenza okwenza ukhululeke. Ukucindezeleka okungapheli kungadala ukulahlekelwa ukusondelana ngokocansi. Qiniseka ukuthi uphumule akukhona ukugcwala ngokweqile emqondweni okuguqula izinto ezifana notshwala. Zingaholela ezinkingeni zempilo hhayi ekusondelaneni ngokomzwelo.
4. Izinkinga zempilo
Wonke umuntu unezinsuku zokungazizwa kahle ngezikhathi ezithile kodwa lapho kunezinkinga ezinkulu zempilo ezinjengesifo sikashukela, i-lupus, umdlavuza, inhliziyo noma izinkinga zomfutho wegazi ophezulu. Ubunzima bungakhinyabeza umshado wakho. Kungaba nokuhlinzwa, ukuhambisana nokuqokwa kwabadokotela abajwayelekile, ukuthatha imishanguzo njengoba kuchaziwe nokuqapha impilo yakho kungalimaza noma ngubani. Kunzima ukubuka owakwakho ehlupheka ngaphansi kwalezi zimo. Izindaba ezimnandi ukuthi abantu abaningi babhekana ngokuphumelelayo nokugula komlingani wabo futhi banomshado ojabulisa kakhulu. Kungakuhle ngaphansi kwalezi zimo kuthathwe usizo lochwepheshe ngoba, uma izinkinga zingalawulwa, zingadala ukulahlekelwa ukusondelana ngokomzwelo.
5. Ukungaboni ngaso linye
Izimpikiswano eziningi nokungezwani kuphikisana nesisekelo somshado. Funda "ukuyiyeka". Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho imibhangqwana ingavumelani ngodaba oluthile. Vele uvume ukungavumelani bese udlulela entweni elandelayo. Kuyohlale kunento elandelayo ngoba nishadile futhi nihlanganyela izimpilo zenu ndawonye. Kwesinye isikhathi kushuba ingxabano, amagama angakhulunywa angaphinde abuyiselwe emuva. Lezi zinhlobo zezimpikiswano ezibangela ukulahlekelwa ukusondelana ngokomzwelo.
Kubukeka kuphephile ukusho ukuthi ukuntuleka kokusondelana kwamadoda emshadweni kungadalwa ukungakhangi ngokomzimba, ukuntuleka kokuzijabulisa okuzenzekelayo, ukucindezeleka okungapheli, izinkinga zempilo, nokungavumelani nokudumazeka okuningi. Zonke lezi zinto zingalungiswa ukubuyisela ubudlelwano emuva ekwaneliseni ngokomoya. Baningi ochwepheshe abanamalayisense okusiza ngalolu hlobo lwezinkinga.