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Eminyakeni engamashumi amabili nanhlanu bengisebenza nezithandani, ngingasho ngokuzethemba ukuthi iningi lazo livela ngodaba olufanayo. Bonke bathi abakwazi ukuxhumana. Lokho abakushoyo ngempela ukuthi bobabili bazizwa bebodwa. Bazizwa behlukanisiwe. Akulona iqembu. Imvamisa, bangikhombisa lokho ngesikhathi sangempela. Bahlala kusofa wami - imvamisa emaphethelweni ahlukile - futhi bagweme ukubheka iso. Bangibuka esikhundleni sokubheka omunye nomunye. Isizungu nokuphelelwa kwabo yithemba kudala umgodi phakathi kwabo, kubaxoshele kude kunokuba kubasondeze.
Akekho ongena ebudlelwaneni ukuze abe nesizungu. Kungaba umuzwa ongenathemba ngokweqiniso. Sibhalisa ngethemba lokuxhuma kwangempela - lowo muzwa wobunye osusa isizungu sethu ezingeni elijulile, eliphakeme. Lapho lolo xhumo luphukile, sizizwa silahlekile, sidangele futhi sididekile.
Imibhangqwana icabanga ukuthi wonke umuntu unokhiye wesikhiye angakwazi ukusikhetha. Nazi ezinye izindaba ezinhle. Kukhona ukhiye - okhiye abahlanu empeleni!
Ungaqala ukusondela kumlingani wakho namuhla ngokusebenzisa lezi zihluthulelo ezinhlanu zokuxhumana kwezithandani eziphumelelayo.
1. Ilukuluku
Uyazikhumbula lezo zinsuku zokuqala zobudlelwano? Lapho konke kwakusha futhi kujabulisa futhi kukusha? Ingxoxo ibimnandi, i-animated, ithakazelisa. Wawuhlale ulangazelela okwengeziwe. Lokho kungenxa yokuthi wawufuna ukwazi. Ngempela ubufuna ukwazi umuntu ongaphesheya kwetafula kuwe. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ubufuna ukwaziwa. Ngandlela thile phakathi kobudlelwano, leli lukuluku lokwazi. Ngesinye isikhathi - imvamisa, kusenesikhathi - senza izingqondo zethu ngomunye nomunye. Siyazitshela ukuthi sazi konke okumele kwaziwe. Ungaweli kulolu gibe. Esikhundleni salokho, kwenze kube ngumgomo wakho ukuthola phansi kwezinto ngaphandle kokwahlulela. Thola okwengeziwe esikhundleni sokulwa okuningi. Thola okuthile okusha ngomlingani wakho nsuku zonke. Uzomangala ukuthi kuncane kangakanani okwaziyo ngempela. Qala imibuzo yakho ngalo mshwana: Ngisize ngiqonde .... Yisho ngokulangazelela kwangempela futhi uvulele impendulo. Imibuzo ethize ayibalwa!
2. Cisihawu
Ilukuluku ngokwemvelo liholela kuzwela. Ngigcina isithombe sikababa wami etafuleni lami. Esithombeni, ubaba uneminyaka emibili ubudala, uhleli ethangeni likagogo, eqhweba ikhamera. Ngemuva kwesithombe, ugogo ubhale wathi, "URonnie ushaya isandla avalelise kubaba wakhe." Abazali bakababa bahlukanisa lapho eneminyaka emibili. Kuleso sithombe, empeleni uvalelisa ubaba wakhe - indoda angaphinde ayibone. Leso sithombe esibuhlungu singikhumbuza ukuthi ubaba wami wachitha iminyaka yakhe yobudala engenaye. Ukuzimisela kwami ukufuna ukwazi ngendaba kababa kungenza ngibe nozwelo ngaye. Sithola ububele kubantu lapho sikhathazekile ngokuqonda ubuhlungu babo.
3. Communication
Uma sesisungule indawo ephephile nenozwelo, ukuxhumana kuza ngokwemvelo. Ubuwazi ukuthi imibhangqwana eminingi ephumelelayo ayivumelani ngakho konke? Eqinisweni, ezintweni eziningi, bavame ukuvumelana ukungavumelani. Kepha baxhumana ngempumelelo, noma kungqubuzana. Ngokusebenzisa ilukuluku lokwakha umoya onozwela, basungula indawo lapho ukuxhumana kuphephe khona noma kungathandeki. Imibhangqwana ephumelelayo iyayazi indlela yokugwema "izimpi zobufakazi." Banikela ngesidingo sabo sokulawulwa. Bayabuza, balalele, bafunde. Bakhetha ukukhuluma ngezinto ezinzima nezinobucayi ngaphandle kokucabanga nangaphandle kokwahlulela.
4. Cukuhlanganiswa kabusha
Cabanga ngeqembu lezemidlalo noma ngeqembu noma nganoma yiliphi iqembu labantu elidinga ukubambisana ukuze lisebenze kahle. Eqenjini elihle, kunokubambisana okuningi okusebenzayo. Ukusebenzisana kwenziwa kwaba nokwenzeka ngama-C amathathu okuqala. Ilukuluku liholela kuzwelo, okuholela ekuxhumaneni. Ngalezo zinto ezibalulekile ezikhona, singenza izinqumo njengeqembu ngoba SIYIqembu. Sizibophezele ekuqondaneni kwethu komunye nomunye futhi sisohlangothini olufanayo, noma ngabe asivumelani.
5. Cukuxhuma
Akudingeki ukuthi ube yingcweti yokutshela ukuthi yimiphi imibhangqwana endaweni yokudlela ebihlangene isikhathi eside kakhulu. Bheka nje. Labo abangakhulumi badele ukuxhumeka. Manje, bheka futhi. Qaphela imibhangqwana enesithakazelo komunye nomunye? Leyo mibhangqwana isebenzisa ama-C amane okuqala - ilukuluku, uzwela, ukuxhumana, nokubambisana - futhi bazizwa bexhumekile! Bakhe indawo ephephile yokwabelana ngemicabango kanye nezindaba zabo. Ukuxhumeka kungumphumela wemvelo lapho sikhathazwe ukufuna ukwazi lapho sithola ububele ezinhliziyweni zethu, lapho sabelana ngokujulile kwethu, nalapho sesiyiqembu ngokweqiniso.
Ngokuzayo ubuhlobo bakho buzizwa bunesizungu, ziphonsele inselelo ukuqala ukubuza imibuzo ehlukile futhi uvulele izimpendulo. Bamba ujule uzwelo. Dlulisa imicabango yakho bese wabelana ngendaba yakho. Hlela futhi ubonakale njengelungu leqembu esikhundleni sokulwa nomlingani wakho. Khetha ukwamukela nokwazisa ubambiswano lwakho ngokwanele ukuba uncike kulo esikhundleni sePush away. Ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, uzozizwa uxhumekile nokuthi lowo muzwa omubi wesizungu uzothathelwa indawo ukuxhumana okujulile, okuqinisekisayo okubhalisele indawo yokuqala.