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- Isinyathelo 1: Hlela!
- Isinyathelo 2: Khetha ukuthula
- Isinyathelo 3: Zinakekele
- Isinyathelo 4: Qala ukuhlela
- Isinyathelo sesi-5: Sebenza ngesehlukaniso NOMUNTU oshade naye
Akulula ukudlula esehlukanisweni noma ngokwehlukana ngokomthetho- kuyisimo esinzima futhi esiyinkimbinkimbi kubo bobabili abashadile.
Abesifazane kaningi bayakwazi ukuveza imizwa yabo futhi bavame ukuthola induduzo phakathi kwabangane nemindeni yabo ukubasiza ukubhekana nesehlukaniso.
Kepha kowesilisa, ukuthola ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo noma ukucubungula imizwa yakho nokuzinakekela kaningi kungaba nzima kakhulu.
Kungakho silungiselele lo mhlahlandlela owusizo wokuthi ungalungiselela kanjani isehlukaniso sendoda - ukuze ukwazi ukuqhubeka nale nqubo ngokushelela ngangokunokwenzeka.
Isinyathelo 1: Hlela!
Ukwazi izinyathelo okudingeka uzithathe ngesikhathi senqubo yesehlukaniso, zonke izinto okudingeka uzicabangele, nezinqumo okudingeka uzenze kungenza yonke inqubo yesehlukaniso ibe lula futhi ngethemba ukuthi ingabi nayo ingcindezi.
Ukuze uhlele, kuzodingeka ucabangele wonke amaphuzu alandelayo:
- Yenza ucwaningo lwakho uzifundise ukuthi inqubo yesehlukaniso isebenza kanjani.
- Funda ngezinzuzo zokulamula kwehlukaniso, ngoba kuzokwenza izinto zibe lula kakhulu.
- Hlela izimali zakho
- Khetha uchwepheshe onolwazi ukukusiza ukuthi udlulise inqubo.
- Bamba iqhaza ngokuzimisela ezingxoxweni zakho zesehlukaniso ukuze ukwazi ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo.
- Shintsha ikhanda lakho lebhizinisi uma kukhulunywa ngezingxoxo zesehlukaniso noshade naye bese ucisha imizwa ngangokunokwenzeka
- Funa umeluleki wezehlukaniso noma umeluleki wezobudlelwano akusize ubhekane nesehlukaniso sakho futhi akusize ekufezeni iphuzu langaphambilini.
- Gcina ubuhlobo obuhle noshade naye, okungenani ngenxa yezingane.
- Qinisekisa ukuthi ubhekelela izidingo zakho futhi uzinakekela.
- Gxila ethubeni lokujabula futhi ngokuzayo.
Isinyathelo 2: Khetha ukuthula
Lokhu kungaba yinselelo enzima, ikakhulukazi uma oshade naye engakhethi ukuthula kepha akhethe ukuhlala ezolile, alinganisele, futhi abe nenhloso lapho kungenzeka khona.
Ngokuthamela isehlukaniso ukwelulekwa ukukuqondisa enkambisweni, uzothola ukuthi uzokwehlisa ingcindezi, ukukhathazeka futhi ulawule imizwa yakho ukuze ukwazi ukuphatha ubudlelwano obunzima ongahlangabezana nabo noshade naye.
Uma wenza lokhu, ngeke ube nokuzisola ngokuthi waziphatha kanjani ngesikhathi senqubo yesehlukaniso, futhi ngeke kube nalutho umlingani wakho angakusebenzisa kuwe ngokuzayo.
Futhi, uma unezingane, izenzo zakho zokuthula manje zizokwazi ukukukhokhela njengoba wakha ubuhlobo obusha nalowo owawushade naye njengomama wezingane zakho kanye nomuntu osazobonakala empilweni yakho ngokuzayo.
Uma usebenza ngesahlukaniso sakho ngenhloso yokusigcina sinokuthula ngangokunokwenzeka, izenzo zakho zizokubuyisela kakhulukazi.
Buka futhi: Izizathu Eziningi Ezivamile Zesehlukaniso
Isinyathelo 3: Zinakekele
Amadoda amaningi ahlukanisayo ajwayele ukuzithola elele phezu kombhede, ehlala ezimweni ezingakhululeki, engazivocavoci noma ezondla ngendlela efanele. Lokhu kungadala ukuhlaselwa kokucindezeleka nokuzethemba okuphansi futhi kungaphenduka umkhuba ongafisa ukuthi ungazenzeli wona ngokuzayo.
Ngeke futhi kukusize uhlangane nomuntu omusha (noma ngabe leyo yinto ongeke uyicabangele njengamanje).
Kwenze kube seqhulwini ukuthola isisekelo esiphephile, esivikelekile, nesifanele wena ukuze ube nezidingo zakho eziyisisekelo.
Bese usetha uhlelo lokunakekela izidingo zakho zokudla, ukulala, kanye nenhlanzeko - noma ngabe kwesinye isikhathi kufanele uziphoqe ukuthi uhambe ngezinyathelo, uzojabula ngokuthi ukwenzile njengoba impilo yakho iguquka ibe yindawo entsha enenjabulo.
Isinyathelo 4: Qala ukuhlela
Uzodinga ukwenza amakhulu ezinqumo ezibalulekile phakathi nenqubo yesehlukaniso ezizokuthinta wena nezingane zakho iminyaka eminingi ezayo. Uma uhleleke ngokwengeziwe, izinga lezindlela zakho zokuphila kanye nezingxoxo (kanye nesivumelwano sokuxazulula izinkinga) kuzoba ngcono.
Yilapho uzozuza khona ngokusebenzisana nomuntu onolwazi ngenqubo yesehlukaniso, ukuze bakwazi ukukuholela kuzo zonke izinyathelo zokukusiza ulungiselele ngokwezimali zonke izici zesehlukaniso, kufaka phakathi izingxoxo.
Nazi ezinye izinto okufanele uzicabangele ngalesi sigaba:
- Uwedwa noma ndawonye nowakwakho, qala ukwenza uhlu lwezimpahla nezikweletu.
- Hlanganisa amakhophi wawo wonke amarekhodi ezezimali
- Dala isabelomali somshado ukuze uqonde ukuthi izindleko zakho zamanje zanyanga zonke lapho nihlala ndawonye zihambisana nezindleko zakho zenyanga zonke ezenziwa ngemuva kwesehlukaniso.
Isinyathelo sesi-5: Sebenza ngesehlukaniso NOMUNTU oshade naye
Zinike isikhathi sokuxoxa noshade naye nixoxe ngokuthi ningasizana kanjani ngokuhlukanisa ngokuthula futhi, lapho kungenzeka khona, ngokuthula.
Uma ukwazi, cabanga ukuthi nizobhekana kanjani uma niqhubeka futhi nihlangana nozakwethu abasha, ukuthi ningaxhumana kanjani lapho nisebenzelana nezingane, futhi nibhekana nanoma yiziphi ezinye izinkinga eninazo kuzovela.
Cabanga ngokuya ndawonye ukwelulekwa ngaphambi komshado noma ngemuva komshado ndawonye ukuze nikwazi ukubhekana nanoma yiziphi izinkinga ngenkathi nisehlukanisa, okusho ukuthi lapho senidlulele kolunye uhlangothi, nizoba nemithwalo yemizwa encane futhi nibe nokuhlonipheka ubudlelwano nowawushade naye njengebhonasi eyengeziwe!