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- Ukuzivocavoca umzimba okususelwa kumdlalo wethelevishini we-TLC, iClean Sweep
- Ukunquma ukuthi yini elungele umshado
- Yini okufanele igcinwe, iphonswe noma yengezwe
- Gcina, uphonsa futhi ungeze okufanele imibhangqwana eshadile nayo
Ngiyathanda ukwenza ukwelulekwa ngaphambi komshado. Izithandani zinamehlo akhanyayo futhi zinomsila onamahlathi. Bajabule nge-adventure entsha abazoyenza. Babamba isithandwa sabo ngenhlonipho ephezulu. Bazimisele ukukhuluma ngezindlela zokuxhumana futhi bamukela izeluleko namathuluzi amasha. Abakakhi iminyaka yentukuthelo noma yokudumala. Futhi ikakhulukazi isikhathi senjabulo, ukuhleka, nokusakaza umbono ngempilo yabo yesikhathi esizayo ndawonye. Kubalulekile, nokho, ukuthi ngiphonsele inselelo le mibhangqwana ukuthi igcine ukulindela okunempilo kokuzayo. Kuzoba khona izigaxa, kuzoba nezinsuku ezinzima, kuzoba nezidingo ezingagcwaliseki, kube khona okucasulayo. Kodwa ukungena emshadweni nokuqonda okulinganiselayo kubalulekile. Lindela izinto ezinkulu kepha zilungiselele bese uzama ukuvimbela okubi. Ungakhathali. Yilwa monotony. Futhi ungalokothi uyeke ukumangala ngokweqiniso futhi ubonge ukuthi othile ukhethe ukuchitha usuku nosuku nawe.
Ukuzivocavoca umzimba okususelwa kumdlalo wethelevishini we-TLC, iClean Sweep
Ukuzivocavoca okukodwa engivame ukwenza imibhangqwana ekwelulekeni ngaphambi komshado kubonakala kusebenza kakhulu kubo njengoba kamuva behlangabezana nezinkinga ezithile zempilo. Lesi sabelo cishe sisekelwe ohlelweni oludala lwe-TV ku-TLC olubizwa nge- “Clean Sweep.” Uma ukhumbula lo mbukiso, uchwepheshe wayezongena ekhaya lomndeni elingahlelekile futhi aphoqe ukuba bahlele futhi bahlanze. Babedlula ezintweni zabo kancane kancane bese bebeka izinto ezinqwabeni ezihlukene ezibhalwe ukuthi “Gcina”, “Toss”, noma “Thengisa”. Bazobe sebenquma ukuthi iziphi izinto abengeke baphile ngaphandle kwazo, yiziphi izinto abafuna ukuzilahla noma abanikele ngazo, nokuthi yiziphi izinto abafuna ukuzifaka kuthengiso lwegaraji ukusiza ukwenza izinzuzo ezimbalwa.
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Ukunquma ukuthi yini elungele umshado
Ngisebenzisa lokhu okubukwayo, ngicela izithandani ukuthi zihlale phansi zixoxe ngemikhakha ethile ngokuya ngalokho ezifuna ukukugcina, ukukuphosa, nokuthi [esikhundleni sokuthengisa] engeze. Njengoba laba bantu ababili bekhetha ukuhlanganisa izimpilo zabo emshadweni, bakhetha ukuzikhomba njengeyunithi eyodwa, njengomndeni omusha, futhi njengenhlangano yabo. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi bobabili banqume ukuthi yini ezolungela umshado wabo (hhayi abazali babo, hhayi abangane babo, babo). Bazinika isikhathi sokubheka emuva emindenini yabo yemvelaphi kanye nomlando wabo wobudlelwano futhi banqume ukuthi bafuna imishado yabo ibukeke kanjani. Izigaba abaxoxa ngazo zingabandakanya ukuthi izingxabano zazisingathwa kanjani, ibhekwa kanjani imali, ikhuliswa kanjani ingane, indlela ukholo eyadlala ngayo indima, ukuthi ezothando zazigcinwa kanjani noma zazingagcinwa ziphila kanjani, ukuthi izimpi zaxazululwa kanjani, ubani owenza ini ngasendlini, ini “imithetho” yomndeni engakhulunywa yayikhona, futhi imaphi amasiko ayebalulekile.
Yini okufanele igcinwe, iphonswe noma yengezwe
Imibhangqwana ihamba kulezi zihloko bese iyanquma - ingabe siyakugcina lokhu, siyakujikijela, noma ingabe sifaka okuthile okuhluke ngokuphelele? Isibonelo kungaba ngokuxhumana. Masithi umndeni womyeni ozoshanela udale izingxabano ngaphansi kombhoxo. Babegcina ukuthula futhi bengakhulumi ngezinkinga zangempela. Ake sithi umndeni kankosikazi wawukhululeke kakhulu ngezingxabano nokuthi ukumemeza kwakuyingxenye ejwayelekile yesitayela sabo sokulwa. Kepha ukulwa kwakuxazululwa njalo umndeni wawudlulela phambili wakha. Ngakho-ke manje sebenqumela owabo umshado. Ingxoxo yabo ingazwakala kanjena:
“Masiqhubeke nokumemeza, masifune ukuba nezingxabano ezinokuthula. Kepha ake sikhulume njalo njalo futhi singalokothi sishanele izinto ngaphansi kombhoxo. Masiqinisekise ukuthi asidedeli ilanga lishone ngenxa yentukuthelo yethu futhi sisheshe sixolise. Angikhumbuli ngizwa abazali bami bexolisa futhi angifuni ukuba njalo. Ngakho-ke masiqiniseke ukuthi sizimisele ukuthi 'Ngiyaxolisa' noma singafuni futhi noma lokho kusho ukuthi kuzonciphisa ukuziqhenya kwethu. ”
Lo mbhangqwana wesikhathi esizayo uyavumelana nemibono engenhla bese eya emshadweni ngenkuthalo efuna ukuthi lokhu kube yinto yabo ejwayelekile. Ukuze ngolunye usuku, lapho izingane zabo zelulekwa ngaphambi komshado, bangathi, “Ngangikuthanda ukuthi abazali bethu baxoxa ngezinto. Ngangikuthanda ukuthi babengamemezi kodwa nokuthi babengazivikeli izingxabano. Futhi ngikuthandile ukuthi bathi ngiyaxolisa - nakithi kwesinye isikhathi.”Yeka isithombe esihle sokuthi zibaluleke kangakanani izinqumo ezenziwa yilezi zithandani ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Gcina, uphonsa futhi ungeze okufanele imibhangqwana eshadile nayo
Kepha le yindatshana yomshado - yabantu abashadile, ngakho-ke lokhu kusiza kanjani? Empeleni engqondweni yami, akukephuzi kakhulu ukuba nale nkulumo. Ungaba nobuhlungu obuningi, imikhuba emibi eminingi, imithetho engashiwongo manje; kepha inketho yokugcina, ukuphonsa, noma ukufaka ayikaze iphume ngewindi.Le ngxoxo ingaba okokuqala ngqa lapho ukhulume khona ngokuthi izindlela zakho zokusebenza zivela kanjani emndenini wakho. Kungasiza ukuchaza ukuthi kungani uKhisimusi ehlala ephenduka impi? Kungasiza ukuchaza ukuthi kungani omunye wenu eminyene kakhulu ngemali kanti omunye ethola induduzo ekusebenziseni imali. Ungamangala ngokungaboni ngaso linye okuza, hhayi kokulungile noma okungalungile, kodwa kusuka kulezo zinto thina kuthathwa okulungile noma okungalungile ngoba sibabone bemodeliswa kahle noma kabi kusukela besebancane.
Ngakho-ke noma ngabe useneminyaka engama-25 ushadile, hamba uye ekhaya, uhlale phansi ube nale nkulumo. Nquma ukuthi yini ofuna ukuyigcina - yiziphi izinto ozizwa ngathi ziyakusebenzela njengombhangqwana noma zisebenzele abazali bakho noma abanye enibabheke. Nquma ukuthi uzophonsa ini - imiphi imikhuba emibi ethikameza ekukhuleni kobudlelwano bakho noma ikhono lakho lokukhulumisana kahle? Futhi nquma ukuthi uzokwengeza ini - imaphi amathuluzi ongakathinti kuwo okwamanje noma yiziphi izinto ozibona zisebenza kweminye imibhangqwana ongakazisebenzisi?
Nina njengombhangqwana niyabhala imithetho yomshado wenu. Into ethusayo kepha enamandla. Kepha ukuqala lokhu namuhla kuzokusiza ukuthi uzizwe njengalezo zithandani ezisengcupheni yomshado - abazizwa sengathi akukho lutho olungabenza bathande umlingani wabo futhi abazimisele ukwenza noma yini edingekayo ukwenza ubudlelwano buchume. Inikeza ithemba ngoshintsho futhi iphaka imephu yokuthi ungafika kanjani lapho.