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- 1. Qhubeka usebenza ngokubukeka kwakho
- 2. Gcina umyeni wakho ezinzwaneni zakhe- Menze abe nomona
- 3. Yiba nokuphila ngaphandle komshado wakho
- 4. Yiba ovulekile ekuhloleni umbuso wakho wezocansi
- 5. Thuthukisa ukuzazisa kwakhe
- 6. Jabulani ndawonye
Awukho umuzwa ongcono kunokuba yisikhungo sendawo yonke yomlingani wakho! Ukwazi ukuthi umlingani wakho akakwazi ukuthola okwanele kungenza inhliziyo yenhliziyo yanoma iyiphi intombazane ukuthi ishaye.
Ekuqaleni kobudlelwano, ukuzenza ubonakale ungenakuvinjelwa kumlingani wakho ucezu lekhekhe. Kepha, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lapho ingasekho imfihlakalo ebudlelwaneni ukugcina umlingani wakho efuna okuningi kwakho kuba yinselele. Imfihlakalo ithathelwa indawo ukujwayela, injabulo ithathelwa indawo induduzo. Yize lokhu kungeyona into embi kakhulu engenzeka ebudlelwaneni, kuyabulala ukujabula.
Ngakho-ke, ukuvimbela kanjani ukujwayela ekuzaleni ukwedelela nokunganaki ebudlelwaneni bakho? Yini oyenzayo ukuqinisekisa ukuthi umlingani wakho usakufuna?
Nawa amanye amathiphu wokwenza umyeni wakho afune okuningi kuwe:
1. Qhubeka usebenza ngokubukeka kwakho
Lokhu kungenye yezinto ezilula kakhulu owesifazane angazenza ukugcina umlingani wakhe enesithakazelo kuye. Kepha ukubukeka nokuzinakekela kuyinto yokuqala ethatha isihlalo sangemuva lapho ezinye izibopho nezibopho zikhula ebudlelwaneni.
Qiniseka ukuthi noma ngabe kwenzekani utshala imali okungenani imizuzu embalwa ngosuku ukugcina isikhumba nomzimba wakho. Ukuzigcina kuyisihluthulelo sokugcina umlingani wakho ekuthakasela.
2. Gcina umyeni wakho ezinzwaneni zakhe- Menze abe nomona
Umuzwa wokuphepha nokunethezeka yizona zingxenye ezihamba phambili zokuba ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside. Kodwa-ke, kaningi ukwenza umlingani wakho ezwe ubuhlungu besikhwele kungangeza isinongo esidingeka kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Ayikho into engenza umyeni wakho abe nomona njengalapho umtshela ukuthi uzithanda kanjani izici ezithile zabangane bakhe nabantu besikhathi sakhe. Ungabanjwa futhi ubheka amanye amadoda (ngamabomu!), Lokhu kungamenza futhi ezwe ukusha.
Kodwa-ke, qaphela, ungadluli ngokweqile ngalezi zidlova. Lokhu kungabuyela emuva uma ukuyisa kude kakhulu.
3. Yiba nokuphila ngaphandle komshado wakho
Umshado wakho ungabubudlelwano obubaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho, kepha akuchazi kuphela ukuthi ungubani. Abesilisa ngokuvamile bathola labo besifazane bekhanga kakhulu abalandela izinkanuko namaphupho abo futhi bagcine umqondo wabo wobuntu uphila.
Ukugcina umyeni wakho akhangwe nguwe, hlala ngendlela owawuyiyo ngenkathi ehlangana nawe okokuqala. Qhubeka uphile ngendlela obuphila ngayo ngaphambi kokuhlangana naye, owesifazane oqinile ozimele uthandeka kakhulu kunowesifazane ozithobayo, ongenathemba odinga uthando.
4. Yiba ovulekile ekuhloleni umbuso wakho wezocansi
Izikhathi zocansi ezishisayo nezisindayo zivamile ekuqaleni kobudlelwano. Kepha, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lapho isasasa lokuqala liphela, amandla abo bobabili abalingani ayancipha, ubusha nokuheha kuyancipha futhi kunzima ukugcina ubulili bujabulisa njengakuqala.
Ukugcina umyeni wakho efuna okuningi kuwe, ungaqhamuka nemibono yokushintsha umbuso wakho wezocansi kancane. Zama ukuvuleka ngokuhlolwa. Xoxa nomlingani wakho ngezifiso zakho kanye nemicabango yakho bese uzama ukukusebenzisa ukuze unqobe isithunzi empilweni yakho yezocansi.
Intshiseko yakho ekuvuseleleni impilo yakho yezocansi izokhuphula isilinganiso sezocansi emshadweni wakho futhi ikwenze ubonakale ukhanga kakhulu kumlingani wakho.
5. Thuthukisa ukuzazisa kwakhe
Abesilisa, ngokungafani nabesifazane, kulula kakhulu ukunquma. Lapho ubenza babe namandla ngokwengeziwe, kulapho beheheka kuwe. Kaningi ubanikeze ukuncoma, ubenze bazizwe bekhethekile, baphulule ukuzazisa kwabo. Lokhu kubanikeza ukushesha futhi bazolokhu beza kuwe bezwe ukujaha.
Kodwa-ke, qiniseka ukuthi usho noma yini oyishoyo kubo. Ukuncoma okungenalutho nokukhohlisayo ngeke kubenze bazizwe kahle ngabo, hhayi isikhathi eside.
6. Jabulani ndawonye
Ukuba yisikhulumi esibushelelezi nonkulunkulukazi wezocansi nakho akwanele ukugcina indoda yakho ifuna okuningi ngawe. Kufanele futhi ujabule ndawonye! Ngenkathi ubudlelwano budinga ukusebenza kanzima kepha kukhona izingqinamba ezimnandi nakubo.
Khetha into eniyithandayo nobabili, kungaba umdlalo we-adventure, kungaba ukuya kuma-movie, kungaba ukuhamba ngezinyawo, noma yini oyithandayo. Ukuchitha isikhathi sobabili ndawonye kuzokwenza umlingani wakho afune ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nawe.
Landela le ndlela yokuhamba komgwaqo futhi uzothola ukuthi umlingani wakho ukhangeke ngokungenathemba kuwe. Ngenkathi ukugcina uthando luphila ebudlelwaneni kudinga imizamo, lokhu akuyona into enzima kakhulu ukuyifinyelela. Izinyathelo ezilula nezincane nsuku zonke zizogcina umlingani wakho efuna okuningi kuwe.