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- Kuthatha ukusebenza kanzima ukuthola ukungathembeki okwedlule
- Ingabe umshado ungasinda ekungathembekini komshado?
- Ungawusindisa kanjani umshado ngemuva kokungathembeki namanga
- Amaqiniso ayi-9 ngokukhohlisa nabakhohlisi
I-Google it. Ngomzuzwana ongu-38, uGoogle ubuyisa imiphumela engaphezulu kwesigamu sesigidi mayelana nokuthi ungawusindisa kanjani umshado ngemuva kokuthi oshade naye ekhohlisile, akhe kabusha ukwethembana ngemuva kokungathembeki, noma ebhekene nokungathembeki.
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...njalo njalo.
Ukuthanda kwabasebenzisi be-Intanethi ukuthola izethulo ezimfishane, ezifundeka kalula, nezithulisiwe kunciphise ubunzima bobudlelwano ku-listicle ezofundwa ngenkathi uxubha amazinyo.
Impilo ayilula kangako. Izibalo zesehlukaniso ngemuva kokungathembeki kuyizinkomba zokuthi ezinye izithandani zithole ukungathembeki, zilulame ngemuva kocansi futhi zakhe kabusha umshado ophumelelayo ngemuva kokungathembeki.
Kodwa-ke, lokhu akususi eqinisweni lokuthi ukubhekana nokungathembeki, ukululama emshadweni nokugcina umshado ngemuva kokungathembeki akunakwenzeka kubo bonke abashadikazi abahlukunyezwe ukungathembeki.
Ukutholwa kwe-Intanethi emingaki imishado esinda ekungathembekini kwezibalo kusikisela ukuthi ingxenye yemishado yaseMelika iyasinda kulokho.
Kuthatha ukusebenza kanzima ukuthola ukungathembeki okwedlule
Ngesikhathi begubha iminyaka engu-50 beshadile nabangane babo, uRuth Graham, unkosikazi womvangeli odumile uBilly Graham wabuzwa ukuthi wake wezwa sengathi ufuna ukumhlukanisa.
UNksz Graham ubheke lo obuza ngqo emehlweni wathi, “Bulala yebo. Isehlukaniso asikaze. ”
Kulukwe empendulweni yakhe ehlekisayo kuneqiniso elijulile. Umshado ungaba ubuhlobo obuhle kakhulu. Kungabuye kube kubi, kungcoliswe ukungcola kwezinyunyana.
Kaningi, kuyinhlanganisela yakho kokubili.
Yize uNksz Graham ethathe izimfihlo zakhe ethuneni, singacabanga ukuthi ukungathembeki emshadweni bekungeyona ingxenye yobudlelwano babo.
Njengoba kunemishado engaphezu kwengxenye ethola ukungathembeki eqenjini elilodwa - noma kubo bobabili - ngesikhathi esithile phakathi kobudlelwano, i-Intanethi ibuyele ekuphileni ngama-akhawunti abuyekeziwe kaPaul Simon “Wezindlela ezingama-50 Zokushiya Isithandwa Sakho.” Kepha ungachithi isikhathi sakho.
Noma singathanda ukukholelwa ukuthi ukusindisa umshado ngemuva kokungathembeki kumane nje kuyi-listicle, iqiniso ukuthi kuzothatha umsebenzi onzima - onzima kakhulu - ukudlula ukungathembeki okwedlule.
Kwesinye isikhathi imibhangqwana ayikaze idlule. Eminye imishado idinga ukungcwatshwa.
Ingabe umshado ungasinda ekungathembekini komshado?
Umshado ungasinda ekungathembekini.
Khumbula amanye amaqiniso anzima ngokusindisa umshado wakho ngemuva kokungathembeki, noma kunjalo:
- Akulula
- Kuzolimaza
- Kuzoba nolaka nezinyembezi
- Kuzothatha isikhathi ukwethemba futhi
- Kuzodinga ukuthi umkhohlisi athathe umthwalo
- Kuzodinga ukuthi "isisulu" sithathe umthwalo futhi
- Kuzodinga isibindi
Ungawusindisa kanjani umshado ngemuva kokungathembeki namanga
Ukululama ekungathembekini nasekwakhiweni kobudlelwano obuyimpumelelo ngemuva kokukopela akuyona into engajwayelekile. Ingxenye ebalulekile ukuthi ungakuthola kanjani ukungathembeki nokuthi ungabakha kanjani ubuhlobo ngemuva kokukopela.
Iningi labeluleki bemishado babone imishado engagcinanga ngokusinda ekungathembekini kuphela kepha yaba nempilo enhle. Uma bobabili abalingani bezimisele ukuthola nokusebenzisa amakhono adingekayo ukwenza umshado wabo usebenze, khona-ke umshado ungasinda othandweni.
Ngesikhathi sokwelashwa kokukhaphela, ukungathembeki, kanye nezindaba ochwepheshe abahlomisa imibhangqwana ngamathuluzi afanele nezeluleko zendlela yokwakha kabusha ukwethembana ngemuva kokukopela.
Ukulondoloza umshado wakho ngemuva kokungathembeki kuzodinga ukungenelela okusemthethweni komuntu wesithathu.
Ukwelulekwa ngokungathembeki kukusiza ukuthi ululame ekungathembekini ebudlelwaneni. Kuzozuzisa kakhulu imibhangqwana ukuthola owelapha ukungathembeki ongenza ukusindisa umshado ngemuva kokungathembeki uhambo olubuhlungu kakhulu kuwe.
- Ukwelashwa kuklanyelwe ukusebenza ngezinkinga zomshado wakho
- Kukusize ukwazi ukubhekana nokuqubuka kokukopela
- Phinda wakhe uxhumano olulahlekile nawe noma umlingani wakho
- Dala umugqa wesikhathi wokululama ekungathembekini
- Landela uhlelo lokuthi ungaqhubekela kanjani phambili ebudlelwaneni
Balamula imizwa ephikisanayo, benza kube lula ukululama ekungathembekini futhi basize lo mbhangqwana wenze ushintsho olubushelelezi ngezigaba ezahlukahlukene zokululama kokungathembeki.
Amaqiniso ayi-9 ngokukhohlisa nabakhohlisi
- Abesilisa bavame ukukopela nabesifazane ababaziyo
Abakhohlisi abavamile ukukhetha abantu abangabazi emigoqweni. Abesifazane abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi wonke umuntu wesifazane okopelayo uyisixhwanguxhwangu - akunjalo. Ubudlelwano buvame ukuba ubungani kuqala.
- Abesilisa bakopela ukusindisa imishado yabo
Amadoda ayabathanda omkabo, kepha abazi ukuthi bangazilungisa kanjani izinkinga ebudlelwaneni; baphumela ngaphandle komshado wabo befuna izixazululo.
- Amadoda azizonda ngemuva kwezindaba
Imvamisa abantu bacabanga ukuthi amadoda akopelayo angamadoda angenakho ukuziphatha. Ngenkathi benza njengalokhu abakwenzile, bavame ukuzidelela lapho udaba seluphelile.
- Abesifazane bakopela kaningi njengamadoda
Abesilisa nabesifazane bakhohlisa ngezinga elilinganayo; yizizathu nje ezahlukile. Abesifazane bathambekele ekukopeleni ukufeza okungokomzwelo. Ukutshalwa kwemali ngokomzwelo komunye umuntu kukhombisa ukuthi uphumile emshadweni wakho. Uma kuwubulili nje, kuncane ngokunamathiselwe, noma kunjalo.
- Unkosikazi uyazi ukuthi umyeni wakhe uyakopela
Intokazi ivamise ukwazi lapho amadoda abo ephuma; abalungile abakwazi ukukuvuma.
- Izindaba zivame ukulungisa umshado
Ukungathembeki kungafanele kube ukufa kwabashadikazi. Yize ubudlelwano obusha bungajabulisa, ukuthandana kungawuvuselela umshado. Kodwa-ke, cabanga isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokubuyela kumkhohlisi. I-Flings ivame ukugqamisa ukuthi ukuzithiba komuntu kuncane kangakanani.
- Unkosikazi akanacala
Uma umyeni wakho engathembekile, akulona iphutha lakho - noma ngabe bathini abantu. Umcabango wokududulwa ezandleni zomunye wesifazane uyinkulumo hhayi iqiniso. Amadoda awakhohlisi ngenxa yokuthi ungubani umfazi wawo; bayakopela ngenxa yokuthi bangobani.
- Eminye imishado kufanele iphonswe kudoti
Ungawusindisa ngempela umshado ngemuva komjikelezo oqondile wokungathembeki? Eminye imishado akufanele isindiswe; azihloselwe ukusindiswa. Uma ukungathembeki kuwuphawu lodlame lwasekhaya noma ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo, bungcwaba ubudlelwano bese uqhubeka.
- Abanye besilisa abanezindaba bathi bayajabula emishadweni yabo.
Kuyinselele ukuthi "isisulu" sazi ukuthi kufanele yini sinikeze umkhwabanisi ithuba lesibili. Umbuzo othi, “ungabugcina kanjani ubudlelwano ngemuva kokukopela” ulandela kamuva kakhulu kumlingani okhonjiwe osele azizwe enesizungu, ethukuthele, edidekile futhi ehlazekile.
Uma ukungathembeki kwakuyinto yesikhathi esisodwa, lokho kwehlukile kunomkhohlisi we-serial. Uma benephethini lokuqhubeka bekopela, kungaba yisikhathi sokujikijela ithawula. Ezimweni ezinjalo, ukonga umshado wakho ngemuva kokungathembeki kuyinto engekho.
Lapho nje kwenziwa isinqumo sokuthi umshado ungaba - futhi kufanele usindiswe - umsebenzi onzima uqala ukonga umshado ngemuva kokungathembeki. Kudinga usizo lochwepheshe ukubhekana nolaka, ulaka neminye imizwa eluhlaza engalandela umcimbi.
Akuthathi i-listicle.