-Delile
- Uyazilapha
- 1. Kuqala ngawe
- 2. Sebenza ekuzinakekeleni
- 3. Yenza into oyithandayo
- Ukuphulukisa ubuhlobo
- 1. Dalula iqiniso obala
- 2. Bheka umeluleki wemishado
Njengokuzamazama komhlaba esakhiweni, ukungathembeki kunyakazisa lokho okwake kwathathwa njengesisekelo esiqinile. Ingena esikhundleni salokho okwakukhona, kunalokho manje: inguqulo ephukile neyonakalisiwe yobuntu bayo bangaphambili.
Esakhiweni esiphazanyiswe ukuzamazama komhlaba, awuqiniseki ngokuqina kwezitezi noma uphahla ukuze uhlale uphephile noma uphila.
Ukungazethembi kuchazwa ngokuthi “ukungazethembi.” Ngakho-ke, akumangazi uma othile ebhekana nokungavikeleki ngemuva kokungathembeki emshadweni wabo.
Emshadweni ngemuva kokungathembeki, ukungazethembi nokuzethemba kumlingani wakho kukwenza uzizwe ungaphephile ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunzima ukwazi ukuthi ungakuyeka kanjani ukungazethembi ngemuva kokukhohliswa ngoba ngubani ongasho ukuthi ngeke kuphinde kwenzeke futhi bebuqine kangakanani ubudlelwano uma bungahle bunqotshwe yilokhu kushiyeka kwasekuqaleni.
Imibuzo eminingi ibuzwa ukuthi ungaqhubeka kanjani ukusuka kumlingani okopelayo nokuthi ungaphola kanjani ebudlelwaneni ngemuva kokukopela, kepha izimpendulo eziningi ezinengqondo zivame ukuba mancane.
Kubalulekile ukuthi umuntu okhohliswa aziswe ukuthi angakuthola kanjani ukungazethembi ngemuva kokukhohliswa.
Uma wena noma omunye umuntu omaziyo ehlangabezane nokungazethembi ngemuva kokungathembeki futhi uzibuza ukuthi ungakuyeka kanjani ukungazethembi ngemuva kokukhohliswa noma ukuthi ungaphola kanjani ngemuva kokukhohliswa, ukwazi izindlela ezithile zokunqoba ukungazethembi ngemuva kokungathembeki kungasiza nakanjani.
Bheka futhi: Ukulwa nokungavikeleki kwabesifazane abakhashelwe
Lo mbhalo wabelana ngezindlela ezi-5 zokuthola ukungathembeki okwedlule kanye nokungavikeleki emshadweni
Uyazilapha
1. Kuqala ngawe
Iqiniso elinzima ngempilo ukuthi injabulo yeqiniso ayiveli kunoma yimuphi omunye umthombo ngaphandle kwakho.
Isizathu salokhu kungenxa yokuthi nguwe kuphela olawula izenzo zakho, imicabango yakho, nezinkolelo zakho. Njengoba lokhu kungukuphela kwento ongayilawula ngokweqiniso empilweni, injabulo yakho kumele ivele ngaphakathi.
Uma ulinde omunye umuntu ukukuqinisekisa futhi akulethele injabulo, uzophoxeka. Singabantu abanobugovu, futhi noma ngabe umuntu unothando olungakanani ngawe, uzoshoda ngezikhathi ezithile.
Kepha lokhu kukusiza kanjani ukuthi welaphe ekungavikelekeni ngemuva kokungathembeki?
Ukungathembeki isenzo sobugovu; akekho owayengakuphikisa lokho. Yazise kanjalo, bese uyisebenzisela ukuqonda ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuzisebenzela wena nenjabulo yakho siqu.
Ngokuzayo, uma lowo omthandayo ephuma kuwe, ngiyakuthembisa, kuzolimala. Kepha uma uwenze ngokwakho umsebenzi ukuze wazi ukuthi ufunani empilweni, kuzokulimaza kancane, futhi uzothola ukuthula ngokushesha ngokushesha.
2. Sebenza ekuzinakekeleni
Imikhuba efana nokuzindla nokwenziwa kwezincwadi kuyizindlela ezinempilo zokwakha ukuthula kwengqondo empilweni yakho futhi kubalulekile ekunqobeni ukungazethembi ngemuva kokungathembeki.
Ukuzindla kuyasiza ngoba umkhuba ukucela ukuthi uhlale ngokuthula, wazi imicabango yakho njengoba iza, bese uyivumela idlule sengathi iyimikhumbi ebusuku.
Lokhu kusho ukuthi ngeke uchithe isikhathi uhlala emcabangweni owodwa (ukukopela oshade naye) futhi uzomane ubuke ingqondo yakho lapho usebenza.
Lapho usuzindle ngokwanele, uzobona ukuzola okunikezayo futhi uzokwazi nokukhumbula usuku lwakho lonke.
Ukubhala kuzokuvumela ukuthi uthathe leyo micabango osanda kuyibona futhi wandise ngayo. Lena akuyona indawo yezimpawu zokubhala efanele, uhlelo lolimi noma isipelingi. Kumane ulahla ingqondo yakho esiqeshini sephepha bese uyivumela ukuthi ikhule.
Uzothola ukuthi ukungezwani nengcindezi oyigcine isemabhodleleni izophuma kulezi zikhathi zokushicilela, ikuvumele ukuthi udlule osukwini lwakho ngesisindo esincane emahlombe akho nokwazisa okwengeziwe ngemizwa yakho yangempela.
3. Yenza into oyithandayo
Emshadweni, sivame ukuzithola sibumba izinto esizithandayo kanye nezinto esizithandayo kanye nomlingani wethu.
Ngaphambi kokuba nihlangane, ngamunye wenu wayenezintshisekelo zomuntu ngamunye. Kodwa-ke, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, imibhangqwana eshadile ijwayele ukuhlangana futhi ibe nemisebenzi eminingi eyabiwe kanye nokuzilibazisa.
Lokhu kuhle kakhulu engxenyeni enkulu ngoba kuvumela umshado ukuba uqhakaze ngokuhlangenwe nakho okwabiwe.
Kodwa-ke, lapho kwenzeka ukuthandana, futhi uzizwa ungavikeleki ngemuva kokungathembeki, umbhangqwana uyaphikisana, lezi zithakazelo ezihlanganyelwe ziba amaphuzu okudelela.
Awusakwazi ukulalela lelo qembu ngoba bekuyiqembu lomyeni wakho olithandayo. Awukwazi ukuya kuleyo ndawo yokudlela ngoba umkakho uyayithanda. Uthola isithombe.
Ukuthola izinkanuko zakho kuyindlela enhle yokubhekana nokungazethembi ngemuva kokungathembeki.
Lokhu kuzokugcina ungaphandle komqondo ongenakuzisiza wokubona oshade naye kukho konke okwenzayo ngoba ukhetha okuthile ngaphandle kwezinkambiso zobudlelwano.
Thatha isigaba sokupheka. Joyina ijimu entsha. Buyela esikoleni. Thola okuthile okunengqondo KUWE, ukuze uqhubeke nokuhlukanisa ukubaluleka kwakho emshadweni wakho bese welapha ekungazethembini ngemuva kokungathembeki.
Ukuphulukisa ubuhlobo
1. Dalula iqiniso obala
Ukulandisa emuva ekufaniseni okuqale le ndatshana, cabanga ngendlu esanda kuzanyazanyiswa ukuzamazama komhlaba.
Awukwazi ukwakha le ndlu ngezicucu zayo ezihlukanisiwe. Kufanele uthole imbangela yomonakalo futhi mhlawumbe wakhe phezulu kwe-rubble.
Kungashiwo okufanayo ngokunqoba ukungazethembi ngemuva kokungathembeki emshadweni wakho.
Uma ufuna phola uqhubeke nomshado wakho, iqiniso futhi akukho lutho ngaphandle kweqiniso kubalulekile.
Udinga ukuthola ukuthi yini ebangele lolu daba. Udinga ukubuza ukuthi kungani. Udinga ukwazi ukuthi kuphelile. Kudingeka kucace bha ngaphambi kokuthi uqale ukuphulukisa kubo bonke ubuhlungu nokungavikeleki ngemuva kokungathembeki.
Ukuntuleka kwamaqiniso kuzodala ukungavikeleki okwengeziwe. Kungakhathaza ngaphambili, kepha udinga ukuthola ukuthi kwenzekeni ngempela ukuze ubheke ikusasa ngesithombe esicacile sesikhathi esedlule.
2. Bheka umeluleki wemishado
Ukuthola iqiniso etafuleni kubalulekile, kepha zama ukukwenza lokho endaweni ephephile njengehhovisi lomelaphi. Bazosiza ukuhola leyo ngxoxo ukuze kungathathi amajika amaningi amabi.
Thembela kubuchwepheshe babo ukusiza ubuhlobo bakho bulungiswe ngendlela enempilo kakhulu.