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- Ububona kanjani ubuhlobo obunobuthi?
- Ingabe ukwehlukana kuyinto embi kunazo zonke?
- Ungahlukana kanjani nomuntu omthandayo
- Imithetho yokuhlukana okunempilo
Uyazi ukuthi kukhona into ebizwa ngokuthi ukuhlukana okunempilo? Yebo, akukho okuphoqelelwa ukuthi uqhubeke nobudlelwano obunobuthi noma bokuhlukumeza.
Esikhundleni sokuxinwa impilo yakho yonke, kungcono ukhethe ukwahlukana okunempilo. Kepha akulula njengoba kubonakala.
Sinomkhuba wokucabanga ukuthi umuntu ujabulile, wenelisekile, futhi futhi "unenhlanhla" uma ethandana nomuntu othile. Ithuba lokuthi mhlawumbe umuntu onobudlelwano besikhathi eside ungumuntu onesizungu kunabo bonke, ongazinzile ngokomzwelo kubo bonke akuhambi ezingqondweni zethu.
Kungani? Ngoba izingqondo zethu zibekwe ngendlela yokuthi ukuzitholela "eyodwa" kuyinjongo yangempela yokuphila.
Yize lokho kungaba ngumgomo wokugcina wabantu abaningi, akufanele kusho ukuthi uziphoqa ebudlelwaneni obungaba yingozi kuwe.
Ubudlelwano bungahlukaniswa ngezigaba ezimbili ezibanzi- ubudlelwane obuphilile futhi obungenampilo. Kunezici ezisemqoka ezikhomba ukuthi ubuhlobo bunobuthi noma buyingozi kangakanani kuwe. Akekho ofuna ukucabanga okubi ngobudlelwano babo noma akholelwe ukuthi akunampilo.
Sonke sifuna ukubona okuhle kubantu esibathandayo. Kungaba nzima ukuvuma ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho bunobuthi, kepha uma wenza ngokushesha, kungcono.
Ububona kanjani ubuhlobo obunobuthi?
Ubudlelwano obunempilo budinga umzamo omkhulu nesikhathi. Ubudlelwano obujabulisayo bususelwa ekuhloniphaneni, ukwethembana, ukulingana, ubuntu, uthando, nokunamathiselwa. Lezi zinto zithatha isikhathi ukuthuthuka. Ubudlelwano obunempilo akufanele bube yimbangela yengcindezi nokukhathazeka kwakho.
Akufanele uzizwe ungavikelekile ngokuthile okudingeka uqiniseke kakhulu futhi uvikeleke ngakho.
Noma yibuphi ubudlelwano obukwenza uzingabaze, bukuenze ungabaze omunye umuntu, kukwenza uzizwe usongelwa bese uba ubuthakathaka bakho, abuyona impilo.
Uma ungavikelekile ngokuveza imizwa yakho yangempela kulowo muntu, akunjalo, lapho kufanele ufihle noma ufihle iphutha elithile ngokomzimba, akukuhle.
Ubudlelwano obunempilo nobuhle ngeke bube nokuyekethisa kubuntu bakho nasendaweni yakho siqu. Ubudlelwano bakho bukhona kuphela, futhi kufanele bube yingxenye encane yokuthi ungubani hhayi ukukuchaza ngokuphelele.
Lapho uzizwa wena nobuyena, isiqu sakho sangempela simbozwe ubuhlobo bakho nomlingani wakho, futhi kungaba uphawu olubi.
Ubudlelwano busebenza lapho bobabili abantu abakuyo bebandakanyeka ngokulinganayo.
Uma uzwa ukuthi isikhathi esiningi, kungumlingani wakho okwenza izinqumo ngawe futhi akabheki phambili kwimibono nezeluleko zakho, sekuyisikhathi sokucabanga kabusha ngezinto bese ukhetha ukwahlukana okunempilo uma kudingeka.
Ubudlelwano bakho nomuntu oyedwa akufanele neze buthinte ubudlelwano bakho nabanye abantu ababalulekile ezimpilweni zakho. Isikhathi sakho somndeni, impilo yakho yezenhlalo, akumele ibekwe engcupheni yokuthi izinsuku zakho zizungeze lowo muntu oyedwa ngokuphelele.
Ulaka, ukungabekezeli, ukungabekezelelani, umona owedlulele, intukuthelo, ukungathembeki, ngisho nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, konke kuyizimpawu zobudlelwano obungenampilo. Kungaleso sikhathi-ke lapho kufanele ucabangele ukuqeda ubudlelwano kunokuba ubhajwe enkingeni.
Ingabe ukwehlukana kuyinto embi kunazo zonke?
Njengoba ubudlelwane buyisibonakaliso sempumelelo, ukuhlukana kuyizimpawu ezizenzakalelayo zokwehluleka.
Kepha, udinga ukweqa lo mqondo futhi uqaphele ukuthi mhlawumbe ukwahlukana kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu futhi enempilo kunazo zonke ongazenzela yona isikhashana. Ukwehlukana okunempilo kungenzeka.
Into ebi kakhulu ukungahlukani; okubi kakhulu ukuhlala nokubambelela ebudlelwaneni obungenathemba okungakwenzanga lutho ngaphandle kokukulimaza nesimo sakho sengqondo.
Ukuzikhipha ebuhlotsheni besikhathi eside obungenampilo kuyinto enesibindi ongayenza. Akulula ukuqhubekela phambili. Kepha uma wenza njalo, uzivulela amathuba namathuba amasha.
Uyazivumela uphefumule umoya wenkululeko. Ukwehlukana okunempilo kungabonisa ukuqala kwezinto ezingcono empilweni ezisazofika.
Ungazithola usendaweni ecindezelayo ngemuva kokwehlukana, ucabanga ngomonakalo ongokomzwelo obekufanele uwuthwale. Yinike isikhathi uthathe sonke isikhala osidingayo.
Ngokushesha uzobona ukuthi ukusika abantu abanobuthi kanye nobudlelwano empilweni yakho mhlawumbe bekuyikho konke obukudinga. Ukwehlukana okunempilo kuyindlela yokuqeda ubuthi empilweni yakho.
Kodwa-ke, ukweqa esiphethweni sokuthi udinga ukuhlukana ngokushesha lapho ubhekene nokusetha emuva okuncane akuyona into efanele. Bonke ubudlelwano banezikhathi ezinhle nezimbi, okuhlangenwe nakho okuhle nokubi.
Okubalulekile ukuthi kwenzeka kaningi kangakanani okuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle okwenzeka. Uma ubudlelwano bakho buhlala buyimbangela yengcindezi, lokho kungaba uphawu olubi. Kepha uma uvame ukukhathazeka noma ubhekene nezinkinga empilweni futhi ubeke icala ebudlelwaneni bakho, ukuhlukana kungaba yisinqumo esingacabangi, esingaxhamazeli.
Ungahlukana kanjani nomuntu omthandayo
Ukuhlukana nomuntu omthandayo kulula ukukusho kunokukwenza. Kungumuzwa ocindezela kakhulu kumlingani ohlukaniswe naye. Kungaba okuhlukumezayo ukudlula kokuthile ngokuzumayo uma bekungalindelekile okungenani.
Ngasikhathi sinye, akulula kulowo owaqala ukwahlukana. Ukuhlukana nomuntu omthandayo kungakushiya udangele esivunguvungwini semizwa engemihle.
Ngakho-ke kujwayelekile kubo bobabili abalingani ukuthi babhekane nezimpawu zokucindezeleka ezingaphezulu noma ezimbalwa kungakhathalekile ukuthi ngubani oqala ukwahlukana.
Ngakho-ke, uma uzibuza ukuthi ungahlukana kanjani nomuntu ngaphandle kokumlimaza, nazi izeluleko ezimbalwa okufanele uzilandele ukuze unciphise ubuhlungu bokuqeda ubudlelwano nomuntu omthandayo.
- Yiba nokuxhumana okuthembekile nokukhululekile
Kubalulekile ukungagunci ngokuveza imibono yakho lapho uqeda ubudlelwano.
Zama ukuxhumana ngokukhululekile nomlingani wakho mathupha. Ungaphendukeli ekuthumeleni imiyalezo noma ukuthumela imiyalezo enenzondo noma ama-imeyili.
Kulungile ngokuphelele kuwe ukuphuma ebuhlotsheni uma kukulimaza kakhulu kunokuhle. Kepha, ukugwema ukunambitheka okungathandeki, kungcono ukhethe ukwahlukana okunempilo.
- Gwema umdlalo wokusola
Kulula ukusola umlingani wakho uma nihlukana. Kulula ngisho nokuncipha ubuthakathaka bakho bese ubeka umthwalo wobudlelwano ohlulekile komunye umuntu.
Kepha, ungahlukana kanjani nomuntu kahle, futhi ugweme ukushintshana ngamazwi okumunyu?
Indlela enhle yokuhlukana ukugwema umdlalo osolwayo.
Ungakhetha ukuveza ngokuthula ukuthi kungani ufisa ukuphuma ebudlelwaneni. Ngasikhathi sinye, kufanele ube nesibindi sokubamba ukungapheleli kwakho.
- Lalela uhlangothi lomlingani wakho
Yize unezizathu zakho, ukwehlukana nomuntu osamthanda kubuhlungu ngokweqile.
Ngakho-ke, uma kwenzeka uzama ukuhlukana nesoka lakho noma intombi yakho, osayithanda, qiniseka ukuthi uyalalela nohlangothi lwabo lwendaba. Ungahle wenze ukucabanga ngenxa yokubuka kwakho okucwayiziwe ezintweni eziningi ngobudlelwano bakho.
Uhlangothi lozakwenu lungaqhamuka lusimangaze futhi kwazi bani, ungaze usinqamule isinqumo sakho.
- Unganikeli ngamathemba asemoyeni
Esikhundleni sokulimaza, ukwahlukana okunempilo kuyindlela engcono. Kepha, kufanele uqiniseke ukuthi awushiye ubudlelwano bakho buvulekile.
Uma uqinisekile ukuthi ufuna ukwehlukana, cacisa ngakho. Unganikeli ngamathemba wokungenzi nje ukuthi awuzwakali unenzondo.
Buka le vidiyo ukuthola ukuqonda okwengeziwe ngomqondo wokwahlukana okunempilo.
Imithetho yokuhlukana okunempilo
Ungabona imithetho eminingi yokuhlukana yenza ukujikeleza ku-inthanethi. Kepha, awusoze uthole noma yimiphi imithetho egxile kakhulu ekwahlukaneni okunempilo.
Kunezindlela eziningi zokuhlukana. Kepha, lapha kubalwe imithetho embalwa yokuqhekeka enempilo ongayibheka ku-jiffy. Le mithetho nakanjani izokusiza ukuthi ungabi nokungcola okuncane ekuhlukaniseni ngemuva kokuhlukana.
- Cacisa, kepha mnene ngamazwi akho
- Ungalokothi uhlukane ngombhalo
- Ungasebenzisi ulimi olunokhahlo
- Ungalokothi uhlukane phambi kwabangane noma umndeni
- Phatha ukusabela kwakho
- Ungazami ukwehlisa ubuhlobo bakho ebunganeni
- Musa ukululaza umlingani wakho noma ubuhlobo
Lezi yizinto ezincane ezilula okufanele uzikhumbule uma ukhetha ukuhlukana okunempilo kunokuhlukana okucasulayo.
Eqinisweni, kumane nje kuyindaba yokuzikhethela. Ungakhetha ukuba ne-acrimonious bese uya ohambweni lwecala ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Noma, ungakhetha ukuhlukana okunempilo futhi ube nokuncane ukuzisola wena nomlingani wakho.