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- Ngabe kufanele ngihlukane naye?
- Lapho kunesidingo sokwehlukana nesoka lakho
- Ungahlukana kanjani nesoka lakho - izimo ezi-4 ezinzima
- 1.Ungahlukana kanjani nomfana okuthandayo
- 2.Ungahlukana kanjani nendoda oyithandayo
- 3. Ukuhlukana uma nisathandana
- 4.Ungahlukana kanjani nesoka lesikhathi eside
- Ngahlukana nesoka lami - manje kwenzenjani?
Lapho ucabanga ukuthi ungahlukana kanjani nesoka lakho, umbuzo ovuthayo ngukuthi - bebuyini ubudlelwano bakho nobudlelwano?
Ngamanye amazwi, benizwana kanjani? Benithandana? Ngabe nisathandana? Konakelephi?
Zonke lezi zinto zizothonya indlela ozohlukana ngayo nesoka lakho, njengoba sizokukhombisa kule ndatshana.
Ngabe kufanele ngihlukane naye?
Abesifazane abaningi laphaya bahamba ngezinsuku zabo njengokujwayelekile, kuyilapho umbuzo osabekayo uhlala engqondweni yabo - ngabe kufanele ngihlukane naye nje? Kepha, ukuhlukana nesoka lesikhathi eside akulula njengoba kuzwakala.
Umuntu angalindela ukuthi kucace njengezinsuku zokuhlukana nesoka lakho. Kepha imvamisa akunjalo. Bangu izimo ezingenakubalwa ezahlukahlukene lapho nje awunasiqiniseko ukuhlukana nesoka lakho noma cha.
Uma usebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside obuhamba kahle, yize imizwa isomile, ungahle ube nomuzwa wokuthi ukwehlukana nesoka lakho kungaba isenzo sokunganaki.
Kukhona nobudlelwano obufakwe othandweni nasothandweni, kepha izici zangaphandleyenza kubo akunakwenzeka. Noma, ungahle ube ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo futhi awazi nje ukuthi ungalishiya kanjani isoka lakho liphephile.
Lapho kunesidingo sokwehlukana nesoka lakho
Akunandaba ukuthi isimo sakho esithile singaba yini, kunezimpawu ezimbalwa ezithile okufanele nakanjani uhlukane nazo nesoka lakho.
Njengoba uRandi Gunther wePsychology namuhla ekubeka, ubudlelwane obuningi kufanele kuphele ngempela.
Okulandelayo uhlu olufingqiwe lwezinkomba -
- Bobabili abalingani bazame konke,
- Abazi ukuthi kungani konakele, futhi
- Bakhathele ukuzama.
Ngaleso sizathu, ngisho nini usathanda isoka lakho, wena kufanele ahlukane naye. Yize ungahle ube madolonzima ukubangela ubuhlungu kubo nakuwe uqobo, ukuhlukana yi- okufanele ukwenze, njengoba kuzonikhulula nobabili niphishekele uthando nenjabulo kwenye indawo.
Ngakho-ke, kuleli phuzu, kunjalo isikhathi sokucabanga ngezindlela ukwehlukana nesoka lakho ngendlela enenhlonipho nenomusa.
Ungahlukana kanjani nesoka lakho - izimo ezi-4 ezinzima
1.Ungahlukana kanjani nomfana okuthandayo
Lesi yisimo esingahle sikwenze uzizwe unecala elijule kunazo zonke.
Kepha, uma ukwenzile ukucabanga kwakho futhi wanquma ukuthi ufuna ukuzikhipha kulobu budlelwano, into elungile ongayenza ukwenza lokho wazise isoka lakho eyakho isinqumo ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.
Into esemqoka ukusebenzisa izitatimende "Mina". Lokhu kwenzelwa kumenze aqonde ukuthi wena namanje mhloniphe futhi umazise, kodwa nguwe ofuna ukudlulela phambili.
Zilungiselele ukuphendula konke yemibuzo yakhe (evame ukungakhululeki) futhi ukwenze ngokuthembeka kepha hhayi ngokhahlo.
2.Ungahlukana kanjani nendoda oyithandayo
Ukuhlukana uma usathandana nomfana kungaba yilo into enzima kakhulu ukwenza. Kepha siyakuqonda lokho kunezizathu eziningi ngesinqumo esinjalo.
Uma usuthathe isinqumo, manje sekuyisikhathi sokusika ekujaheni.
Ungamshiya kanjani umuntu omthandayo? Ngendlela efanayo osusa ngayo i-band-aid. Kwenze ngokuzimisela, uyazi ukuthi kuyinto enhle kakhulu ongayenza, futhi ungabuyeli emuva. Into ebalulekile ukuthi ungaphinde uthinte yena uma usuhlukene.
3. Ukuhlukana uma nisathandana
Ukuhlukana uma nisathandana yinhlanganisela yezimo ezimbili ezedlule ezinzima.
Imvamisa kwenzeka ebudlelwaneni bebanga elide, noma ezimweni lapho omunye wenu eshadile, noma senizohamba ngezindlela ezihluke ngokuphelele zempilo. Kunoma ikuphi, thobela konke okushiwo ngaphambili, futhi lungela isikhathi sobunzima bobabili.
Yiba nokuqonda imizwa yakhe, ukusabela okwehlukile, kepha zikuthathele kuwe ukuba ube yidwala elizohola inqubo ekulapheni.
4.Ungahlukana kanjani nesoka lesikhathi eside
Ukwehlukana nesoka lesikhathi eside imvamisa kuyisi umphumela wokufa ngokomzwelo futhi isithukuthezi ebudlelwaneni.
Akuyona into yokuzizwa unecala ngayo.
Abalingani abaningi besikhathi eside bamane badlondlobele ngezindlela ezahlukene. Ngakho-ke, yisikhathi sokuqhubeka.
Isu lokuhlela ukwenza uhlelo lokuthi ungayilahla kanjani yonke imikhuba ehambisana nobudlelwano futhi wakhe impilo entsha, ehlukile.
Ngahlukana nesoka lami - manje kwenzenjani?
Akunandaba nendaba yakho nekhwalithi yobudlelwano bakho (noma ukuntuleka kwayo), kufanele uhlale njalo Nqamula nesoka lakho ngenhlonipho. Kungani? Ngoba limele wena, hhayi ubuhlobo bakho.
Uma usuphumile ebuhlotsheni ngesitayela, unga venture vula empilweni yakho entsha ngokuziqhenya nomusa. Ngakho-ke, zinike isikhathi sokuphulukisa, bese uvulela umnyango wakho kunoma yini elandelayo empilweni yakho!