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- Ukuya ocansini okuphansi kwabesifazane
- Ubulili nokusondelana
- Ukuxhumana
- Ukuba ngumzali
- Ukuzithiba nokuzethemba
- Ukuphathwa kokuphazamiseka kwesifiso sokuya ocansini kwabesifazane
Kwesinye isikhathi ufuna ucansi, futhi kwesinye isikhathi awufuni. Ukuba ne-libido eguqukayo kuyinto ejwayelekile. Ngenkathi, akuyona into engavamile ukuthi umuntu alahlekelwe yintshisekelo njalo, uma ubona ukulahleka okungazelelwe kwentshisekelo kwezocansi, kungahle kube nokunye okuqhubekayo.
Ngezikhathi ezithile ungaba nokushintsha kwemizwelo noma ngabe kubangelwa ushintsho lwehomoni, ukucindezeleka, noma imiphumela emibi yomuthi omusha. Kepha uma isimo siqhubeka, ungahle ubhekane nenkinga yesifiso sobulili esingazenzisi (HSDD).
Ukuya ocansini okuphansi kwabesifazane
Okwamanje lapho wazi ngokuntula kwakho intshisekelo ekusondeleni kocansi, kufanele ucabangele imbangela engaba khona. Ngabe usanda kuqala umuthi omusha? Ngabe ubhekene nokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini noma ukukhulelwa?
Ngabe kube khona ukucindezeleka okungadingekile empilweni yakho? Ngabe usanda kutholakala unesimo sezokwelapha njengomdlavuza, ukugula ngengqondo, isifo sezinzwa, i-hypothyroidism, noma isifo samathambo? Noma ngabe uke wezwa ubuhlungu noma ukunganeliseki ngesikhathi socansi?
Zonke lezi zinkinga zingathinta imizwa yakho ekusondelaneni futhi kungaba imbangela yesifo sakho sokuzibandakanya ngokocansi. Uma njengamanje uhlangabezana nokungabi nandaba nobulili futhi ucabanga ukuthi ungahle ube nenkinga yesifiso sobulili esingazenzisi kufanele uthintane nochwepheshe.
Ukusebenza nodokotela kungakusiza ukuthi uqhubeke uqonde imbangela, futhi, futhi unqume ngohlelo lokwelashwa kwesifo sowesifazane esinesifiso sokuya ocansini.
Njengoba uqala ukusebenza nochwepheshe wezokunakekelwa kwezokwelapha, kunezindlela ezimbalwa zokubona ukuthi ukungahambi kahle kwesifiso sobulili kuyithinta kanjani impilo yakho.
Ake sibheke izindlela ukushintsha kwesifiso socansi okungathinta ngayo impilo yakho nokuthi ungasinyusa kanjani isifiso kowesifazane.
Ubulili nokusondelana
Omunye wemiphumela yemvelo kakhulu ye-libido ephansi yinselelo ebeka ebuhlotsheni bakho bezocansi. Abesifazane abathola i-libido ephansi banciphise intshisekelo yezocansi kanye nemibono noma imicabango yocansi embalwa. Lokhu kungadala ukuthi ungafuni ukuhlanganyela ocansini nomlingani wakho noma ukubuyisa noma yikuphi ukuthuthuka komlingani wakho.
Lokhu kungabeka ubunzima obukhulu kunoma ibuphi ubudlelwano njengoba ukuguquka kwesimo sengqondo nemizwa kunguquko engazelelwe futhi ekhathazayo kunoma yimuphi umlingani. Uma lokhu kubonakala kujwayelekile esimeni sakho, qaphela izindlela ongakhulisa ngazo ukusondelana ngezinye izindlela ezingezona ezocansi.
Ngokunikeza umlingani wakho ezinye izikhuthazo zothando, ngeke bazizwe besongelwa lapho wenqaba intuthuko yabo.
Ukuxhumana
Uma usuyiqonda kangcono imvelo ye-HSDD, uzoqala ukuqaphela indima yezokuxhumana ebudlelwaneni bakho nezocansi.
Ukuntuleka kwesifiso kuvame ukuvela ngenxa yezingxabano zobudlelwano, kusho uDkt. UJennifer noLaura Berman, ochwepheshe ababili besizwe abaphezulu kwezempilo yezocansi kwabesifazane. “Izinkinga zokuxhumana, intukuthelo, ukungathembani, ukungaxhumani nokungakwazi ukusondelana konke lokhu kungathikameza ukuphendula nentshisekelo yowesifazane,” babhala encwadini yabo: For Women Only: A Revolutionary Guide to Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction and Ukubuyisa Impilo Yakho Yezocansi.
Uma lokhu kuzwakala kusebenza esimweni sakho, kubalulekile ukuthi uqale uthuthukise amakhono akho okukhulumisana, cabanga ukubona owelapha noma ukufuna ukwelulekwa nozakwenu futhi njengomsebenzi wedwa.
Ekuqaleni, lokhu kwelashwa kungabonakala kukude kakhulu ekuxazululeni inkinga ebonakalayo, kepha kungekudala uzobona ukuthi ingqondo nomzimba uhlelo oludidiyelwe kakhulu oluthinta olunye. Eqinisweni, le ndlela yokwelashwa mhlawumbe iyindlela yakho yokwelashwa engu-1 ukunqoba ukuphazamiseka kwesifiso sobulili okungenangqondo, odade bathi.
Ukuba ngumzali
Akunandaba ukuthi uzama kanzima kangakanani ukugcina izinkinga zakho emshadweni wakho zingangeni ebudlelwaneni bakho bomzali, kuzodlula.
Ochwepheshe abaningi bezobudlelwano manje bakhuthaza abazali ukuthi bavulekele izingane zabo. Izingane ziqonda kakhulu amandla ageleza ekhaya. Bazobona ikakhulukazi lapho amandla eshintsha. Kubalulekile ukuthi ugcine lokho engqondweni njengoba uqala ukuphatha i-HSDD yakho.
Uma impilo yakho yezocansi idala izinkinga, zama ukuhlala unethemba. Vulela umlingani wakho futhi nixoxe ngezindlela eningenza kangcono ngazo phambi kwezingane zenu nangasemnyango ovaliwe. Ungaqala ngokugcina konke ukuphawula kwakho ngawe, ngophathina wakho, nangobudlelwano bomndeni wakho kukuhle.
Ukuzithiba nokuzethemba
Ukuphazamiseka kwesifiso sobulili okungenangqondo kuthinta wonke umuntu ngokuhlukile. Kodwa-ke, ukuzizwa ngathi awukwazi "ukwenza" kungalimaza isithombe somuntu.
Noma nini lapho uzwa ukuzethemba kwakho kuncipha, yazi ukuthi lesi simo sivamile kwabesilisa nabesifazane. Ucwaningo lweNational Health and Social Life Survey luthole ukuthi amaphesenti angama-32 abesifazane kanye namaphesenti ayi-15 abesilisa abanantshisekelo yezocansi izinyanga ezimbalwa ngonyaka odlule.
Ukuphathwa kokuphazamiseka kwesifiso sokuya ocansini kwabesifazane
Gcina lokho engqondweni njengoba uqhubeka uphatha i-HSDD yakho. Kufanele futhi uhlale ukhuthele emizamweni yakho yokuzinakekela. Qaphela izindlela okhuluma ngazo wedwa. Nciphisa isikhathi osichitha uzigxeka wena nabanye. Kukhona amandla ngendlela okhuluma ngayo, futhi lawo mandla angakhuphula kakhulu idrayivu yakho yezocansi.
Ngenhlanhla, uchwepheshe wezokwelapha onolwazi angakusiza nokuthi uthole izinketho zokwelashwa ezifanele zokuthuthukisa i-libido yakho. Uma unemibuzo eyengeziwe ngempilo yakho yezocansi, vakashela iwebhusayithi ye-TRT MD. Ochwepheshe bethu bezokwelapha bayaziqonda izidingo zalabo abaphethwe yi-HSDD futhi banikela ngezixazululo ezahlukahlukene zokwelashwa.