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- Ungabhekana kanjani nomlingani we-narcissist
- Ukwesaba oshade naye we-narcissist
- Ukunqoba ukwesaba kwakho - Isikhathi sokwenza ukuma
- Amathiphu wokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nomlingani we-narcissist
- 1. Sukuma uzimele
- 2. Ungayinaki imizamo yabo yokukulawula
- 3. Ungaweli ngenxa yezenzo zabo ezinhle zokuzenzisa
- 4. Zama ukungalwi
- 5. Uma ufuna isehlukaniso, sithole
- 6. Ungesabi ukuqala phansi
- 7. Yakha impilo ngaphandle komlingani wakho oyichilo
- Hlanganisa ubufakazi uma kukhona ukuhlukunyezwa noma udlame
Ukushada nomuntu othanda izidakamizwa kubanga amaphupho amabi, ukuba nezingane kubo nokubabona bekhuliswa yilo muntu akuwona ngempela umndeni esiwufake emaphusheni ethu kodwa ngokudabukisayo, kungokoqobo. Kwenzekani lapho ubona ukuthi ubhajwe emshadweni nomuntu othanda izidakamizwa? Ungabhekana kanjani ne-narcissist lapho wesaba kakhulu? Usengaphuma kulo mshado? Uma ungumuntu othile noma wazi othile osesimweni esifanayo, funda.
Ungabhekana kanjani nomlingani we-narcissist
Akekho umuntu oyofuna ukushada nomqaphi. Akekho ofuna ukuchitha impilo yakhe yonke nomuntu ongenanhloso kepha ukukhohlisa nokuthola konke akufunayo kungakhathalekile ukuthi abanye abantu bazozizwa kanjani.
Akekho ofuna ukukhulisa izingane nge-narcissist noma ngabe kungani kusenzeka namanje? Kungani abantu becela usizo ukuze bahlukanise imishado yabo ngoba beshade nomkhohlisi?
Impendulo yalokhu kungenxa yokuthi enye yezici ezivame kakhulu zomuntu othanda izihibe ukuthi bangabazenzisi abakhulu, bazophelelisa isithombe esingelona iqiniso ukuheha umuntu futhi bahehe indlela abafuna ukungena ngayo kulokho abafuna ukuba yikho. Kungathatha izinyanga neminyaka yokuzenza umuntu ongcono kakhulu ukuba ngumlingani wakho futhi lapho ekugcineni beshada - sonke isihogo siyagqashuka.
Uvuka nje ekuseni ngolunye usuku ubona ukuthi ubhajwe ebudlelwaneni lapho ungamazi ngisho nomuntu osanda kushada naye. Umlingani owake waba mnandi, onomthwalo wemfanelo, noqondanayo manje usephenduke umuntu onolaka, onodlame, ohlukumezayo noxhaphazayo.
Kwenzekani manje?
Ukwesaba oshade naye we-narcissist
Ungabhekana kanjani nomlingani we-narcissist lapho ungazi ukuthi uzoqala kuphi?
Ezimweni eziningi lapho omunye wabashadikazi eyisidlamlilo ezokumangaza komunye umlingani okuzokwakha ukwesaba nokungaqiniseki komunye umuntu.
Isikhathi esiningi, oshade naye ongazi akazi ukuthi umlingani wakhe uyisidlwangudlwangu futhi uzizwa esaba umndeni. Cabanga ukuthi kungasabeka kanjani uma ungazi ukuthi uphikisana nani?
Lapho lo muntu azi ukuthi angazisebenzisa kanjani zonke izimo ukuze zisizakale - abanye abashade bazizwa bengenathemba.
Ukunqoba ukwesaba kwakho - Isikhathi sokwenza ukuma
Isikhathi sokubhekana nokwesaba kwakho, sekuyisikhathi sokuthatha isinyathelo futhi yisikhathi sokuzisindisa wena nezingane zakho kumlingani wakho. Uma uzizwa futhi usola ukuthi ushade nomuntu othanda izidakamizwa, into yokuqala okufanele ukwenze ukuqonda ukuthi yini i-narcissist nokuthi yini ongayenza ukubhekana nabo.
Ngokwencazelo, i-Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) noma lokho esikwaziyo njengokuthi nje umuntu othanda izihibe ungumuntu ongenalo uzwela kwabanye abantu, onesidingo sokunconywa nomuntu ophila ngokulangazelela okukhulu. Imvamisa, bayazikhukhumeza, banamanga, bazicabangela bona bodwa, bayakhohlisa, bafuna ngenkani, futhi abasoze bawamukele amaphutha.
Uma usuwazi amaqhinga namanga owakwakho, sekuyisikhathi sokuyeka ukwesaba bese uqala ukubhekana nawo.
Amathiphu wokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nomlingani we-narcissist
Ukubhekana nomlingani we-narcissist, kunezinto ezimbalwa okufanele uzikhumbule:
1. Sukuma uzimele
Into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukuma uqine futhi uzazi ngokwakho ngoba awukwazi ukulwa nomuntu osebenzisa izigebengu uma ungaqiniseki ngezinhloso zakho kanye nawe uqobo. Lona umdlalo wengqondo futhi kufanele uzilungiselele.
2. Ungayinaki imizamo yabo yokukulawula
Funda ukungasabeli kwizimbangela zabo. Kungenzeka kakhulu, uma owakwakho ongumlingisi wezidakamizwa ebona ukuthi uzama ukulawula impilo yakho, kuzoba nemizamo yokukunqoba. Umuntu one-NPD uzosebenzisa izimbangela ezinjengamagama, izimo, ngisho nabangane bakho nomndeni wakho ukuze wenze uphendule ngokuvumelana nezifiso zakhe. Ungavumeli lokhu kube njalo, ungakhombisi imizwa uma ungakwazi.
3. Ungaweli ngenxa yezenzo zabo ezinhle zokuzenzisa
Zilungele izethembiso, ukushukuma okuhle, nezinye izinhlelo zokukubuyisela. Uma umuntu one-NPD engakwazi ukusebenzisa ukwesaba lapho-ke bazophendukela ezenzakalweni ezinhle ukukhombisa ukuthi bashintshe kanjani nokuthi bakuthanda kangakanani futhi bakwazisa kangakanani - ungaweli kukho. Uma uhlehla, ngokuzayo, oshade naye ongathandeki ngeke esakuphatha njengosongo kepha njengehlaya.
4. Zama ukungalwi
Lindela ukufakwa ezimeni lapho kuzoba khona izingxabano futhi njengoba ufuna ukufakazela ukuthi umuntu owenza izinto ezimbi akalungile, ungazami. Qina futhi ubatshele nje ukuthi awuvumelani bese uqhubeka noma ngabe bazama kangakanani ukulwa.
5. Uma ufuna isehlukaniso, sithole
Uma ufuna ukuthola isehlukaniso futhi unomuzwa wokuthi umshado wakho awunathemba, kwenze. Cela usizo uma kudingeka ikakhulukazi uma kunophawu lodlame noma ukuhlukunyezwa. Ungesabi ukuthatha uhlangothi hhayi wena wedwa kepha nomndeni wakho.
6. Ungesabi ukuqala phansi
Impilo inkulu kakhulu futhi yinhle kunokuvalelwa emshadweni olawulwa ngumuntu osebenza ngezidlakela. Unamandla amakhulu nekhono lokuphila impilo oyifunayo yingakho oshade naye oyisidlwangudlwangu ezama ukukukhawulela ngoba bayakwazi can phila ngaphandle kwabo.
7. Yakha impilo ngaphandle komlingani wakho oyichilo
Chitha isikhathi nabantu abazi wena wangempela, abakusekelayo futhi abakhona ukukusiza. Ungesabi ukwenza abangane noma ukuqalisa imisebenzi emisha ngisho nempilo entsha ngaphandle komuntu oshade naye oyisidlwangudlwangu.
Hlanganisa ubufakazi uma kukhona ukuhlukunyezwa noma udlame
Ungavumeli lokhu kube yimpilo yakho. Cela usizo bese wenza uhlelo ukuze ukwazi ukukuyeka lokhu unomphela.
Ungabhekana kanjani nomlingani we-narcissist lapho wesaba kakhulu? Qala ngawe. Kusukela esinqumweni osenele ngokwanele ohlelweni nasekusekelweni ozokudinga - noma kunzima kangakanani, ungaphuma kulobu budlelwano obunobuthi. Khumbula ukuthi lokho esivumela ukuqhubeka kuzobusa izimpilo zethu.