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- Ngabe ukulahleka kwakho kubukeka kanjani?
- Manje kungani sizilahlekisela ebudlelwaneni?
- Ungazithola kanjani futhi
Kukhona okuthile ngokuzilahlekisela ebuhlotsheni obungaqondakali njengoba kuzwakala. Izingcweti ezingakwesobunxele kanye nezazi zokwenza izinto zingaphika: “Ungalahlekelwa kanjani? Uqinisile lapho. ”
Uma uke wabhekana nakho, uyazi.
Kungathatha isikhashana ngaphambi kokuba uqaphele. Kungakushaya ebusweni ngokungazelelwe njengethani lezitini. Noma ingahle ikukhathaze nsuku zonke, ikuhlebele endlebeni yakho ukuthi "lokhu akuyena uqobo lwakho".
Kunoma ikuphi, ukulahlekelwa ngokwakho ebuhlotsheni kuyindlela eyingozi engaholela kuphela ekubeni namandla, ukuphila okunganelisi kangako, kanye nesipiliyoni sempilo.
Umuntu ongenamandla futhi onganelisekanga kangako.
Ngabe ukulahleka kwakho kubukeka kanjani?
Yize kuliqiniso ukuthi ukuzilahlekisela ebuhlotsheni akusho ukuthi uphenduka isipoki noma ushiye umzimba wakho, kusho ukuthi ulahlekelwa ukuxhumana kwakho nobuntu bakho bangaphakathi - ikakhulukazi izifiso zakho, okufunayo, kanye nezidingo zakho ezikwenza ube umuntu oyingqayizivele.
Nazi ezinye izimpawu eziqinisekile zokuthi ulahlekelwe yilokho kuxhumana ngaphakathi kuwe ebuhlotsheni bakho:
- Uvamise ukwenza, ucabange, futhi uxoxe ngezindlela onomuzwa wokuthi umlingani wakho uzokuvumela futhi azifise esikhundleni sokuba ngumuntu wakho weqiniso, oyiqiniso.
- Uhlala ungazinaki izidingo zakho nezifiso zakho ebudlelwaneni.
- Uyabona ukuthi ubudlelwano "bukuthela phansi".
- Uhlala ubheka kumlingani wakho ukuletha injabulo esikhundleni sokubheka ngaphakathi ukuze waneliseke.
- Ulahlekelwa intshisekelo ezintweni ozithandayo, izinhloso namaphupho akho bese unaka kakhulu ukuzilibazisa nezinhloso zomlingani wakho esikhundleni salokho.
- Awukhululekile ukuhlala wedwa futhi ukhetha ukuchitha isikhathi nomlingani wakho, noma ngabe lokho kusho ukuthi uhlala uzibandakanya nezinto ezingahambisani nawe.
Manje kungani sizilahlekisela ebudlelwaneni?
Ukufunda uhlu olungenhla kuzwakala kubi impela futhi kubuza lo mbuzo: Kwenzeka kanjani lokhu? Kungani uzilahlekisela ebudlelwaneni?
Impendulo Isinamathiseli.
Uye wanamathela kumlingani wakho futhi waba umlutha kubo ngokuzenzisa okungelona iqiniso lokuthi bangagcwalisa okuthile okungenalutho ngaphakathi kuwe.
Izimfundiso eziningi Ezingokomoya zithi lo muzwa ongenalutho uqale ngesikhathi sokuzalwa. Uzizwe uphelele futhi uphelele esibelethweni sikaMama wakho, kepha ngenkathi ufika emhlabeni bekufanele uhlukane nalomuzwa wokuphelela (kwesinye isikhathi owaziwa ngokuthi 'Ubunye') kuphela ukuchitha impilo yakho yonke ufuna ukuphelela futhi.
Ngakho-ke ingxenye ethakazelisa kakhulu yokunamathiselwa kumlingani wakho iqiniso lokuthi ukulangazelela akukhathalekile ngabo. Imayelana nawe.
Nguwe ofuna okuzwakala kukuhle futhi uxosha lowo muzwa.
Mhlawumbe umlingani wakho ukwenze wazizwa umangalisa ekuqaleni kobudlelwano bakho. Uzizwe ufunwa, ufiswa, uthandwa, futhi uphelele. Bese kuthi, njengemilutha yezidakamizwa eziphendukela ekwebeni ukuze zisekele umkhuba wazo, ubulokhu ujaha lowo muzwa omangazayo yize wawungasekho. Ubulokhu ugijimela kumlingani wakho ucabanga ukuthi bazokulethela lowo muzwa omuhle kanti empeleni ubugijimela kude kakhulu futhi kude nawe.
Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi uthathe umkhuba wokwenza ngezindlela ocabanga ukuthi abanye bafuna uzenze ebudlelwaneni bakho nabazali bakho (noma abanakekeli abakhulu) zisencane.
Mhlawumbe usemncane kakhulu uthathe isinqumo sokuthi uzokwenza noma yini ukujabulisa abazali bakho - kufaka phakathi nokucacisa ukuthi iyiphi inguqulo yakho ebenze bathanda futhi bakwazisa kakhulu. Ufunde ukudlala indima nalabo osondelene nabo kakhulu ukuze uzuze uthando lwabo kunokuba umane ube nguwe, futhi lokhu kuziphatha kuphindaphindiwe ebudlelwaneni bakho bezothando.
Enye incazelo yilokhu esikubiza ngokuthi emkhakheni wezengqondo "Okunamathiselwe Okungaphephile". Lokhu kusho ukuthi umnakekeli wakho oyinhloko akakwazanga ukuhlangabezana nezifiso zakho ezihlukile kanye nezidingo zomzimba noma ezingokomzwelo lapho useyingane.
Kungenzeka ukuthi wondliwe ngokwesheduli (noma mhlawumbe nohlelo “lochwepheshe”) esikhundleni sokumane ulambe. Noma mhlawumbe uphoqelelwe ukuba ulale embhedeni ngo-7 ebusuku njalo ebusuku, noma ngabe ukhathele noma cha.
Mhlawumbe ubungenakho ukukhetha ukuthi yiziphi izingubo ozigqokile usuku nosuku. Ukusuka kulezi zinhlobo zezenzeko, wafunda ukunika izidingo zakho zemvelo kanye nezifiso kubanakekeli bakho nakwabathandekayo bakho.
Cishe awuzange unikezwe isikhala sokuchaza izidingo zakho. Ngenxa yalokho, uzifake kubazali bakho ungazibandakanyi, wesaba kakhulu ukuzimela (noma ukuzinakekela), bese “wenza kabusha” noma uphinda leli phethini ebudlelwaneni bezothando kamuva empilweni.
Ungazithola kanjani futhi
Manje njengoba usuqonda kabanzi ukuthi kungani uzilahlekele ebuhlotsheni bakho, lokho kucela lo mbuzo: Uhlangana kanjani nezidingo zethu zangaphakathi ukuze uzithole futhi?
Uyazijwayeza.
Zijwayeze ukuxhumana nawe bese uxhuma ezidingweni zakho nsuku zonke.
Nawa amanye amathiphu namathuluzi wokuthi uzijwayeze ukuzithola futhi:
- Zibuze usuku ngalunye, "Yini engiyidingayo namuhla?"
Ngena ngokwakho mayelana nemisebenzi yosuku kufaka phakathi ukuzondla wena, ukuya emsebenzini wakho, ukuxhumana nabanye, ukusebenza, noma ukuzondla:
- Ungazizwa udinga ukuphuza kuphela ama-smoothies wezithelo wosuku noma ukuthi udinga ukuzitika kulelo qebelengwane lekhekhelethi.
- Ungahle udinge ukuthatha ikhefu emsebenzini ukuze ufike olwandle, noma ufake usuku lwamahora ayi-12 ukuze uqedele umsebenzi.
- Ungadinga ukushayela umngani wakho omkhulu noma uvale ifoni yakho.
- Noma mhlawumbe udinga ikilasi le-yoga elikhahlela ngezithukuthuku elijulukayo, ukugeza, ukulala kancane, noma ukuzindla okulungele ihora.
Thatha isikhathi sokuzilalela ngokweqiniso ngalokho okukuzuzayo, kungakhathalekile izidingo zomlingani wakho noma ukuthi uzizwa unjani. Thembela imilayezo yakho yangaphakathi ukuthuthukisa umuzwa oqinile wakho kanye nezifiso zakho.
Ungazijwayeza nokungena nawe izikhathi eziningana phakathi nosuku, “Yini engiyidingayo ngalesi sikhathi?” Ziyini izidingo zami njengamanje? Yini engiyifisayo? ”
Uma uthola ukuthi uvame ukubeka izidingo zabalingani bakho ngaphambi kwezakho, zimise wena bese ubona lapho ungakha khona ibhalansi ebudlelwaneni bakho.
- Yiba umzali wakho
Uma umzali wakho engakwazanga ukuthobela futhi anake izidingo zakho futhi ubheke kumlingani wakho ukuze akuqondise, qala ukuzenzela lapho ngendlela ongathanda ukuthi 'uMzali Ofanele' abe khona ngawe. Uma ungaba umzali wakho Ofanelekayo, cishe uzokwenza ezinye zezinto ezilandelayo:
Zinike isikhala sokuhlola impilo. Zazise ngomsebenzi owenze kahle. Yiba nobubele beqiniso ngokwakho. Zithande ngokungenamibandela.
Zazi wena nokuthi uphendula kanjani ku-Life. Yazi amandla akho nobuthakathaka bakho. Yiba ngummeli wakho omuhle kakhulu. Lalela izidingo zakho bese uphendula ukuzifeza uma zikusiza kakhulu. Zibonise ukuthi ubaluleke kangakanani. Zazise futhi ugubhe izipho zakho.
- Yiba isithandwa sakho
Esikhundleni sokuhlala ubheka kumlingani wakho ukuthi akunelise futhi akufeze, zijwayeze ukuzigcwalisa. Zikhiphe ngezinsuku. Thenga ngokwakho izimbali. Thinta umzimba wakho ngothando. Zenzele uthando amahora. Qaphela futhi uzilalele. Yiba umngane wakho omkhulu. Zijwayeze ukungabheki kwabanye ukuthola indlela yakho.
Leli ithuluzi elihle lokuxhumana nawe uma ngabe ulahlekile ebudlelwaneni njengamanje. Ungabugcina ubudlelwano bakho nomlingani wakho futhi ngasikhathi sinye uqinise (noma uqale) ubudlelwano onabo nawe. Akekho omunye umuntu ongasebenza ebudlelwaneni bakho nawe ngaphandle kwakho.
- Yiba nawe
Zibuze: Yini engithanda ukuyenza, ezimele kumlingani wami?
Hlola izinto zokuzilibazisa nemisebenzi ehlukile. Chitha isikhathi sakho ukuze ukwazi ukuzazi nokuthi yini oyidingayo. Uma uthola ukuthi kunzima ukuba nawe, namathela kukho. Kwesinye isikhathi kufanele uchithe isikhathi uwedwa uzizonda ukuze ufunde ukuthi ungazithanda kanjani ngokugcwele futhi ujabulele inkampani yakho.
Kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi uma uzilahlekisela ebudlelwaneni bakho, akulona iphutha lowakwakho. Akulona iphutha labazali bakho noma abanakekeli nabo. Benze konke okusemandleni abo ngalokho abakufundile noma abakwaziyo, njengawe.
Esikhundleni sokubeka icala ngokuziphatha kwakho, uzijwayeze ukuthatha umthwalo wazo zonke izinqumo empilweni yakho (owaziyo noma oqulekile) ngaphandle kohlaka lokwahlulela 'kokulungile' noma 'okungalungile'. Thembela ukuthi uzilahlekele ukuze uthole isifundo esibalulekile sempilo.
Mhlawumbe udlule kokuhlangenwe nakho kokuzilahlekisela wena ukuze uzithole usungene ngendlela ejule kakhulu kunakuqala.
Ukuze uzazi ngokwengeziwe.
Ukuze uzilawule ngokwengeziwe.
Okokugcina, uma njengamanje ukulobudlelwano lapho ulahlekelwe khona, nguwe kuphela onganquma ukuthi uzohlala yini ebudlelwaneni bakho noma cha. Uma udidekile noma unama-ambivalent, themba ukuthi leso sikhathi sizokutshela okufanele ukwenze. Kuhlala kusiza ukusebenza nomelaphi ongakubambela isikhala ngenkathi ucacelwa ukuthi yini ongayikhetha, ngakho-ke finyelela kumuntu ohlangana nawe.
Khumbula nje: ubudlelwano obunempilo bukuvumela ukuthi ube ngokwengeziwe kuwe, hhayi ngaphansi.