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- Bheka okuhle
- Lindela isithupha somzali wesinyathelo sokunyathela
- Lapho unomona ngezingane zoshade naye
- Gxila kulokho okwazi ukukulawula
- Nikeza wonke umuntu isikhathi — kuhlanganise nawe
Noma ngabe nguwe osemshadweni wakho wesibili, noma ushada nomunye osemshadweni wabo wesibili - izinto sezizoshintsha. Akunandaba ukuthi umthanda kangakanani umuntu oshade naye, uma unezinyathelo = izingane ekuxubeni, lokho kusho indlu egcwele ngokugcwele, kanye nabanye abazali abangabhekana nabo.
Kungahle kudingeke ubhekane nenye yezinkinga zomndeni ezihlangene kakhulu - umona.
Kungani umona udlange kangaka emindenini ehlangene? Ngoba imihlaba yawo wonke umuntu isanda kushintsha kakhulu. Kunzima ukwazi ukuthi yini ongayilindela. Ngakho-ke uvame ukuba ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokududuza. Mhlawumbe uyesaba kancane.
Awuqinisekile ukuthi yini ejwayelekile, noma ukuthi uzizwa kanjani. Okwamanje, ungahle ungazizwa sengathi uphathwa ngokufanele futhi ungathola umona othile womzali wokutholwa. Yize lokhu kujwayelekile, kusenzima ukuhlala nakho. Imishado yesibili enezingane zokutholwa ingaba yinselelo kancane.
Nawa amanye amathiphu okuthi ungabhekana kanjani nomona womzali wokutholwa.
Bheka okuhle
Uma ubona ukuthi ingane yakho iba nobudlelwano obuhle nomlingani omusha womuntu wakini wakudala, kungadala ukuthi ube nomona. Ingani ingane yakho leyo, hhayi eyabo!
Manje banomunye umuntu empilweni yabo naye ongumzali, kungahle kube sengathi bantshontsha ingane yakho. Kodwa ingabe kunjalo ngempela? Cha, abazami ukuthatha indawo yakho. Uzohlala ungumzali wabo.
Esikhundleni sokugxila emizweni yakho enomona, zama ukubheka okuhle. Qaphela ukuthi lobu budlelwano obuhle nomzali wokutholwa kuyinto enhle enganeni yakho; kungahle kube kubi kakhulu. Jabula ngokuthi lo mzali wokutholwa unethonya elihle enganeni yakho.
Lindela isithupha somzali wesinyathelo sokunyathela
Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho ungazizwa sengathi usingamzali ungena endaweni yakho futhi kukwenze ube nomona womzali wokutholwa. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi bacabanga ukuthi bangaba kanjani usingamzali omuhle.
Bakwenzela wena! Noma kunjalo, ungalindela ukuzwa umona.
Uma ulindele ukuthi kuzoba nezikhathi lapho uzizwa unesikhwele, ngethemba ukuthi lapho isikhathi sifika ngeke uzizwe kanzima. Cabanga ngezimo ezingenzeka:
bathumela izithombe zezingane zakho ezinkundleni zokuxhumana bethokoza ngokuthi zikhulu kangakanani; bababiza ngokuthi "izingane" zabo; izingane zakho zibabiza ngokuthi "mama" noma "baba," njll.
Lindela ukuthi kwenzeke lolu hlobo lwento, futhi wazi nje ukuthi kulungile ukuzwa sengathi izinzwane zakho ziyanyathelwa, umona womzali wokutholwa umuzwa ojwayelekile ongazizwa ukulesi simo.
Kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi kuyinto eyodwa ukuzwa umona omncane, nokunye ukwenza ngakho. Nquma manje ukuthi noma ngabe uzokwenzenjani ngaphakathi, uzozama konke okusemandleni akho ukuthi ungakuvumeli kuthinte ubuhlobo bakho nezingane zakho.
Lezi yizinto ezinhle enganeni yakho, futhi kungcono ukubeka umhawu wakho womzali wokutholwa eceleni ngentshisekelo yezingane zakho.
Lapho unomona ngezingane zoshade naye
Uma ungumlingani wesibili, futhi oshade naye enezingane, ngakho-ke lungela ukuzwa umhawu omncane ngobuhlobo babo bomzali nengane.
Lapho uqala ukushada, kungenzeka ukuthi ulindele uthando nokunakwa okwengeziwe koshade naye; ngakho-ke lapho ingane yabo ibadinga kakhulu, ungazizwa udumele futhi imizwa yesikhwele somzali wokutholwa ingangena.
Eqinisweni, ungazizwa ukhohliswe kancane kuleso sigaba "esisanda kushada" imibhangqwana eminingi eqala ukushada ngaphandle kwezingane ibonakala inakho. Khumbula ukuthi ngenkathi ushada nomuntu obesenezingane, ubusazi ukuthi ungena kuphi.
Bhekana neqiniso lapha; oshade naye kufanele abe lapho nezingane zakhe. Bayabadinga abazali babo. Ngenkathi ukwazi lokhu, ukubhekana nokuthi kusho ukuthini lokho kungenzeka kungabi yilokho okulindele.
Uma uzibuza ukuthi ungasinda kanjani emshadweni nezingane zokutholwa, qiniseka ukuthi uxoxa ngemizwa yakho noshade naye ukuze ungazizwa sengathi uwedwa kulokhu.
Khuluma ngalokho okudingayo ukubeka eceleni, nokuthi yini oyidingayo koshade naye, ukuze usize ekwenzeni ikhaya lakho lijabule. Ungavumeli umona womzali wokutholwa ukunqobe.
Ukuze uqede futhi wenze ngezinkinga zezingane zokutholwa, umona yimizwa okufanele uyiqede. Into engcono kakhulu ongayenza manje ukwakha ubudlelwano nezingane zakho zokutholwa ezintsha.
Ukuze ulwe nazo zonke izinkinga zakho zomshado wesibili, izingane zokutholwa ziyisihluthulelo; ubungane nabo nengxenye yezinkinga zakho ingaxazululwa.
Gxila kulokho okwazi ukukulawula
Ngezikhathi ezithile, unganikina ikhanda ngezinqumo ezenziwa izingane ezikhulisa izingane zakho noma usingamzali wezingane zakho. Zama ukungavumeli lokho abakwenzayo kukukhathaze — awukwazi ukulawula abakwenzayo, noma kunjalo.
Esikhundleni salokho, gxila kulokho okwazi ukukulawula, futhi ungavumeli umona womzali wokutholwa ube yingxenye ekwahluleleni kwakho. Yiba nomusa futhi usize, beka imingcele, futhi wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuze ube lapho kudingeka.
Zama ukudedela lokho ongakwazi ukukulawula, futhi wenze konke okusemandleni ngalokhu ongakwenza.
Nikeza wonke umuntu isikhathi — kuhlanganise nawe
Lapho umndeni wakho uhlangana okokuqala, ungalindeli ukuthi izinto zizokuba mnandi ngobusuku obubodwa. Kungaba khona ukuphakama okucacile nokwehla ngaphambi kokuba izinto ziqale ukuphuma ziye kokujwayelekile.
Uma uhlangabezana nomona womzali wokutholwa, zama ukusebenzela ukwedlula futhi ubone ukuthi kuzodlula. Vele unikeze wonke umuntu isikhathi sokujwayela leli lungiselelo elisha.
Zinike isikhathi sokuzivumelanisa. Ungazishayi uma uzizwa unomona kwesinye isikhathi, funda nje kukho. Ungafunda izingcaphuno zabazali bokutholwa ukuze uzizwe ungcono futhi ugqugquzeleke ukwenza leli lungiselelo lomndeni lisebenze.