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- Uyini umona, ncamashi?
- 1. Umuntu ufuna sonke isikhathi sakho samahhala
- 2. Babheka “izimpawu” ozikhohlisayo
- 3. Bagxeka izintshisekelo zakho zangaphandle
- 4. Umuntu uyaxakaniseka uma engakwazi ukukubamba
- 1. Imizwa akudingeki isetshenziselwe
- 2. Zikhumbuze ukuthi awukwazi ukulawula umlingani wakho
- 3. Cabanga kabusha ngokuthi ucabanga kanjani ngobudlelwano
- 4. Kholelwa emandleni akho wothando
Ingabe uwuhlobo lomuntu ongazizwa enomona ebudlelwaneni?
Izinga elincane lomhawu livamile. Ubona isoka lakho lichitha isikhathi esincane kakhulu lixoxa nalowo osebenza naye oshisayo ephathini lakho likaKhisimusi, ngakho-ke ukuzwa umona nokungazethembi kungaba yinto ejwayelekile.
Kepha umona omningi, uhlobo lapho ucupha khona izinkundla zokuxhumana zakhe ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi umshayela kubo bonke abesifazane abaphawula kokuthunyelwe kwakhe? Lokho kungalimaza hhayi kuphela ubuhlobo bakho kepha nokuthula kwengqondo kwansuku zonke.
Umona omningi ebudlelwaneni awunampilo. Kungaholela ekugcineni kobudlelwano bakho.
Ngempela, kungaholela ekubulaweni komuntu, khumbula u-O.J. USimpson?
Uyini umona, ncamashi?
Umona umuzwa ovela kumuzwa ophansi wokuzihlonipha. Ngoba awuzizwa uvikelekile, uyakhathazeka futhi ukhathazeke lapho umlingani wakho enentshisekelo komunye umuntu.
Abantu abanomona bazizwa besongelwa ngokuthi umlingani wabo uzothola omunye umuntu oheha ngokwengeziwe abashiye.
Umuntu onomona unomuzwa wokuthi kuncane abangakunikeza nokuthi konke okungadinga ukuthi umlingani wabo abashiye ngomunye wesifazane, "ongcono" kunabo.
Isikhwele esincane singahle sithokozise umlingani wakho. Bangabona lokhu njengophawu lokuthi ubathanda ngokweqiniso, futhi baqinisile. Kepha izinga lomona elingelona elemvelo alikona ukuthopha. Ingakhombisa inkinga ejulile yezempilo yengqondo.
Yiziphi ezinye izinkomba zezinga elingenampilo lomona ebudlelwaneni?
1. Umuntu ufuna sonke isikhathi sakho samahhala
Lapho uthando lusha kuyinto ejwayelekile ukufuna ukuba nentshisekelo yothando lwakho ngangokunokwenzeka.
Abantu abaphilile bayakuqonda ukuthi lokhu akwenzeki ngaso sonke isikhathi. Abantu kufanele basebenze, banemithwalo yemfanelo ngaphandle komsebenzi, bathanda ukuya ejimini, benze izinto abazithandayo, njll.
Umuntu onesikhwele esikhulu uyasizonda isikhathi asichithe kude nabo futhi bazisa umlingani wakhe ngalokhu ngokukhononda, ukukhononda, kwesinye isikhathi nokukhala.
Lokho kufulegi elibomvu lomona ebudlelwaneni.
2. Babheka “izimpawu” ozikhohlisayo
Umuntu onomona uhlale usola okwenzayo uma ungekho nabo.
Abakwethembi, hhayi ngoba ubanikeze isizathu sokungakwethembi, kepha ngoba iphutha labo ukuthi awuthembekile uma ungekho kubo.
Uma unombhalo ongenayo, bazofuna ngokushesha ukwazi ukuthi uvela kubani.
Uma ushiya ifoni yakho ngaphandle futhi ivulekile, bazodlula imiyalezo yakho ne-imeyili. Uma uphume nabangani bakho ebusuku, umuntu onomona uzokushayela ukuze nje aqiniseke ukuthi ukhona lapho uthe uzoba khona.
3. Bagxeka izintshisekelo zakho zangaphandle
Umuntu onomona ngeke abe nomhawu ngabangane bakho kuphela kodwa nangendlela osisebenzisa ngayo isikhathi sakho sokuphumula.
Babona lezi zinto njengokuncintisana kanye nosongo kubo. Ngakho-ke bazolulaza izinkanuko zakho, bazibize ngezinsana noma ukuchitha isikhathi.
Bazosola umndeni wakho futhi bahlekise ngabangani bakho. Inhloso yabo ukukuhlukanisa nakho konke okususa kubo, ngisho nosuku.
Lokho kuyisibonakaliso esivelele somhawu ongenampilo ebudlelwaneni!
4. Umuntu uyaxakaniseka uma engakwazi ukukubamba
Umuntu onomona akakwazi ukuyimela uma ucime ifoni yakho ngoba usemhlanganweni, noma ulale kancane.
Awubathumelanga imiyalezo ngokushesha? Zilungiselele ukungqubuzana okuthile.
Ukungaphenduli kwakho kusho ukuthi unake okuthile ngaphandle kwabo, futhi nomuntu onomona, lokho akwamukeleki.
Uma uziqaphela kunoma iyiphi yalezi zincazelo, uzofuna ukusebenzela ukunciphisa noma ukuqeda umhawu ongenampilo ebudlelwaneni.
Bazokuxosha ubudlelwane bakho obuseduze.
Uma, ulwa nokuthi ungayeka kanjani ukuba nomona ebudlelwaneni, bukela le vidiyo kaNowa Elkrief.
Nawa amanye amathiphu wokunciphisa imizwa yakho yesikhwele ebudlelwaneni.
1. Imizwa akudingeki isetshenziselwe
Ungabi kanjani nomona? Okokuqala, lapho uqala ukuzwa lesi silo esinamehlo aluhlaza, yima futhi usamukele.
Yebo, uzizwa unomona. Kepha kungama lapho. Kunzima ukuyeka ukuba nomona, noma kunjalo, asikho isidingo sokwenza noma yini ngaphandle kokuzwa lo muzwa.
Ukulwa nomona ebudlelwaneni akulula, kepha ukwazi isimo sakho sengqondo kungakusiza wenze ukuthula nalesi simo futhi usize ekunqobeni umona, ngemuva kwalokho.
Ziphazamise ngokwenza okuthile okukwenza uzizwe umuhle. Isikhathi sokuzindla ngokuvuma okuthile, isibonelo.
2. Zikhumbuze ukuthi awukwazi ukulawula umlingani wakho
Ungawunqoba kanjani umona ngendlela enempilo, eguqukayo? Enye yezeluleko zokudlula umona ukuqonda ukuthi umona ungaba umbulali wobudlelwano buthule.
Lapho imizwa yakho enomona ikwenza ufune ukugcina amathebhu ahlala ekhona lapho umlingani wakho ekhona ngaso sonke isikhathi, khumbula: ukungaqiniseki kuyingxenye yempilo ejwayelekile. Ukungabikho komunye akusho ukuthi bakomunye umuntu.
Kepha ukubalawula akusona isiqinisekiso sokuthi bazohlala nawe.
Eqinisweni, mhlawumbe kuzoholela ekutheni bakushiye. Nqoba umona ebudlelwaneni ngaphambi kokuthi bonakalise impilo yakho. Ekugcineni, kumayelana nokuzazi ngesikhathi esifanele.
3. Cabanga kabusha ngokuthi ucabanga kanjani ngobudlelwano
Uthando alusho ukuthi bobabili abalingani abasoze bakhangwa omunye umuntu, ngakho-ke yeka ukungazethembi.
Kujwayelekile ukuthi nobabili nithole abanye abantu bebukeka kahle.
Akunasidingo sokuphonsa umona ngoba umlingani wakho uthi uthola okuhle kukaKate Upton. Unento eyimfihlo kaRyan Gosling, akunjalo? "Kungenzeka ukuthi udla ukudla kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi awukwazi ukubheka imenyu", njengoba kusho isisho. Akunangqondo futhi ukuba nomona ngobuhlobo obudlule,
Enye yezindlela zokuqeda umona ukulungisa kabusha okulindele kumlingani wakho nakubudlelwano.
Ukuvimba umona ebudlelwaneni akuyona into elula. Ukufuna ukwelashwa ngomona nokungazethembi kungakusiza ukuthi ugqashule emizweni yakho emibi kunokulwa nayo wedwa.
Uma unamathemba angenangqondo mayelana nokuthi ubudlelwano bufanele bubukeke kanjani, yenza okuthile usebenza nomelaphi ukuguqula lokhu okulindelwe, futhi usize ukuqeda imizwa yakho yesikhwele.
Ukungenelela kochwepheshe, nokwethembekile komuntu wesithathu kukunika ukuqonda okulungile kokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nomona emshadweni noma iseluleko sokunqoba umona nokungavikeleki ebudlelwaneni obuseduze.
4. Kholelwa emandleni akho wothando
Iningi lemizwa yomona ebudlelwaneni ivela endaweni yokuzizwa ingalufanele uthando.
Ngakho-ke, ungayeka kanjani ukuba nomona ebudlelwaneni futhi unqobe ukukhathazeka nolaka okukugcwalisa ngakho?
Sebenzela ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwakho nezethi zakho zezinkolelo ngenani lakho.
Uzobona ukuthi lapho uzazisa wena, imizwa yakho yesikhwele kwabanye izokwehla. Uzoba sendleleni eya ekuphileni okuhle, olinganiselayo nojabulo lomqondo.
Sethemba ukuthi lawa macebiso okudlula umona ebudlelwaneni azokusiza ukuthi ubone, futhi udedele imizwa engenamsebenzi, eyonakalisayo, bese uyiyeka.
Njengoba lesisho esidumile esivela kuBob Marley siqhubeka nendlela yokuqeda izindaba zomona, ”Impilo ingumgwaqo owodwa omkhulu onezimpawu eziningi. Ngakho-ke lapho ugibela emaceleni, ungawucindezeli umqondo wakho. Balekela inzondo, ububi, nomona. Ungangcwabi imicabango yakho, beka umbono wakho ube ngokoqobo. Vuka uphile!"
Ngakho-ke, ungabi namahloni ngomona ebudlelwaneni, vula umnyango wokukuvuma nokufunda ukuthi ungasiphatha kanjani umona ebudlelwaneni.