Ubudlelwano buyinselele. Futhi, ngemuva kokusiza imibhangqwana ukuvubukula ubudlelwano bayo iminyaka eminingi, ngithole amagugu ambalwa angakusiza ukuthi ujabule futhi uxhumeke kakhulu kumlingani wakho. Isifinyezo esithi H-A-P-P-Y H-E-A-R-T-S sizokukhumbuza ngephuzu ngalinye.
1. H-Bamba izandla bese uyangana. Noma ungayi ocansini, ukubamba ngesandla nokugona kuzokwandisa ama-endorphin akho (amakhemikhali azizwa emuhle) angakuthulisa futhi akuxhumanise nomlingani wakho.
2. A-Yamukela. Utshani buvame ukuba luhlaza emadlelweni eminye imibhangqwana kepha, qiniseka, leyo mibhangqwana inezinkinga zayo nayo. Gxila kokusebenzayo ebudlelwaneni bakho, ukuthi kungani umthanda oshade naye futhi ubona ukuthi akekho umuntu ophelele — okubandakanya nawe.
3. I-P-Power icishe futhi ishune. Uma wena nomlingani wakho ningababukeli abathandekayo bethelevishini, cisha isethi yenu nishintshane ngokuhlelelana. Ukufaka umhlaba wabo wemicabango nemizwa yabo okwemizuzu embalwa nje kuzobenza bazizwe benakekelwa, kwehlise izingcindezi zabo bese kubaxhuma kuwe.
4. P-Dlala. Ubudlelwano bungaba bukhulu futhi bucindezele kwesinye isikhathi. SO, qiniseka ukuthi unezikhathi eziningi zobumnandi ezizayo. Hlela ukuhamba okuncane, imisebenzi yangaphandle noma nje ukugoqa isikhathi embhedeni ndawonye. Ukudlala namahlaya kuyasondelana.
Bheka futhi: Indlela Yokuthola Injabulo Emshadweni Wakho
5. Y-Yell No More. Veza imizwa yakho ethambile. Kulula ukuthukuthela umlingani wakho kepha ngaphansi kwentukuthelo kufihle imizwa yokulimala, ukudabuka, ukwenqatshwa, ukwesaba, isizungu, ukukhashelwa, amahloni nokwaliwa ukubala okumbalwa. Ukuveza imizwa esengozini enkulu kuzomema umlingani wakho ukuthi axhumane nawe.
6. H-Siza Umlingani Wakho. Ukubuza umlingani wakho ukuthi ungafaka yini igesi emotweni yabo, ukuwasha izingubo noma ukuhlanza ikheji le-canary kuzobenza bazizwe sengathi zombili izingxenye zeqembu. Ukucabangela nokucabangela ezinye zezindlela esibonisa ngazo uthando.
7. E-Lindela okuncane. Ukulindela kubangela ukudumala futhi kuzalwa "ngama-Shoulds." Akukho “okufanele” ebudlelwaneni ngaphandle kwenhlonipho, ukwethembeka nomusa. Ngakho-ke, uma ucabanga ukuthi umlingani wakho kufanele akhiphe udoti, ahlanze idrowa labo lamasokisi noma akutshele ukuthi ungumpheki omkhulu kanjani, uzilungiselela ukudumazeka okuthile.
8. A-Vumela. Vumela umlingani wakho ukuthi azizwe kabi. Ungazami ukulungisa ukucindezeleka kwabo, intukuthelo noma ukulimala. Uma uyimbangela, xolisa. Uma kungenjalo, banikeze isikhala sokucubungula le mizwa. Lapho sebeziqonda, bazozizwa bengcono.
9. R-Ukuqinisekisa. Qinisekisa oshade naye ukuthi uyabathanda, njengabo futhi uyabazisa. Ukwenza lokhu nsuku zonke kuzothuthukisa ubuhlobo bakho benjabulo ngokushesha.
10. T-Khuluma Iqiniso. Yiba oqondile. Uma ukhulele ekhaya lapho izingane zazibonwa futhi zingavamile ukuzwa, ungahle unqikaze ukutshela umlingani wakho ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngempela. Ukuba oqondile kungaba yingozi kepha kungakuthola okufunayo, kwakha ubuhlobo obuseduze nomlingani wakho futhi kukusize uzizwe unamandla.