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- 1. Zinike isikhathi sokululama
- 2. Yiba nomusa kuwe
- 3. Qala ukwakha kabusha ukuthi ungubani
- 4. Thatha uhambo ngokwakho
- 5. Nakekela kakhulu ngokudla kwakho nokuvivinya umzimba
- 6. Akudingeki ukuthi ukwenze lokhu wedwa
Uyinki usomile emaphepheni akho edivosi, futhi manje awukashadi ngokusemthethweni, ulwa nezindlela ezahlukahlukene zokululama esahlukanisweni. Ngabe usale uzibuza ukuthi uzolulama kanjani esehlukanisweni futhi ubhekane kanjani nobuhlungu obufaka ukuqedwa komshado?
Bese hlala nathi njengoba sikunikeza izeluleko ezisebenzayo zokwelashwa ngesahlukaniso nokuqala kabusha.
Noma ngabe ubuseshade amashumi eminyaka, noma nje iminyaka embalwa (noma ngaphansi), ukusuka ekubeni ngumuntu oshadile kuya ekubeni ongashadile futhi kubalulekile. Ngokungazelelwe ukulesi sigaba esisha sempilo, futhi uzibuza ukuthi ungasihamba kanjani lesi sikhathi sokululama ngemuva kwesehlukaniso.
Nazi ezinye izindlela ezikhiqizayo zokululama kudivosi.
Kepha okokuqala, ukwelashwa ngesehlukaniso akuyona into elula. Noma isehlukaniso sibonakala siyisiqalo ngemuva kokuphela isikhathi eside, okuhamba kancane futhi kwesinye isikhathi okubuhlungu emshadweni wakho, kungaholela ebuhlungwini, intukuthelo, nemibuzo: Ingabe ngenze isinqumo esifanele?
Ngakho-ke, ukuphulukiswa ngemuva kwesahlukaniso kuyadingeka futhi kungabonakala njengethuba eliyingqayizivele lokukhula komuntu siqu.
Ungaphola kanjani ngemuva kwesehlukaniso
Kunezinto eziningi ongazenza ukusiza ukuphulukiswa kwakho uqobo kusuka esahlukanisweni. Ezinye izincomo ezivela kulabo abake bahamba ngale ndlela ngaphambili zifaka okulandelayo:
1. Zinike isikhathi sokululama
Akunandaba ukuthi inqubo yokuphulukisa isehlukaniso ithatha isikhathi esingakanani, ubuhlungu besahlukaniso abupheli ngokuphelele, futhi lokho kujwayelekile.
Ngakho-ke, ungaphola kanjani ngesahlukaniso? Ukubuyiselwa emuva kwesehlukaniso akuyona indlela eqondile; niyoba nezinsuku ezinhle, futhi nibe nezinsuku ezimbi.
Uyazi ukuthi ekugcineni, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izinsuku zakho ezinhle zizodlula izinsuku zakho ezimbi. Kepha zinike ikhefu lapho uqala ukuzwa ukucasuka kwesehlukaniso: lolu sizi luthetheleleka ngokuphelele.
Wake wamthanda umlingani wakho, futhi ukuphela kwalelo kusasa obelicabanga nabo manje sekuphelile.
2. Yiba nomusa kuwe
Uma ngabe wake waba khona umzuzu woku zijwayeze ukuzinakekela okukhulu, lokhu kufanele kube yinto eza kuqala kuwe ngenkathi uphulukisa ngesahlukaniso.
Ingxenye yenqubo yakho yokutakula isehlukaniso kufanele ifake ukwenza kwansuku zonke kwezinyathelo zokuzelapha ngesisa.
Ungalulama kanjani esehlukanisweni, faka ukuziqinisekisa, njengokuthi “Ngingumuntu ofanele, obalulekile,” noma “Abantu badonseleka ekukhanyeni kwami kwangaphakathi,” ikakhulukazi lapho ubuchopho bakho buhlala ezinhlungwini zesehlukaniso futhi bakutshela ngenye indlela.
3. Qala ukwakha kabusha ukuthi ungubani
Sebenzisa isehlukaniso ukwenza thola kabusha ukuthi ungubani. Manje njengoba ungashadile futhi ufuna izindlela zokuthola idivosi ngokushesha, yenza uhlu lwezinto zokuzilibazisa oziyekelayo ngesikhathi somshado wakho, nokuthi yini ongayenza ukuze ubuyele kulabo.
Inzuzo enhle yokuthola kabusha isehlukaniso yikhono lokubuyela ezinkanukweni zakho eziyinhloko ngaphandle kokuzwa sengathi unobugovu.
4. Thatha uhambo ngokwakho
Ukuthola indawo entsha kuwe kuyasiza lapho welashwa ngemuva kwesahlukaniso. Uphuphe ukuphi ngokuhambela?
Manje yisikhathi sokwenza lokho kwenzeke.
Ukuhamba wedwa kuyindlela enhle yokwakha umuzwa wolaka, engasiza ekuqedeni imizwa yokudangala ongaba nayo ngemuva kwesehlukaniso.
Bhuka uhambo lokuya endaweni ongakaze ufike kuyo, upake izikhwama zakho futhi uvulekele ukuhlangana nabantu abasha njengoba ubheka izindawo ezintsha.
Buka futhi: Izizathu Eziningi Ezivamile Zesehlukaniso
5. Nakekela kakhulu ngokudla kwakho nokuvivinya umzimba
Kubaluleke kakhulu ezinyathelweni zakho zokutakula isehlukaniso ukungazivumeli ukuba ulingeke ukuba ulwe nobuhlungu bakho ngokudla ukudla okungenampilo noma ulele usofa lapho ubuka amahora angapheli we-TV engenamsoco.
Leyo mikhuba izokuholela ekunciphiseni kokucindezeleka, kwenze kube ngcono ukululama esehlukanisweni.
Esikhundleni salokho, yidla ngokulinganisela ngangokunokwenzeka, kufaka phakathi izithelo nemifino emisha, ushokoledi omnyama osezingeni eliphakeme (uphakamisa imizwa yakho), nokunyakaza okuningi kwangaphandle, lapho ukukhanya kwelanga kuzothuthukisa imimoya yakho.
Njengeseluleko esiwusizo sokuthi ungalulama kanjani esahlukanisweni, gcina lolu hlelo nsuku zonke njengendlela yokuqhubeka uye phambili. Ufuna ukuba sesimweni esihle kakhulu njengoba ulungiselela ukuqala isahluko esilandelayo empilweni yakho.
6. Akudingeki ukuthi ukwenze lokhu wedwa
Ukukusiza ukuthi ululame esehlukanisweni, cela usizo lodokotela.
Unganqikazi ukucela usizo. Ochwepheshe abanamalayisense nabaqeqeshiwe bazi kahle ukuthi balalela kanjani futhi beluleke, futhi kuzosiza njengoba uhamba ngezinyathelo zokutakula.
Ukufinyelela kubangani nomndeni othembekile nakho kubalulekile enhlalakahleni yakho, kepha ukuba nodokotela, ongathathi hlangothi futhi oqeqeshwe ukuthi angasiza kanjani abantu abahlukanisile ukuba balulame, kungaba usizo enkambisweni yakho yokwelashwa.
Ukuphulukiswa kwesehlukaniso kuthatha isikhathi esithathayo.
Ungahle uzibuze ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthi ululame esehlukanisweni. Yazi ukuthi wonke umuntu wehlukile, njengoba nje zonke izehlukaniso zehlukile.
Kuncike kakhulu kwizizathu zesehlukaniso, ubuntu bakho, nokuthi uzizwa wesekelwa kangakanani phakathi kwezinyathelo zakho zokutakula isehlukaniso.
Ngakho-ke impendulo yokuthi kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukubuyisa isehlukaniso yile: kuthatha isikhathi esithathayo.
Ngakho-ke, ungalulama kanjani esahlukanisweni futhi usule izibazi ezimbi? Umthetho owodwa wesithupha okufanele usilandele uku themba ukuthi ijika lakho lokuphulukisa lijwayelekile futhi likulungele.
Isehlukaniso akusona isiphetho sempilo yakho.
Kungazwakala kunje ngezinye izikhathi, kepha ngokwethembeka, isehlukaniso akusona isiphetho sempilo yakho. Wokuthi ungalulama kanjani esahlukanisweni futhi ubhekane nobuhlungu obukhulu, kwamukele lokho njengomuntu owathola isehlukaniso, kumane nje kungukuphela kwengxenye eyodwa yempilo yakho.
Usenomgwaqo omude ngaphambi kwakho, ogcwele okutholakele okusha, izinselelo ezintsha, ukukhula okusha, futhi ngubani owaziyo? Uthando olusha!
Ithiphu elilodwa lokugcina lokuthi ungaphila kanjani ngokuthi ungalulama kanjani esahlukanisweni. Qhubeka ubeke unyawo olulodwa phambi kolunye, futhi ubuke indlela enhle evelayo njengoba ululama esehlukanisweni.