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- Yenza sengathi usanda kuhlangana
- Thola okuthintekayo
- Bhekela izidingo zomlingani wakho
- Nikeza umlingani wakho igama elikhethekile
- Yenza isikhathi socansi
- Zijwayeze ukuthethelela nokwamukela
- Yiba isilaleli esihle
- Yenza okuthile okukhethekile
- Hambani ngezithombe ezindala ndawonye
Ukuthola uthando, ukuthembisana umshado nokushada yizinto ezimangalisayo empilweni. Isinyathelo ngasinye sigcwele injabulo, izikhathi ezimnandi, futhi-ke, izinkumbulo zokuthandana.
Kodwa-ke, kwenzekani othandweni ngemuva komshado? Impilo nezinkathazo zayo kungaluqeda kancane kancane uthando ngemuva komshado futhi kushiye noma imuphi umbhangqwana ezibuza ukuthi ngabe ayathandana yini.
Ekugcineni, lapho ubudlelwano babo sebonakele ngokwanele imibhangqwana iyeka ukucabanga ngombono wokuthandana lapho ishadile. Kepha ukwazi ukuthi 'ungenza kanjani oshade naye akuthande futhi' noma 'indlela yokuthola uthando futhi emshadweni‘Empeleni lokhu kunzima?
Lonke uhambo lokuwela kumuntu alunakulibaleka futhi ngaphandle kwenkolelo evamile, alupheli uma usuhamba phansi. Ukuwa othandweni ngemuva komshado - konke futhi, kungenzeka ngezeluleko zobudlelwano obuncane.
Nakhu ukuthi ungabuyela kanjani othandweni noshade naye futhi ngemuva komshado:
Yenza sengathi usanda kuhlangana
Uthando emva komshado kudinga ubusha ngesikhathi esithile. Indlela elula yokwengeza okusha othandweni lwendoda nenkosikazi ngemuva komshado ukwenza njengalokhu nihlangane nje. Uyakhumbula ukuthi ukwazi wena isigaba ebudlelwaneni? Buyela kuleyo ndawo.
Buza oshade naye imibuzo ongayibuza umuntu ojola naye, uye kwamanye amadethi, mbuze ukuthi yisiphi isidlo asithandayo, mbuze ukuthi ziyini izimbali azithandayo, bese uzijabulisa nje.
Kuyo yonke le minyaka, abantu bayashintsha futhi baguquke ngakho-ke ukwenza njengawe osanda kuhlangana nakho kunganikeza ukuqonda okusha kowakwakho. Abantu bayinkimbinkimbi. Kukhona njalo okusha ongakufunda.
Thola okuthintekayo
Ukuthandana ngemuva komshado, udinga ukujabulela umuzwa wothando olusha noshade naye futhi, ngakho-ke qiniseka ukuthi nithintana kaningi. Lapho uqala ukuwela umlingani wakho, kungenzeka ukuthi awukwazanga ukugcina izandla zakho zisuka kuye, akunjalo? Awu, ume ngani manje?
Ngakho-ke uma uzibuza ukuthi uzophinde umthande kanjani umkakho noma ukuthi uphinde uthandane kanjani nomkakho, qala ngokubambana ngezandla, unikeze umlingani wakho umqolo wangemuva, ukumasaja, noma ukumanga. Abantu badinga ukuthintwa ngokomzimba ukuze bazizwe bethandwa futhi bethandwa.
Bhekela izidingo zomlingani wakho
Lapho abantu ababili bethandana okokuqala, bagxila kakhulu komunye nomunye. Benza konke okusemandleni abo ukujabulisa omunye nomunye futhi bathambekele ekupheni kakhulu. Njengoba isikhathi sihamba, lo mzamo uyancipha kepha akufanele.
Vele umsebenzi, izingane, nezinye izici zempilo zingangena endleleni kepha ukuze zithole zonke izici ezinhle ze- ukuwela owakwakho futhi, abhekane nezidingo nezidingo zakhe.
Ukuze wenze lokho, kwenze iphuzu lokwenza umlingani wakho azizwe kahle, uncoma abakufezile, futhi wenze okusemandleni ukwenza usuku lwabo lukhanye kancane. Lokhu kuguqulela nasekamelweni lokulala. Khumbula, abalingani abanelisekile bangabalingani abajabulayo!
Nikeza umlingani wakho igama elikhethekile
Vuselela ezothando ngokubiza umlingani wakho ngegama elikhethekile elifana 'noju' noma 'amaswidi'. Kuzokubuyisela emuva ezinsukwini zakho zokuphola lapho beniphelelene. Ungabizi umlingani wakho ngo-'he 'noma' lalela '.
Yiba nothando noma kunini lapho ubiza omunye wakho obalulekile. Baqinisekile ukuthi bazokunaka futhi bazokwazisa isenzo sakho.
Kungazwakala kungafuneki noma kubangele amahloni kwesinye isikhathi, kepha isenzo esinjalo sokufuna ngokweqile sifisa ubude ongahamba ngabo ukugcina umlingani wakho ejabule. Yebo, ziyizenzo zomzimba ezincane kakhulu, kepha ezikhathini eziningi yizinto ezincane kakhulu ukuthi akekho noyedwa ocabanga okuthile, ezenza izinto okungekho muntu ongazicabanga.
Yenza isikhathi socansi
Ukuhlela isikhathi socansi, kufana nobusuku bosuku, kubaluleke kakhulu. Zama okuthile okusha, noma ukwenze ngoMgqibelo ntambama ovilaphayo noma ngosuku olujwayelekile lwesonto ngokumane ungene eshaweni yakhe yasekuseni. Noma yini enijabulisayo nobabili, kodwa qinisekani ukuthi nenza ucansi lube yinto ephambili emshadweni wenu.
Uma uzizwa sengathi ukusondelana emshadweni wakho kudlule indawo yokubuyiselwa, funa usizo lochwepheshe. Hlangana nomeluleki ohloniphekile wezocansi nokusondelana, noma nomeluleki wemishado.
Ukwenza kanjalo kuzokusiza funda ukuthi ungagcini nje ngokuthuthukisa ukusondelana kodwa futhi ulungise omunye umonakalo okungenzeka ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho bube nawo.
Zijwayeze ukuthethelela nokwamukela
Ukuthethelela kwehlisa ingcindezi bese kufaka imizwa engemihle ngemicabango emihle. Qaphela lokhu futhi wamukele umlingani wakho ukuthi bangobani. Lokhu kusho futhi ukuvumela izinto ezincane zihambe futhi uzazise ngangokunokwenzeka.
Isimo sengqondo esinjalo sakha indawo enhle ebudlelwaneni obunempilo futhi siqinisekisa ukuthi bobabili abalingani bayanakekelana futhi bayathandana.
Yiba isilaleli esihle
Ungakwenza kanjani futhi thanda othandana naye futhi, uyazibuza? Ngokumlalela nje! Banikeze ithuba lokukuvulela izinhliziyo zabo, ubavumele bakhulume lokho abafuna ukukuhlanganyela ngempela futhi uzobona ukwanda kothando lwe-quotient emshadweni wakho.
Ukuba yisilaleli esihle kuhlanganisa nokungabaniki izeluleko ongazicelanga. Kwesinye isikhathi, abalingani bafuna nje ukuthi enye ingxenye yabo ibalalele. Khumbula, nika kuphela izeluleko lapho bezicelile.
Yenza okuthile okukhethekile
Yenza okuthile okukhethekile kumkakho noma kumyeni wakho okubatshela indlela ozizwa ngayo. Kungaba ukubhaka ikhekhe lomyeni wakho noma ukuthenga leyo ngubo enhle umkakho abekade eyibuka kusukela ngenyanga edlule.
Akudingeki ukuthi ibe yinoma yini eyeqisayo - idinga nje ukubakhombisa ukuthi uyayikhathalela indlela abazizwa ngayo nokuthi injabulo yabo ibalulekile kuwe. Izenzo ezincane zingahamba ibanga elide.
Hambani ngezithombe ezindala ndawonye
Bantu besifazane, lokhu kuzokwenza ukuthi nithandane nomyeni wakho futhi. Ditto for the gents! Khumbuza ngezinsuku zakudala ngokudlula ezithombeni zakho ndawonye.
Ukwehla ngomugqa wememori kungakusiza xhuma futhi ngezindlela ongeke uzicabange. Thatha isikhathi esithile uphume noma wenze lokhu ngosuku lwakho olulandelayo ebusuku!