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- 1. Izinkinga zokuxhumana zobudlelwano
- 2. Ukuchitha isikhathi sekhwalithi esanele ndawonye
- 3. Ukuqhafaza
- 4. Uzikhulisa kanjani izingane
Mhlawumbe lapho uphakathi komzabalazo womndeni noma yiziphi izinkinga zobudlelwano, uzizwa uwedwa; kepha ngemuva kokukhuluma nabangane, uyabona ukuthi awuwedwa wedwa.
Kuyiqiniso ukuthi kuningi izinkinga ezivamile zomndeni nezinkinga zobudlelwano imibhangqwana nemindeni ebhekana nazo.
Konke kuyingxenye yokuba ngumuntu. Siyesaba, sibe nesithukuthezi, sibe nobugovu, sivila, sikhathele, sibe nothando futhi singanaki. Njengoba sabelana isikhala nabanye abantu nsuku zonke, nakanjani sizoshayisana — ngokoqobo nangokomfanekiso.
Ngokuyinhloko, akekho kithi ophelele. Sonke senza izinqumo nsuku zonke ezingathinti thina kuphela kodwa nalabo abasizungezile. Into ebalulekile okufanele uyikhumbule ukufunda ukulungisa izinkinga zomndeni noma ukuxazulula izinkinga zomndeni.
Ukubhekana nezinkinga zomndeni kudinga umsebenzi. Bathatha ukucabanga okusebenzayo nokukhetha. Ngakho-ke cabanga ngokuthi impilo yakho ingashintsha kanjani uma unaka izinkinga eziningi zobudlelwano ezijwayeleke kakhulu futhi ushintshe indlela okhuluma ngayo nazo.
Finyelela kulezo zindawo zobudlelwano bakho eziyimbangela eqhubekayo yengxabano emndenini wakho. Xazulula lezo zingqinamba bese ubheka isisombululo.
Ukukusiza ukuthi uqhubeke, nazi izinkinga ezivamile zomndeni nezinkinga zomndeni nokuthi ungasebenza kanjani ukuze ufinyelele ukuxazulula izinkinga zomndeni:
1. Izinkinga zokuxhumana zobudlelwano
Akuhlekisi yini ukuthi esikhathini lapho singashayelana khona, sithumele imiyalezo, sithumele ngeposi, njll., Omunye nomunye, enye yezinkinga ezivame kakhulu ebudlelwaneni ukungakwazi kwethu ukuxhumana nabanye?
Akukho lapho le truer idlula khona ekhaya nomndeni wakho noshade naye. Ngesikhathi sifika ekhaya siphuma kwimithwalo yemfanelo yethu eminingi kude nasekhaya, sikhathele nje. Siyacasuka. Kwesinye isikhathi, sifuna nje ukushiywa sodwa ukuze siphumule.
Ngezinye izikhathi sifuna ukuxhuma futhi sikhulume futhi sizizwe sithandwa. Imvamisa siphelelwe ukuvumelanisa futhi ngokusobala nje abakhulumi. Siyakugwema ukubeka imizamo eyanele ekutholeni okuthile okuvamile ukukhuluma ngakho.
Siliphatha kanjani leli gebe lokuxhumana lokho kudala izingxabano ebudlelwaneni? Kufanele uhlele imvelo yekhaya lakho ukuze ivulekele ukuxhumana. Hlalani phansi ekudleni ndawonye futhi nikhulume ngempela.
Buzana ngezinsuku zabo. Lalela ngempela izimpendulo. Uma uzizwa ukhungathekile ngokuthile, ungamane ukugcine ngaphakathi kuze kubilise. Bekela eceleni isikhathi sokuxoxa ngalezo zinhlobo zezinto, mhlawumbe emhlanganweni womndeni.
2. Ukuchitha isikhathi sekhwalithi esanele ndawonye
Lesi yisifundo esinzima kakhulu ngoba wonke umuntu unemibono eyehlukene ngokuthi yini “ikhwalithi” nokuthi yisiphi “isikhathi esanele” sokuchitha ndawonye njengezithandani nanjengemindeni.
"Sihlala sindawonye njalo," elinye ilungu lomndeni lingasho, kepha omunye angazizwa sengathi ukuhlala egumbini elilodwa empeleni kuchitha isikhathi sekhwalithi ndawonye.
Ngakho-ke yisikhathi sokukhuluma ngokuthi yini "okwanele" nokuthi yini "ikhwalithi." Akuwona wonke umuntu ozovuma, ngakho-ke zama ukuhlangana ndawo ndawo phakathi.
Kukangaki kufanele nenze okuthile ndawonye nomndeni ekhaya, njengokudlala imidlalo yebhodi? Kukangaki kufanele nenze okuthile ndawonye ngaphandle kwekhaya?
Mhlawumbe njengombhangqwana, usuku olulodwa ngesonto lusebenzela nobabili. Ukhiye wokuxazulula ubunzima bobudlelwano ukuxoxa ngabo futhi nivumelane ngokuvumelana kunokuba nibushiye buvele buvele.
3. Ukuqhafaza
Uma sihlala nomuntu, siyambona lapho ediniwe futhi kwesinye isikhathi abe budedengu kancane. Abafuni ukucosha amasokisi abo noma ukuzihlanza emva kwabo; mhlawumbe bakutshele ukuthi bazokwenzela okuthile, kodwa ukhohlwe.
Kunezindlela eziningi abantu esibathandayo abangasiphoxa ngazo. Futhi lokho kungaholela enkingeni eyodwa ejwayelekile ebudlelwaneni: ukukha phezulu.
“Kungani ungeke ukwenze lokhu?” noma "Ukudlani lokho?" ezinye zezinto ebesingasoze sazisho kubangani bethu, kepha ngenxa yokuthi sikhululeke kakhulu nomngane wethu womshado kanye nomndeni wethu, sithambekele ekukhohlwe ubuhlakani bethu.
Kulula kakhulu ukusho lezo zinto. Singakwenza kanjani dedela i-nitpicking edala izingxabano zomndeni nokucindezeleka?
Ziphonsele inselelo ngokuhamba usuku olulodwa ungasho lutho olubi kumlingani wakho noma ezinganeni. Usuku olulodwa kuphela, akunjalo? Ngisho noma bekhuluma izinto ezingezinhle kuwe, zimisele ukuba nesimo sengqondo esihle.
Isimo sakho sengqondo sizoba nethonya elikhulu nomndeni wakho. Uma uqala usuku olusha, ziphonsele inselelo yokuthi ungaphinde usho noma yini engemihle, noma ngabe uthola isifiso. Lapho uqhubeka uzijwayeza, kuzoba lula ngokwengeziwe.
4. Uzikhulisa kanjani izingane
Lokhu kungaba yimbangela enkulu yokuxabana phakathi kwabazali ngoba ayikho indlela eyodwa esebenzayo yomzali. Kepha kulapho futhi kuba nzima khona.
Mhlawumbe omunye umlingani wakhula nabazali ababenza izinto ngenye indlela, kanti omunye umlingani wakhula nabazali ababenza izinto ngendlela ehluke kakhulu. Kungokwemvelo ukuthi umlingani ngamunye abambelele kulokho abakwaziyo.
Umbuzo ojwayelekile abantu abafuna impendulo yawo ngukuthi - “Ungabhekana kanjani nezinkinga zomndeni okuvela esimweni esinjalo? ” Kulungile, ngalokhu, udinga ukukhetha nezinto ezisebenzela umndeni wakho wamanje. Futhi lokho kusho ukuxhumana okuningi.
Khuluma ngokuthi ufuna ukuba ngumzali wezingane zakho kanjani, kufaka phakathi nokuthi uzozisingatha kanjani izingqinamba njengoba zivela. Yiziphi izijeziso ezifanelekile? Futhi, ninqume ndawonye ukuthi nizokwenzenjani lapho kuvela okuthile okungalindelekile.
Umqondo owodwa ukuzithethelela enganeni yakho, ngakho-ke ningaxoxa ngodaba ngasese bese nibuyele enganeni yenu nibumbene.
Njenganoma yini enye empilweni, ukuxazulula izinkinga zomndeni kuthatha umkhuba. Ngakho-ke nquma ukuthi ufunani, futhi uthathe isinyathelo nsuku zonke.