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- Umehluko ebulilini
- Umehluko ngokobuhlanga
- Umehluko eminyakeni
- Yini ongayenza ukusiza ukuvimbela ukuhlukunyezwa?
Ukubona nokuqonda ukuhlukunyezwa kungaba nzima, ikakhulukazi uma kubhekwa ukuthi kungaba nomthelela ongakanani emphakathini ozungezile.
Ukuhlukumeza yinoma ikuphi ukuziphatha noma isenzo esithathwa njengesinesihluku, esinodlame, noma esenziwe ngenhloso yokulimaza isisulu. Abaningi abahlangabezana nokuhlukunyezwa bakwenza lokho ebudlelwaneni obusondelene noma bothando futhi basondelene kakhulu nobudlelwano abangase bangazi ngephethini yokuziphatha ekhona.
Cishe uhhafu wayo yonke imibhangqwana izothola okungenani isigameko esisodwa esinodlame empilweni yobudlelwano; engxenyeni eyodwa kwezine yale mibhangqwana, udlame luyinto eyejwayelekile noma ezoba yinto ejwayelekile. Udlame lwasekhaya nokuhlukumeza akugcini ngokohlanga olulodwa, ubulili, noma iqembu lobudala; noma ngubani nanoma ngubani angaba yisisulu sokuhlukunyezwa.
Ukuhlukumeza akubandlululi.
Kodwa-ke, amathuba okuthi othile azohlangabezana nokuziphatha okunodlame noma okunolaka kozakwethu wezothando ayahluka ngokuya ngezici zabantu ezifana nobulili, ubuhlanga, imfundo, kanye nemali engenayo, kepha futhi kungafaka izinto ezinjengokuthanda ezocansi, ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa, umlando womndeni, nobugebengu umlando.
Umehluko ebulilini
Cishe amaphesenti ayisishiyagalombili nanhlanu abahlukunyezwayo emndenini ngabesifazane.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi amadoda asengozini ephansi, ngasese, kepha kukhombisa ukuthi abesifazane bavame ukuba sengozini enkulu ekuziphatheni okunodlame kunabesilisa. Ngokwengeziwe, udlame umuntu angahlangabezana nalo ezandleni zikazakwabo lungahluka ngokuya ngobunikazi bobulili noma ngokobulili bomuntu ngamunye.
Amaphesenti angamashumi amane nane abesifazane abathandana nabobulili obufanayo kanye namaphesenti angamashumi ayisithupha nanye wabesifazane abesilisa nabesifazane abahlukunyezwa ngabalingani babo abaseduze uma kuqhathaniswa namaphesenti angamashumi amathathu nanhlanu abesifazane abesilisa abesilisa nabesifazane. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, amaphesenti angamashumi amabili nesithupha abesilisa abayizitabane namaphesenti angamashumi amathathu nesikhombisa abesilisa abesilisa nabesifazane abahlangabezana nodlame olufana nokudlwengulwa noma ukulandela ngomunye umuntu uma kuqhathaniswa namaphesenti angamashumi amabili nesishiyagalolunye abesilisa abesilisa nabesilisa abesilisa nabesifazane.
Umehluko ngokobuhlanga
Izibalo zikazwelonke zodlame lwasekhaya olususelwa ebuhlangeni nobuzwe ziveza ubunzima obukhona lapho kuzanywa ukuthola izinto ezinobungozi.
Cishe abesifazane abaMnyama abane kwabayishumi, abane kwabayishumi baseMelika baseNdiya noma abesifazane baseMelika base-Alaska, nowesifazane oyedwa kwabesifazane bezinhlanga ezehlukene babe yisisulu sokuziphatha ngobudlova ebudlelwaneni. Lokhu kungamaphesenti angamashumi amathathu kuya kwamashumi amahlanu aphakeme kunezibalo zokutholakala kwabesifazane baseSpain, abaseCaucasus nabase-Asia.
Lapho kubuyekezwa idatha ehambisanayo, ukuxhumana kungahle kwenziwe phakathi kwabantu abambalwa nezici ezivamile zobungozi amaqembu amancane abhekana nazo njengamazinga akhuphukayo okusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa, ukungasebenzi, ukungatholakali kwemfundo, ukuhlalisana kwabantu abashadile, ukukhulelwa okungalindelekile noma okungahleliwe, kanye nezinga lemali engenayo . Kwabesilisa, cishe amaphesenti angamashumi amane nanhlanu amaMelika aseMelika noma ama-Alaskan aboMdabu, amaphesenti angamashumi amathathu nesishiyagalolunye abesilisa abaMnyama, namaphesenti angamashumi amathathu nesishiyagalolunye abesilisa bezinhlanga ezehlukene abahlangabezana nodlame oluvela kumlingani osondelene naye.
Lawa mazinga acishe aphindwe kabili kunesilinganiso sokwanda phakathi kwabesilisa baseSpain nabaseCaucasus.
Umehluko eminyakeni
Ekubuyekezweni kwedatha yezibalo, iminyaka ejwayelekile yokuqala kokuziphatha okunodlame (iminyaka eyi-12-18), ihambisana nobudala obujwayelekile umuntu angaqala ukuhlangabezana nodlame ebuhlotsheni obuseduze. Abesifazane nabesilisa abaneminyaka eyishumi nesishiyagalombili kuya kwamashumi amane nane bathola isiqephu sabo sokuqala sodlame esidala ngezinga eliphakeme kakhulu kunanoma yimuphi omunye umuntu omdala.
Ngokuya ngemininingwane yezibalo etholakalayo, iminyaka umuntu ahlangabezana nokuhlukunyezwa noma udlame lwasekhaya ingahluka kakhulu kuneminyaka yobudala kuqala isenzakalo.
Yini ongayenza ukusiza ukuvimbela ukuhlukunyezwa?
Ukwazi idatha nezibalo akuvumeli ngisho nokuziphatha. Kubalulekile ukuthi amalungu omphakathi abambe iqhaza elibonakalayo ekukhuthazeni ubudlelwane obunempilo namakhono okuxhumana.
Imiphakathi kufanele ihlale ibandakanyekile ekufundiseni amalungu ngobungozi, izimpawu zokuxwayisa, kanye namasu okuvikela ukunciphisa amaphethini wobudlelwano angenampilo. Imiphakathi eminingi inikela ngezinhlelo zemfundo yamahhala kanye namaqembu asiza ontanga ukusiza izakhamizi ukuthi zihlonyiswe ngokwengeziwe ukusukuma zingenelele uma zingufakazi wobudlelwano obungahle buhlukumeze. Ukuqwashiswa kwabantu abakhona akusho ukuthi unazo zonke izimpendulo.
Uma ubona okuthile, yisho okuthile!
Kepha ukuvimbela akusebenzi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Njengomuntu obukayo noma njengomuntu ohlukunyezwa, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi usizo oluphumelela kakhulu luvela kumuntu olalela ngaphandle kokwahlulela futhi akhona ukuze asekele. Lapho othile evezwe ekuziphatheni okuhlukumezayo ekulungele ukukhuluma, lalela futhi ukukholelwe okushiwoyo. Yazi izinsiza ezikhona emphakathini wakho futhi ukwazi ukwazisa umuntu ngezinketho zakhe.
Sekela ngokungagxeki, ukwahlulela, noma ukusola umuntu ngezenzo ezedlule. Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke okunye, ungesabi ukuzibandakanya, ikakhulukazi uma ukuphepha komzimba komuntu kusengozini.