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- Sishada amanxeba ethu ebuntwaneni!
- Indawo ejwayelekile ingaba yingozi
- Ngakho-ke silapha kanjani?
- Ukuthola amandla ekuhlukumezeni kuphume ohlelweni lwakho
Ngishade nomuntu ogula ngekhanda. Lokhu kwenzeka ngemuva komshado, endaweni eyayina imvula ngesikhathi eshaya isondo lokushayela ngokufutheka, ethatha izimpilo zethu ezandleni zakhe. Ngamamayela ayisishiyagalolunye ngehora, uthola umbono othile. Kungani isihogo ngangishade nalo maniac? Eminyakeni eyishumi kamuva, ngiyayazi impendulo: Ngashada amanxeba ami ebuntwaneni. Futhi yilokhu esikwenzayo. Sifuna ukupholisa amanxeba obuntwana bethu ngokuthandana nokushada nawo. Kungakho, ngaphambi kokufuna ukuthola owethu womphefumulo, sidinga ukuziphilisa.
Sasihlala ndawonye ngaphambi kokuba sishade, kodwa izimpawu zazikhona. Wayethukuthele ngezinga elincane. Ngiyabona manje ukuthi lokhu kuziphatha, obekungaba ifulegi elibomvu kumuntu "ojwayelekile", bekungekho okwami. Kungani? Ngoba kokuhlangenwe nakho kwami, ukufutheka kwakuwukudla kwemindeni yokuhlangana – ndawonye. Ngobusuku obulandela umshado wethu, umzala wami waphula amakhala kamalume. Lapho mina nomyeni wami omusha siletha umalume wami iqhwa, umamncane wamemezela: “Siyakwamukela emndenini wethu ojabulayo!” Amahlaya kwakuyindlela yethu yokubambisana. Komunye usuku lokuzalwa luka-anti iminyaka engamashumi amane, othile wahamba ephethe ithileyi, ebuza encokola ukuthi ngabe ukhona yini ongathanda “ikhofi, itiye, i-anti-depressant?
Sishada amanxeba ethu ebuntwaneni!
Isimo esingokwengqondo sokuthi kungani sishada amanxeba ethu ebuntwaneni silele “kuzinanyathiselo zokunamathisela kanye nezinhlobo zengqondo ezingazi lutho ... ubudlelwano bethu bokuqala ... akugcini nje ngokuba nomthelela ekutheni sikwazi kanjani ukuxhumana nabanye njengabantu abadala — kwezothando nakwezinye izimo — kodwa futhi dala imibhalo efakwe ngaphakathi noma amamodeli asebenzayo wokuthi ubudlelwano busebenza kanjani ... Njengabantu, sidonswa, ezingeni lokungazi, sabheka kokujwayelekile. Kumuntu onamathiselwe ngokuphepha ukuxhumana kwakhe okuyinhloko okumfundise ukuthi abantu banothando, bathembekile, futhi bathembekile, lokhu kumane nje kuyindida. Kodwa kithina esinamathele ngokungaphephile, okujwayeleke kungaba yingozi. ”
Indawo ejwayelekile ingaba yingozi
Okujwayelekile kwakuyingozi kimi. Ngemuva kwe-epiphany yami phakathi nendawo, nginikeze umyeni wami isiphetho: thola usizo noma ulahleke. Ekugcineni, ngokuxilongwa okulungile (iBipolar II), imishanguzo, ukwelashwa, nokwelashwa okuphelele, waba ngcono. Kepha akusebenzi njalo ngale ndlela. Izici ezimbili ezibalulekile ekwelapheni wukuzazi nokuzikhuthaza, zombili ezazinomyeni wami. I-ultimatum yayiyiphuzu lokuthola, kepha wayazi ukuthi uyisiphithiphithi, futhi wayekhathele ukuba lusizi. Ngokujabulisayo, ukwazile ukwelapheka, manje sesijabulela umshado oqinile owakhelwe eminyakeni eyishumi sisekelana ngezikhathi ezinzima nezimbi zempilo. Kepha sonke singazisindisa ekuhluphekeni okungaka uma, esikhundleni sokuzama ukuziphilisa ngokushada amanxeba ethu, siqale sawaphilisa ngezinye izindlela.
Ngakho-ke silapha kanjani?
Ukuphulukiswa ngokweqiniso kusuka ekuhlukumezeni kudinga indlela enamacala amabili. Ukwelashwa kwendabuko kubalulekile ekusisizeni sikhombe ukuthi ziyini izingqinamba zethu nokuxhumana phakathi kwamanxeba ethu ebuntwaneni nokuziphatha okungazi lutho. Noma kunjalo, akwanele. Wake waziwa umuntu obona ukuncipha amashumi eminyaka ngaphandle kokuthuthuka okuningi? Lokho kungenxa yokuthi ukuhlukumezeka kunamandla kukho, futhi lawo mandla siwaphatha ngaphakathi kwethu, ikakhulukazi kuma-chakras ethu, size siwasuse. Ukuhlukumezeka kwengane kugcinwa kuma-chakras ethu amathathu okuqala: impande, i-sacral, ne-plexus yelanga.
Ukuthola amandla ekuhlukumezeni kuphume ohlelweni lwakho
Kuze kuphulukiswe lawo mandla, iyaqhubeka nokwenza ukuthi kube nokuziphatha okungazi lutho futhi kubangele ukukhathazeka, ukungakwazi ukuzazi, kanye nokuzethemba (ngokulandelana). Ukusula la mandla, sidinga ukwelashwa kwamandla. Ukukhishwa kwesikhumba, inqubo yenkululeko engokomzwelo, neReiki, ukubala nje ezimbalwa, konke kufuna ukulinganisela amandla ethu kanye / noma ukususa ukuvinjelwa kwamandla. Lapho ufuna i-Therapist, khetha eyodwa okungenani enezibuyekezo ezinhle eziyishumi nambili kanye nohlu lwebhizinisi le-Google kanye / noma ukutholakala kwemithombo yezokuxhumana. Lokhu kuqinisekisa ukuthi abakwazi ukuhlunga izibuyekezo ezingezinhle.
Lapho sesipholile amanxeba, singangena ebudlelwaneni futhi sikwazi ukubona amafulegi abomvu. Futhi-ke, ngokucophelela singahamba ngokukhetha umlingani ozozibonakalisa ngokwethu ukuphulukiswa. Kuyisihluthulelo ukukhumbula ukuthi asizenzeli thina kuphela lokhu, kodwa futhi senzela noma iziphi izingane zesikhathi esizayo esingahle sibe nazo. Yize “ngokujabula njalo” kungaba yisiphetho esihle sezinganekwane, ukwephula umjikelezo wokungasebenzi kahle kungukuqala kweqiniso esingalifeza sonke.