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- Indaba yesimanje
- Ukuswayipha kwesokudla
- Ukuthenga ku-inthanethi
- Izindlela zokutholakala
- Imigqa efiphene
“Imiyalezo ebhaliwe yiplastick entsha ekhokhweni, isikweletu esikhishwe ngamakhadi esikweletu. Ngokuphazima kweso futhi okubukeka njengokungajwayelekile, zingaba isiqinisekiso sendaba yangasese ”, kusho uLaura Holson emuva ngonyaka wezi-2009. Wayengazi ngaleso sikhathi ukuthi ubuchwepheshe buzothuthuka kangakanani eminyakeni eyishumi ezayo. Ubuchwepheshe budale ukukhetha; abantu abasavinjelwe ukuxhumana nalabo asebevele bebazi noma abahlangana nabo futhi. Ubuchwepheshe abugcini nje ngokukwenza kube lula ukukopela, butshintshe indlela esicabanga ngayo ukuthi yini eyenza ukukopela futhi kwenze kube lula ukuthola ukukhaphela. Ukuphinga akusaphelele endabeni yomzimba noma engokomzwelo; incazelo yayo iyanwebeka futhi iyahlukahluka isuka komunye umuntu iye komunye: uchungechunge lwemiyalezo kumuntu ongamazi ingamukeleka kumuntu oyedwa, futhi ukuswayipha okukodwa kuhlelo lokusebenza lokuphola kungaba yisihlukanisi sokuya komunye.
Indaba yesimanje
Esikhathini samanje kunezinombolo ezibonakala zingenamkhawulo zamapulatifomu wokuthumela imiyalezo enza kube nokwenzeka ukuxhumana nomuntu ongamazi noma ilangabi elidala ngokuphazima kweso, imvamisa ngokungaziwa noma ngasese. I-Snapchatting, imiyalezo ye-Facebook, ukuswayipha iTinder, ukuthumela imiyalezo ngqo ku-Instagram, iWhatsapping ... ukubala nje abambalwa. Isimo esikhohlisayo sobudlelwano obushubile phakathi kukachwepheshe ophethe amandla amakhulu kanye nonobhala wakhe sesinikeze ithuba "leTinder affair", okulula kakhulu ukuyifihla kunombono wehhovisi.
Ukuswayipha kwesokudla
Ubuchwepheshe bunikeze umphakathi ukufinyelela okukhululekile kulwazi nemibono, inselele abantu ukuthi bacabange ngokuhlukile futhi bachaze izimilo zabo. Akusekho ncazelo elula yokungathembeki, okungenani kwabanye. Kwabaningi, ukungathembeki kuwukukhaphela ukwethembana. Kunokwehluka okwandayo kulokho abantu abakholelwa ukuthi ukukopela, futhi lokhu kungashintsha kuyo yonke imibhangqwana nakumuntu ngamunye kulowo mbhangqwana. Ocwaningweni olwenziwe nguSlater noGordon, abesilisa abangama-46% no-21% wabesifazane bavumile ukuthi basebenzise izinhlelo zokusebenza zokuphola besebudlelwaneni, nesithukuthezi esivame ukubalulwa njengesizathu esiyinhloko. Kungabonakala njengokuvamile, iningi lethu likubheka ukusetshenziswa kwezinhlelo zokusebenza zokuphola ngenkathi kubudlelwano njengokukhohlisa (ama-80% alabo abahloliwe), kepha u-10% uze waze wathi ukusetshenziswa kwabo ukukopela kuphela uma kuholela ukuthintana ngokomzimba.
Ukuthenga ku-inthanethi
Kuphephile ukusho ukuthi imibono yendabuko ngomshado ichithwe kwamanye amalungu omphakathi. I-Ashley Madison, insizakalo yokuqomisana ebhekiswe kulabo abasebudlelwaneni nasemishadweni (futhi isiqubulo sayo phambilini sasithi “Impilo imfushane: Yiba nobudlelwano”), inabasebenzisi abalinganiselwa ezigidini ezingama-52 selokhu yasungulwa ngo-2002. UNoel Biderman, umsunguli wayo, walwela lapho egxekwa, esho ukuthi u-Ashley Madison ngobuhlakani usiza abantu ukuthi benze izindaba ngezindlela ezingeyona ingozi emphakathini nangaphandle kwendawo yokusebenza. Futhi ngaphandle kwalokho, wathi "ukungathembeki sekukude kakhulu kuno-Ashley Madison". Kepha esikhathini lapho konke kufakwa online kuhlobo oluthile, kungenzeka yini ukuhlala ungaziwa futhi ugcine izenzo ziyimfihlo? Ngokusobala akunjalo. Iwebhusayithi 'ehlakaniphile' yagqekezwa ngonyaka we-2015, okuholele ekutheni imininingwane ye-akhawunti yabasebenzisi abayizigidi ezingama-32 ithunyelwe kuwebhu emnyama futhi iveze izindaba ezifihliwe zezigidi zabantu abashadile.
Izindlela zokutholakala
Kepha ubuchwepheshe abuthandi nje kuphela labo abafisa ukuhlola izinketho zabo; yonke imilayezo, isithombe, nohlelo lokusebenza kushiya umkhondo, noma ngabe kususiwe. Lokhu kungaholela kozakwethu abenze ukutholwa okungamukeleki ngengozi. Noma lapho izinguquko ekuziphatheni, kusukela esikhathini "sokusebenza sekwedlule isikhathi" ukuya ekuthatheni ifoni ishawa, ziye zazisa abalingani abasolisayo, i-intanethi inikeza izindlela eziningi zokuphenya. Kunezimo ezeqisayo ezifana nowesifazane owathola ukuthi umyeni wakhe wayekopela lapho embona emzini wenkosikazi yakhe kuGoogle Maps, futhi okuvame ukwenzeka kuveza ukubonga ngeposi le-Instagram elimakiwe noma umyalezo okhanyayo ocingweni. Akukhona nje kuphela ukuthi kulula ukwambula lolu daba, kungukudlala kwengane ukuthola igama lomunye umuntu futhi ngokuchofoza ngokuqhubekayo ukuthola eminye imininingwane abayethula emhlabeni ngezinkundla zokuxhumana.
Imigqa efiphene
Manje sihlala emphakathini ophila futhi oxhumana online. Singalindela kanjani ukuthi izindaba, izithombe, noma imiyalezo ebonakala ingenabungozi igcinwe iyimfihlo lapho sikhangisa emphakathini izimpilo zethu eziningi kangaka? Ukuphinga kufakwe kumafoni ethu futhi ngeke kumane kuqedwe noma kulibaleke. Incazelo yokuphinga isishintshile kwabaningi, imigqa ifiphele. Manje kunezindlela eziningi zokukhohlisa futhi, ngokungangabazeki, ithuba eliningi elinikezwe amapulatifomu aku-inthanethi manje ayatholakala. Yize kungenzeki ukusho ukuthi ngabe kunezindaba eziningi manje, kepha kulula kakhulu ukudalula ukungathembeki komlingani. Mhlawumbe kulula kakhulu ukuhlola ezinye izinketho kule nkathi yobuchwepheshe.
UKate Williams
UKate Williams ungummeli oqeqeshwayo emndenini ophezulu nasenkampanini yezomthetho yasemshadweni iVardags egxile emacaleni aphelele enani eliphelele, amacala ayinkimbinkimbi nalawo omhlaba wonke edivosi.