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Isizukulwane esedlule, kwakuyinto evamile ukusuka endlini yabazali bakho uye emgodini bese uqonda ngqo kumyeni wakho.
Ngawo-1970, abesifazane babeshade beneminyaka engamashumi amabili ubudala. Manje sekuvame kakhulu ukuphishekela imfundo nomsebenzi phakathi neminyaka engamashumi amabili bese uthola owakwakho eseneminyaka engamashumi amathathu. Uma ususondela eminyakeni yakho yamashumi amathathu, ungazithola ulangazelela ukuthola umphefumulo wakho.
Isifiso somshado singadla ngezinye izikhathi.
Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi uma abangane bakho abaningi beshade eminyakeni engamashumi amabili. Ngemuva kwalokho labo bangane abafanayo baqala ukuba nezingane, beshiya amafa amancane, ngisho nangaphambi kokuba uhlangane noshade naye. Noma kunjalo, ukushada eminyakeni yakho yamashumi amathathu kungahle kube nezinzuzo zako.
Ngokwe-Psychology Today, izinga lezehlukaniso empeleni liphansi kumuntu oshade ngaphezu kweminyaka engamashumi amabili nanhlanu.
Vele, kungaba nezithiyo ekushadweni eminyakeni yakho yamashumi amathathu, ikakhulukazi uma ufuna ukuba nezingane futhi iwashi lezinto eziphilayo libonakala likhawuleza ngokushesha. Kepha kunezinzuzo ezinhle kakhulu kulabo abashada eminyakeni eyishumi yesithathu.
Uyazazi
Lapho ushada ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile empilweni yakho yokuba mdala, unesikhathi sokuzazi ngokuphelele. Ngokuqinisekile uzoba nabantu ohlala nabo eminyakeni engamashumi amabili abangakunika impendulo enempilo ngokuthi kunjani ukuhlala nawe usuku nosuku.
Unethuba lokuhamba, uhlole izinto zokuzilibazisa, uhlale edolobheni elihlukile, noma wenze ushintsho lomsebenzi ngokuzumayo. Zonke lezi zimo zizokunikeza ukuqonda okujulile kulokho okuthandayo, okuzondayo, nokuthi uphendula kanjani kokuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukile.
Uma usuwenzile umsebenzi odingekayo ukuze uzazi, uzoba ohlakaniphe ngokwengeziwe ngokomzwelo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Uzokwazi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngezinto, yini ekujabulisa, yini ekwenza udabuke, nokuthi usabela kanjani kwimizwa nakwizenzo zabanye abantu. Ngemuva kokuhlala nabantu ohlala nabo, ungahle wazi ezinye zezingibe zokuhlala ndawonye.
Bu inzuzo yangempela ukuvuthwa ngokomzwelo ngokuqonda izisusa zakho nokuthi uwubona kanjani umhlaba.
Uke waphila
Njengomuntu omdala ongashadile, iminyaka yakho yamashumi amabili ijwayele ukugxila kwezemfundo, ekwakheni amakhondo emisebenzi nasekuzijabuliseni. Uthole ithuba lokutadisha izihloko ozikhathalelayo bese utshala amakhono akho namakhono akho emkhakheni okhethe ukuwenza.
Ngaphandle kwezibopho zomlingani nezingane, unganquma ukubeka imali yakho kulokho okukhethayo.
Uma ufuna ukuhlanganisa abangane bese uhamba ngesikebhe, unga. Uma ufuna ukuhlala phesheya, ungahle ukwenze kwenzeke. Uma ufuna ukuhambisa futhi uhlole ukuhlala kwenye indawo entsha, ungenza leso sinqumo sibe lula kancane bese ungena esahlukweni esisha.
Abangani abashade bebancane kakhulu futhi baba nezingane zincane kakhulu bazophawula ngohambo lwakho emhlabeni jikelele. Kungenzeka babe nomona ngeminyaka ohlole ngayo amadolobha amasha, izindawo ezithokozisayo, noma uhlala eManhattan eduze neCentral Park nabantu ohlala nabo.
Vele, laba bangani babathanda kakhulu abangane babo bomshado nezingane, kepha bahlala ngokuvikeleka kuyo yonke i-adventure oyifaka eminyakeni yakho eyodwa.
Usukulungele
Eminyakeni engamashumi amabili nanhlanu, ukuphuma neqembu labangane lonke kuze kube yiwo wonke amahora wobusuku ukuqhuma. Ngesikhathi usuneminyaka engamashumi amathathu, umqondo wokuchitha ubusuku obunokuthula nomuntu omthandayo uyaheha impela.
Umshado udinga ukuzidela nokuyekethisa.
Awukwazi nje ukuthatha umsebenzi ezweni lonke ngaphandle kokuxoxa ngokuthi kumthinta kanjani oshade naye. Faka izingane emndenini wakho futhi ukuzidela nakanjani kuzokhula.
Eminyakeni engama-22 ubudala, le mihlatshelo yayingazizwa njengomthwalo osindayo futhi idale imizwa yokuphuthelwa. Akungabazeki ukuthi lokhu kuxegiselwa nokuzidela kungazwakala kuyinselelo eminyakeni yakho yamashumi amathathu. Kepha, ngemuva kokuphishekela amaphupho akho iminyaka eyishumi noma ngaphezulu, uzozizwa ukulungele lokho okudingekayo kuwe ukuze wenze umshado usebenze.
Ukungashadi isikhathi eside kungazizwa unesizungu
Kuyiqiniso ukuthi ukungashadi isikhathi eside kungazizwa unesizungu ngezinye izikhathi. Kepha, ukushada eminyakeni yakho yamashumi amathathu empeleni kuyinto enhle impela. Eqinisweni, kufanelekile ukulinda.
Uma ushada eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu, kungenzeka ucabange izingane ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Ngiyathembisa ukuthi usengakwazi ukugcina ezothando emshadweni wakho ngemuva kokuthola ingane.