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- Kuyini ukusondelana ukusondelana?
- Izifundo esizifunda ezigulini
- Ukulandisa okusha okunembile kukaTamara
- Isixazululo sale nkinga ejwayelekile - khulisa ukuthethelelwa ukusondelana
- Izinzuzo ezintathu ezibalulekile zokuhlakulela ukusondelana okusondelene
- Yimaphi ama-frame ozimele obheka kuwo isimo?
Imibhangqwana ijwayele ukugxila ezintweni ezingokomzwelo nezingokomzimba uma kukhulunywa ngokukhuthaza nokukhulisa ukusondelana. Kubalulekile ukwamukela ububanzi obubanzi bokusondelana kanye nokuhlola izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene ezinikela ekugcineni ubudlelwano obunempilo obufezayo. Intethelelo nokusondelana kumane nje kungokubili kokuningi. Intethelelo ukusondelana kujule kakhulu kunokuxolisa komunye nomunye futhi uthembise ukuthi ngeke usakwenza “lokho” futhi.
Kuyini ukusondelana ukusondelana?
Kuchazwa kangcono njengezithandani eziqaphela inxeba ebudlelwaneni, ziqonde umthelela wokulimala, futhi zikhombe ukuthatha okuhle kokuhlangenwe nakho okuzobasiza ukuthi bakhule baye phambili.
Uma lezo zakhi zingahloliswanga, into elula yokuthi “ngiyaxolisa” ingabonakala ingatheli futhi ingakuvimba ekutheni ukwazi ukudlulisa intukuthelo nentukuthelo eqhubekayo ngenxa yokona okwedlule.
Izifundo esizifunda ezigulini
Njengomelaphi womndeni womshado, ngisebenze nemibhangqwana eminingi ekhethe ukuxolela futhi ifuna ngokweqiniso ukushiya okwedlule esikhathini esedlule. Bakhiphe izinhlungu ezidalwe yilobu budlelwano, bathatha ubunikazi, baxolisa. Noma kunjalo, kuwumzabalazo wansuku zonke ukuthi basaphathelene nozakwethu ngokusebenzisa i-lens yesikhathi esedlule, noma ngabe kunenqubekela phambili ebonakalayo kanye noshintsho oluhle.
Ngokwesibonelo -
UMike wayehlala sekwephuzile njalo ekuqaleni kobudlelwano bakhe noTamara. Ubezophuza okungenani imizuzu engu-15-20 ukufika ezinsukwini nasezinhlelweni, okudala ukungqubuzana okukhulu kanye nokukhathazeka nokukhungatheka kuTamara.
Ukuthathe ukubambezeleka kwakhe njengesibonelo sokuntula kwakhe inhlonipho kuyena futhi ukukhathazeka kwakhe bekuzophakama nayo yonke imizuzu yokulinda. UMike noTamara baqaphela ukuthi ukufika ngemuva kwesikhathi kukaMike kunomthelela kwezinye izimo eziningi zempilo yakhe futhi kwakudingeka ukuthi asebenze ekuphathweni kwesikhathi sonke.
Kubalulekile ukucacisa ngezincazelo ezindala nezincazelo ezintsha (ezinembile) ezinamathiselwe kumlingani wakho kanye nobudlelwano.
Ukulandisa okudala okwaqhamuka ngoTamara kwakuyinto efana nokuthi, “Akanandaba nokuthi ngimlinde isikhathi esingakanani,” noma, “Akasihloniphi isikhathi sami. Akacabangeli futhi unobugovu ”, njalo njalo.
Ukulandisa okusha okunembile kukaTamara
Ukulandisa okusha okuthathwe kuTamara kufana nokuthi, "UMike udinga ukwenza ngcono ukuphatha kwakhe isikhathi ngokujwayelekile futhi ungumnikazi walokho," noma, "Sobabili siyawuqonda umthelela walokhu ebudlelwaneni futhi uMike usebenza ngenkuthalo ukubhekana nalokhu, kanye nokugcina isikhathi kwakhe kuthuthuka ngokuphelele. ”
Kungaba khona inqubekela phambili ebonakalayo eyenziwe nguMike njengokufika ngesikhathi ekubeni ngaphezulu “kokujwayelekile.” Kepha kaningi kakhulu, uma sekwephuze ngemizuzu emi-5, uTamara angaqala ukuzwana naye ngasikhathi esidlule: “Akasihloniphi isikhathi sami. Akanandaba nami ”kugijimela emqondweni wakhe kukhulisa ukukhathazeka kwakhe.
Uma uTamara engayibamba le micabango, futhi angazinikezeli kuyo ngokuzenzakalela "njengeqiniso," lokho kuyingxenye yempi. Umgomo akukhona ukuthi "ungalokothi ube nale micabango noma le mizwa." Umgomo ukwazi futhi wazi lapho kuvela.
Isixazululo sale nkinga ejwayelekile - khulisa ukuthethelelwa ukusondelana
Ngokubona ukuvuselelwa kwemicabango yakudala nokuhlola ukuthi kungenzeka kubekiwe yini njengamanje, ukusondelana okusondelana kungakhuliswa futhi kuqiniswe. Lezi "zikhumbuzi" zendaba engemihle edlule zingaveza imizwa eluhlaza engahambelani nesikhathi esedlule kepha ezizwe inembile ngokuphelele okwamanje.
Ukwabelana nobuthakathaka bakho kungasiza kakhulu futhi kuvumele wena nozakwenu ukuthi nikwazi ukuxhumana ngaleso sikhathi. Esikhundleni sokuthethisa nokugxeka uMike uma ephuze imizuzu eyi-10, uTamara angathi, “Ngizizwa ngikhathazekile ngendlela ebengizizwa ngayo ngesikhathi ubephuzile ngaphambili. Ngizama ukungazibandakanyi nami noma ngikuhlasele, kodwa nginobunzima yize ubusebenza kanzima ngesikhathi esifanele. ”
Izinzuzo ezintathu ezibalulekile zokuhlakulela ukusondelana okusondelene
- Inika uMike ithuba lokuqinisekisa imizwa kaTamara (ngaphandle kokuthi yena abe “nephutha”)
- Inikeza isikhala esiphephile sokuthi uMike amnikeze ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo (ngaphandle kokuba "isisulu")
- Iphinde ivume ukuthi inqubekelaphambili yenziwe futhi ivumela abashadayo ukuthi baxhumane ngesikhathi esiyinselele ndawonye.
Lokhu kunikeza umbhangqwana ithuba elikhulu lokushiya ukusola nokuhlasela ngemuva lapho kufanele khona. Ingxenye engcono kakhulu ukuthi ukusondelana ukusondelana akuyona into okufanele uyilwe wedwa noma ewela emahlombe omuntu oyedwa.
Ukubeka okwedlule ngombono ofanele njengeqembu kuyisihluthulelo.
Yimaphi ama-frame ozimele obheka kuwo isimo?
Sisizane uma kubonakala sengathi ubeke izibuko ezintsha endaweni engafanele ezikusizayo ukuthi nibonane, nithandane futhi nizwane njengamanje. Ukusebenza ngokubambisana ukwazisa lezi zikhathi nokubona isipho sokuxolelana ebudlelwaneni bakho kuzolapha amanxeba amadala futhi kukuvumele ukuthi udlule ngokudlula kwe-hiccups ngesandla.