-Delile
- Nikeza izinto eziza kuqala
- Yamukelanani
- Ungazihluphi ngokulindela kwabanye
- Ungakhohlwa ukujabulela
- Khulumisanani
- Yithi cha emazingeni aphekwe uhhafu
- Ungahlali kude nomunye isikhathi eside
- Musa ukuhlekisa ngomuntu oganiselana naye (e) phambi kwabanye
Isikhathi esiphakathi kokuthembisana komshado nomshado sibaluleke kakhulu.
Kungadingeka ukuthi ubhekane nezimo ezimbili. Kuphakathi kokuthi wazi kahle ngomuntu ozoshada naye (e), noma ugcina usunobudlelwano obudidekile. Udinga ukusebenzisa leso sikhathi ngobuhlakani ukunciphisa ukudideka.
Nazi izeluleko zobudlelwano ezilusizo kumibhangqwana esanda kuthembisana
Nikeza izinto eziza kuqala
Isikhathi esiphakathi kokuthembisana umshado yilapho uthatha isinqumo ngekusasa lakho. Ucezu lwezeluleko ezibalulekile kubantu abashadile ukuthi nixoxe ngezinto eziza kuqala kumuntu ozoshada naye (e), ubatshele uhlelo lwakho nokuthi udinga isikhathi esingakanani.
Izinto eziza kuqala kuwe zingafaka ukuthenga indlu, ukuthola imoto, noma ukonga imali eyanele nokufuna umsebenzi ofanele. Funa usizo lwabo futhi uqhubeke wabelana ngezinhlelo zakho nomlingani wakho wesikhathi esizayo.
Yamukelanani
Ngalesi sikhathi lapho ulungiselela umshado wakho, ungafuna ukuthi umlingani wakho aphelele.
Ungalokothi uzame ukuphoqelela okufunayo kumuntu ozoshada naye (e). Bemukele ukuthi banjani futhi ujabulele ukuxhumana nomuntu okuthandayo. Kusobala kakhulu ukuthi izici zobuntu azinakuguqulwa ngakho-ke ungaphoqeleli umlingani wakho wesikhathi esizayo ukuthi ashintshe lokho abangafuni ukukwenza.
Ungazihluphi ngokulindela kwabanye
Okokuqala, gcina lokhu engqondweni yakho ukuthi kuzoshada wena nesoka lakho (e).
Ungalokothi uzame ukuvumelanisa nokulindelwe kwamanye amalungu omndeni; kungumshado wakho, hhayi owabo.
Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, xoxa ngezinto eziza kuqala nalowo ozoshada naye. Nobabili kufanele nizakhele owenu umbono womshado futhi nizame ukuqonda ukuthi nobabili nifunani ebudlelwaneni bomshado. Ungathatha iziphakamiso nemibono kwamanye amalungu omndeni kepha ungafiki lapho ukhohlwa okulindele njengendoda nenkosikazi.
Ungakhohlwa ukujabulela
Lapho ulungiselela ukushada futhi ubeka izizathu zalokho, ungahle ube nengcindezi enkulu.
Kungahle kufike iphuzu lapho uzizwe uthwele futhi uzokhathala. Ukugwema lokho, zama ukuchitha isikhathi ndawonye. Hlela ukuvakasha ndawonye.
Isibonelo, nobabili ningaya ukuyothenga, niye kubhayisikobho noma lapho nithanda khona. Ungavumeli ukucindezeleka kubuse; hlalani nje niphumule nizijabulise ndawonye.
Khulumisanani
Lesi iseluleko esibaluleke kakhulu kubantu abashadile.
Ungalokothi ushiye umlingani wakho elenga ezinkingeni. Hlala uthintana njalo.
Phumani ndawonye ngangokunokwenzeka. Dlulisa imizwa yakho. Yiba nezwi; ungafihli lutho, noma kungabaza. Ungathathi isinqumo noma uthathe izinto; khuluma isifuba sakho noma nini lapho uhleli nothandekayo wakho.
Yithi cha emazingeni aphekwe uhhafu
Kungaba ubuwula kakhulu uma ubeka izindinganiso eziphakeme ozakwethu angazizuza.
Isibonelo, ufuna umlingani wakho abe namandla ngokwezimali ngaphambi komshado, futhi ufuna konke; indlu enempahla ephelele, imoto, njll. Kuyiqiniso eliqondakalayo ukuthi la mazinga awatholakali kuleso sikhathi esifushane kakhulu.
Udinga ukulinda ngokubekezela bese uzama ukusekela othandekayo wakho esikhundleni sokubeka izindinganiso eziphakeme ezizobenza bazizwe bengavikelekile.
Ungahlali kude nomunye isikhathi eside
Ukudideka okuningi nokungavikeleki kuvela lapho nobabili ningekho futhi anixhumani isikhathi eside.
Esinye sezeluleko esisebenzisekayo semibhangqwana ehilelekile ukuhlela imihlangano yamasonto onke noma amasonto amabili. Ngalesi sikhathi, ungalokothi uzame ukubeka izindlebe zakho kulokho okushiwo othile ngesoka lakho (e) futhi nithintane ngemiyalezo noma ngocingo.
Musa ukuhlekisa ngomuntu oganiselana naye (e) phambi kwabanye
Qiniseka ukuthi awenzi ihlaya ngomuntu ozoshada naye phambi kwabanye.
Kubonisa ukuthi uzimisele kangakanani ngokuxhuma kothandekayo wakho.Yiba nethemba futhi uzizwe ubusisekile ngokuba nothandekayo empilweni yakho.