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- 1. Cabanga ngakho njengesiqalo esisha
- 2. Thola izithiyo
- 3. Yenza isinqumo sokubambisana
- 4. Thola uhlelo lokubambisana ngokubambisana
- 5. Khumbula ukuvumelana nezimo
- 6. Hlonipha
- 7. Funda ukubhekana nesizungu sakho
- 8. Xhumana nomngane womshado omusha
- 9. Yakha iqembu lokusekela
- 10. Khumbula ukubaluleka kokuzinakekela
Isehlukaniso singaba yinto ehlukumezayo kubo bonke abathintekayo, ikakhulukazi uma kukhulunywa ngokubambisana ndawonye ngemuva kwesehlukaniso.
Kubazali abaningi, usizi lwabo olukhulu kakhulu olwezingane zabo kanye nemiphumela isehlukaniso nokuba ngumzali ngokubambisana kuzoba nayo kubo. Yize umshado usuphelile, nobabili nisengabazali bezingane zenu, futhi akukho okuzoshintsha lokho.
Lapho uthuli seluzinzile esehlukanisweni, sekuyisikhathi sokubhekana nezinselelo ezibalulekile zokuba ngumzali ngokubambisana ngendlela ephumelela kakhulu futhi ezuzisayo ezinganeni zakho.
Uma uzibuza ukuthi ungaba kanjani ngumzali ngokubambisana ngemuva kwesahlukaniso noma, esikhundleni salokho, ukuthi ungaba kanjani ngumzali ngokubambisana ngempumelelo, ungasebenzisa lesi seluleko kubazali babahlanganyeli ukuze uhlose ukuba ngumzali ophumelelayo ngemuva kwesehlukaniso. Nazi izeluleko eziyishumi eziphezulu zokubambisana kwabazali abahlukanisile.
1. Cabanga ngakho njengesiqalo esisha
Ukuze ube ngumzali osebenzayo ngokubambisana ngemuva kwesehlukaniso, ungalahli ithemba bese ungena ogibeni lokucabanga ukuthi ukonakalise impilo yengane yakho unomphela.
Ezinganeni eziningi, impilo ngemuva kwesehlukaniso ingaba ngcono kakhulu kunokuphila nokuxineka okungapheli nokungezwani kwengxabano yabazali. Manje sebengaba nesikhathi esihle sekhwalithi nomzali ngamunye ngokwehlukana, okuvame ukusebenza kube yisibusiso esiphindwe kabili.
Khetha ukubona lokhu njengesahluko esisha noma isiqalo esisha sakho nezingane zakho futhi wamukele i-adventure yokuba ngumzali ngemuva kwesahlukaniso esiseduze.
2. Thola izithiyo
Esinye sezithiyo ezibaluleke kakhulu ekusebenziseni ukukhulisa ngokubambisana yimizwa emibi, enjengokuthukuthela, intukuthelo nomona. Zinike isikhathi sokudabuka ngokushona komshado wakho futhi uthole usizo oludingayo ukuze ulungise imizwa yakho.
Ungaphiki noma uzame ukufaka phansi indlela ozizwa ngayo - yazi futhi uqaphele imizwa yakho, kodwa futhi wazi ukuthi zingakuthikameza endimeni yakho yokuba ngumzali ngokubambisana ngemuva kwesehlukaniso.
Ngakho-ke zama ukuhlukanisa imizwa yakho ngenkathi usebenza nayo, ngenhloso yokuthola isisombululo esihle kakhulu sokubambisana kubantwana bakho.
3. Yenza isinqumo sokubambisana
Ukubambisana akusho ukuthi kufanele sibe abangane.
Kungenzeka ukuthi, ubudlelwano bunenkinga phakathi kwakho nowawushade naye, ngakho-ke kuzothatha isinqumo esiqondile ukuthi uzimisele ukubambisana njengomzali ngokwakhayo ngenxa yengane yakho.
Ukukubeka nje kalula, kuza ngokuthanda ingane yakho ngaphezu kokuzonda noma ukungathandi umuntu wakho wakudala. Ukubhala izinto phansi kungasiza ekwenzeni amalungiselelo acacile atholakala kalula ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ikakhulukazi uma kukhulunywa ngobani abakhokhela ini nezikhathi zeholide.
4. Thola uhlelo lokubambisana ngokubambisana
Uma usuthathe isinqumo sokubambisana, kuhle ukuthola uhlelo lobuzali obusebenzisana nobabili kanye nezingane.
Ungakhohlwa ukukhuluma nezingane zakho futhi uzwe eminye imibono emihle abavame ukuba nayo. Bazise ukuthi uzizwa kanjani nokuthi yini izinhloso zakho nokulindelwe.
Ungamangala ngemibono yabo nokuthi bayibona kanjani indlela eya phambili.
Uhlelo lwakho lokuba ngumzali ngokubambisana ngemuva kwesahlukaniso luzodinga ukumboza isheduli yokuvakashelwa, amaholide, nemicimbi ekhethekile, izidingo zezokwelapha zezingane, imfundo kanye nezimali.
5. Khumbula ukuvumelana nezimo
Manje njengoba usunohlelo oselukhona, lokho kuyisiqalo esiphakeme, kepha kuzodingeka ukuthi uphinde uhlole kabusha ngezikhathi ezithile.
Zilungiselele ukuguquguquka njengoba izinto ezingalindelekile zizovela ngezikhathi ezithile. Kwenzekani uma ingane yakho igula futhi idinga ukuhlala ekhaya ingafundi, noma uma izimo zakho ziguquka ngokuzayo?
Kwesinye isikhathi uhlelo lokubambisana ngokubambisana ludinga ukulungiswa ekuqaleni kwethemu ngalinye lesikole ngokuya ngamashejuli wezemidlalo noma omsebenzi wezingane zakho.
6. Hlonipha
Ukuqhubekela phambili ngendlela eyakhayo kusho ukubeka emuva okwedlule ngemuva kokubona ukuthi iminyaka yobuzali obambisene nayo ingaba ngcono kakhulu uma nobabili nihlala nihlonipha futhi nizithiba kulokho enikushoyo nenikwenzayo.
Lokhu kufaka lokho okushoyo enganeni yakho uma lowo owawushade naye engekho. Khumbula ukuthi ingane yenu inithanda nobabili.
Ngakho-ke, ngenkathi ungumzali ngokubambisana ngemuva kwesehlukaniso, ngokubekezela nokubekezela, unganikela (futhi ngethemba lokuthi uzokwamukela imbuyiselo) isithunzi, inhlonipho, nenhlonipho efanele wonke umuntu.
7. Funda ukubhekana nesizungu sakho
Isikhathi ngaphandle kwezingane zakho singaba esimbi kakhulu nesizungu, ikakhulukazi ekuqaleni.
Enye yezeluleko ezibalulekile zokuba ngumzali kubazali abahlukanisile yilezi, ungazenzi lukhuni kuwe, kepha ngobumnene qala ukugcwalisa isikhathi sakho wedwa ngezinto ezakhayo ozijabulelayo.
Ungaqala nokubheka phambili ekubeni nesikhathi sakho, isikhathi sokuvakashela abangane, ukuphumula, nokwenza izinto zokuzilibazisa obukade ufuna ukuzenza.
Ngakho-ke, lapho izingane zakho zibuya, ungazizwa uqabulekile futhi ukulungele ukubamukela futhi ngamandla avuselelwe.
8. Xhumana nomngane womshado omusha
Uma owake wakwazi ukushada nomuntu omusha noma eshada futhi, lo muntu uzobe echitha isikhathi esiningi nezingane zakho.
Lokhu mhlawumbe kungenye yezinto eziyinselele ukwamukela ukukhulisa izingane ngokubambisana ngemuva kwesehlukaniso. Kodwa-ke, ngokusebenzela ingane yakho, kuhle ukwenza yonke imizamo ukuxhumana nalo muntu.
Uma ungabelana ngezinto ezikukhathazayo nokulindela izingane zakho ngendlela evulekile nengavikelekile, ngaphandle kokuzivikela, kungasiza kakhulu ekusizeni izingane zakho zenze okunamathiselwe okuphephile.
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9. Yakha iqembu lokusekela
Sonke sidinga iqembu lokusekela, noma ngabe ngumndeni, abangani, amalungu esonto, noma osebenza nabo.
Ungazami ukuhamba wedwa - njengabantu, futhi senziwe ukuthi sihlale emphakathini, ngakho-ke ungesabi ukucela usizo nokuxhasa abanye. Lapho usuqale ukuzabalazela amalungelo, uzobusiswa ngokuthola ukuthi lutholakala kangakanani usizo.
Futhi uma kukhulunywa ngokubambisana njengomzali ngemuva kwesehlukaniso, qiniseka ukuthi iqembu lakho lokusekelana livunyelaniswe nendlela yakho nendlela oxhumana ngayo nowawushade naye, ngenhlonipho nangokubambisana.
10. Khumbula ukubaluleka kokuzinakekela
Ukuzinakekela kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokululama, ukululama, nokubuyiselwa emuva kwesehlukaniso.
Uma ufuna ukuba ngumzali osebenzisanayo ngokwakhayo, kufanele ube ngcono kakhulu, ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo nangokomoya - ukukhulisa ngokubambisana ngemuva kwesahlukaniso kudinga ukubambisana okulinganayo kubo bobabili abazali.
Uma oshade naye ekuhlukumeza noma engazimisele ukubambisana, ungadinga ukuthi uthathe izinyathelo zomthetho noma ufune izeluleko nezeluleko ukuze uthole indlela ehamba phambili yokuvikela wena kanye nenhlalakahle yezingane zakho.