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- 1. Yamukela izinguquko
- 2. Ungazizwa ucindezelekile
- 3. Nakekela impilo yakho
- 4. Xhuma nabanye omama abasha
- 5. Ukuzinza enkambisweni ejwayelekile
- 6. Veza ngobuzali
- 7. Ungakhohlwa umuntu wakho
Akunandaba ukuthi izincwadi zokukhulisa izingane zikutshelani noma ukuthi yini oyizwayo kwabanye abazali, unyaka wakho wokuqala njengomzali ungavula amehlo ngempela.
Impilo yakho izoshintsha ngokuphelele - umzimba wakho, izinto eziza kuqala kuwe, ubudlelwano bakho konke kuyashintsha, okwenza unyaka wakho wokuqala njengomzali ungagcini ngokuthokozisa kepha futhi uyakhathaza.
Ukwengezwa kwelungu lomndeni elisha kungumcimbi ojabulisayo, kepha futhi kungacindezela kakhulu kubo bobabili abazali. Unyaka wakho wokuqala njengomzali ukuvumela ukuthi ufeze izigaba zakho eziningi zokukhula ngenkathi ulinganisa izingqinamba zomshado, izingcindezi zomsebenzi, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlelwa kokulala.
Ekupheleni konyaka wokuqala, uzobona ukuthi noma ngabe ubunzima kangakanani lo nyaka, ukwaneliseka kokufeza okuthile okubaluleke kakhulu kukwenza konke kube nenjongo.
1. Yamukela izinguquko
Izinyanga zokuqala zonyaka wokuqala wokuba ngumzali zizoba nzima kakhulu. Uhlelo lwakho ngokusobala ngeke luhlale lunjalo futhi izinxushunxushu zizoba khona.
Ngeke ukwazi ukwenza izinto eziningi obukade uzenza phambilini kepha kuzoba nezinto eziningi ezizokwenzeka kuwe. Yamukela izinguquko ezintsha futhi ungakhohlwa ukuzazisa wena nozakwenu ngokuphatha lezi zinguquko kanye nenqwaba yenjabulo yakho.
2. Ungazizwa ucindezelekile
Ungakhathazeki uma indlu yakho imapeketwane noma awunawo amandla okupheka isidlo sakusihlwa. Udinga nje ukuphumula futhi uzame ukungazenzi konke ngokwakho.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuzinakekela wena nengane yakho.
Ezinye izinto ezingakusiza uhlale uhlanzekile ezinyangeni ezintathu zokuqala yilezi - ukulala lapho ingane yakho ilele.Kubalulekile ukuthi uphumule kahle ukuze unakekele umntwana futhi wenze yonke imisebenzi yasendlini.
3. Nakekela impilo yakho
Ngonyaka wokuqala wokuba ngumzali, nakekela indlela odla ngayo ngoba udinga amandla okwenza wonke umsebenzi owengeziwe. Futhi, bomama, nidinga konke lokho kudla okunomsoco ekunceliseni ibele.
Ungahlali uboshwe endlini. Iya epaki noma esitolo njengoba ushintsho lwendawo luzokwenzela izimangaliso.
Yamukela usizo ezihlotsheni, kubangane, noma komakhelwane. Uma befuna ukugcina izingane, ukusiza ekuhlanzeni izindlu, noma ukunikeza ukudla, hlala uthi yebo.
4. Xhuma nabanye omama abasha
Ngonyaka wokuqala wokuba ngumzali, kuzosiza uma uxhumana nabanye omama noma obaba abasha njengoba kungaduduza kakhulu ukukhuluma nabazali ababhekene nezimo ezifanayo. Kuyasiza ukuthola ukuthi awuwedwa.
Lawa maqhinga azosiza futhi ekulweni nokuguquguquka kwemizwelo ozohlangabezana nakho ngokuqinisekile. Yize lesi kuyisikhathi esijabulisa kakhulu nesanelisayo ezimpilweni zabazali abasha, kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuzizwa ukhathazekile, ukhala futhi udangele.
Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi 'i-baby blues,' edalwa ngenxa yokuncipha kwamazinga e-estrogen, ingathinta ama-50% abesifazane ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ngemuva kokubeletha.
Kodwa-ke, lezi blues zivame ukunyamalala ngenyanga ngemuva kokubeletha ikakhulukazi uma uncelisa. Ukuncelisa ibele kusiza ukunciphisa imiphumela yokushintsha kwamahomoni.
5. Ukuzinza enkambisweni ejwayelekile
Lapho ingane inezinyanga eziyisithupha izelwe, abesifazane abaningi babuyela emisebenzini yabo noma okungenani baphindela ezweni langempela ngokuya ejimini nokufeza ezinye izibopho.
Kubalulekile ukuthola ukunakekelwa kwezinsuku okuhle ikakhulukazi uma usebenza ngokugcwele. Lapho usenelisekile ngomuntu ogcina ingane yakho, ungangena kalula emsebenzini wakho ngokuqala ngohlelo oluguquguqukayo noma olulula. Cacisa kuwo wonke umuntu ukuthi yize uzimisele ukudonsa isisindo sakho, uzotholakala kuphela emahoreni abekiwe.
Ngalesi sikhathi awudingi ukusebenza izinsuku ezinde noma uthathe izabelo ezengeziwe ukuze isikhathi sakho sokuba kude nengane yakho sibonakale singapheli.
Okubaluleke kakhulu, zinakekele njengoba omama abaningi abasebenzayo bevame ukungazinaki. Imvamisa badla ekuhambeni, balale kancane kakhulu, futhi abavamile ukuzivocavoca umzimba. Le ngcindezi ingathikameza.
Into efanayo iyasebenza kobaba abasha.
6. Veza ngobuzali
Ingane yakho manje inezinyanga eziyisithupha izelwe.
Yize ingxenye yesibili yonyaka wakho wokuqala njengomzali ingathula kakhulu kunengxenye yokuqala, usengathola ikhanda lakho lijikeleza ngazo zonke izinguquko ezisanda kwenzeka empilweni yakho. Manje yisikhathi sokubuyela ekujuleni kwezinto.
Zama ukuxhumana kabusha nabangane ongazange uzwe ngabo muva nje ngoba ukugcina lobu budlelwano obukhethekile kungasiza ekucebiseni impilo yakho.
Yenza isikhathi semisebenzi obuyijabulela ngaphambi kokuthola ingane yakho. Geza, ume esitolo sakho sekhofi osithandayo, vakashela umnyuziyamu, noma ufunde incwadi. Lokhu kuzokusiza uphumule futhi uzizwe unamandla.
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7. Ungakhohlwa umuntu wakho
Ukuba ngabazali kungadala ushintsho oluthile lokuzamazama komhlaba ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwendoda nenkosikazi.
Akukona nje kuphela ukuthi ukhathazekile ngokudla isikhathi nokushintsha amanabukeni esikhundleni sokuyodla isidlo sakusihlwa esimnandi, kepha futhi kungenzeka ungazitholi usesimweni sezingxoxo ezinengqondo, ingasaphathwa eyokwenza uthando nomlingani wakho.
Ukuze uzizwe uxhumene kakhulu ngokocansi nangokomoya nomlingani wakho, khipha “isikhathi esithile”. Phuma ngezinsuku bese uhlela nezocansi. Ungakhathazeki ngokulahlekelwa ukuzenzekela. Ungazithola ulindele ngokujabulisayo isikhathi eningasichitha nobabili.