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- 1. Thola usizo oluncane kubangani bakho
- 2. Joyina iqembu lokusekela
- 3. Vuleleka ngangokunokwenzeka
- 4. Thola izindlela zokuxhuma kabusha
- 5. Thatha ikhefu uma udinga
- 6. Thela amandla ngokuzivocavoca umzimba
- 7. Shintsha okusemandleni akho
- 8. Thola ukuthi ungahleka kanjani futhi
- 9. Iya endaweni entsha ngokuphelele
- 10. Thethelela ngokusemandleni akho
- 11. Iya kokwelulekwa
- 12. Ekugcineni, chitha isikhathi esithile eLangeni
Uzwa ngabasindile ngemuva kwesiphepho. Uzwa ngabasindile ngemuva kokuphahlazeka kwebhanoyi noma kwemoto. Abantu bafuna ukukhuluma nabo ukuthola izindaba zabo ngokuthi babesondelene kanjani nokufa kepha bakwazi ngandlela thile ukudlula.
Sonke siyayithanda indaba enhle yabasindile ngaphandle kwalapho kukhulunywa ngokusinda ekungathembekini.
Cha, labo abasindile bagcina izindaba zabo kubo. Abantu abacabangi ngisho nokubabuza izindaba zabo. Bangabasindile abathule, abangakhulumi abasavuka nsuku zonke, abalwa nezikhathi zokwesaba nosizi, futhi bazame ukubona imisebe yokukhanya phakathi kwamafu akhathaza izimpilo zabo.
Bangobani abasindile?
Oshade naye okhohlisiwe, izingane zombhangqwana, ingane engumphumela wokungathembeki, abangane, umndeni owedlulele-ukungathembeki kushiya umsindo omkhulu.
Uma oshade naye engathembekile kuwe, futhi uzizwa ungazwakali, awuwedwa. Baningi abahlupheka buthule, bezama nje ukudlula usuku ngalunye nokwakha impilo yabo entsha. Akudingeki udlule ekusindeni kokungathembeki wedwa.
Uma uxakwe yimibuzo efana nokuthi, ‘umshado ungasinda yini ekungathembekini’, futhi uma kwenzeka, ‘mingaki imishado esinda ukungathembeki’ nokuthi ‘ungasinda kanjani ukungathembeki’, ungabe usabheka phambili.
Nazi ezinye izinyathelo ezibalulekile zokusinda ekungathembekini emshadweni nokubuyela esimeni esijwayelekile.
1. Thola usizo oluncane kubangani bakho
Uma ukhanyisela ukuthi ungasinda kanjani othandweni, isisombululo esiyinhloko sokusinda othandweni ukuthatha izeluleko kubangani bakho abaseduze.
Abanye abangane bakho bangakugwema manje, futhi lokho kuzolimaza. Kepha awukwazi ukuba wedwa njengamanje. Finyelela uma kufanele, futhi ubonge ngalabo bangane abakhona abakusizayo.
Hlela ama-meetups ejwayelekile ekhofi, ama-movie aphume, uhambo lokuyothenga, noma yini oyithandayo. Udinga ukwazi ukuthi othile uyakukhathalela njalo. Qaphela ukuthi abanye abangane abakwazi ukuba yilokhu okudingayo, kepha bangasiza ngandlela thile.
Mhlawumbe umngani webanga elide angakusiza ngokuthumela imiyalezo ethunyelayo, noma omunye umngani angakusiza ukukugqugquzela ukuthi uye emicimbini yendawo. Yakha iqembu lakho ukukusiza usinde ekuthembekeni ekubuyiseleni ebudlelwaneni bakho.
2. Joyina iqembu lokusekela
Kukhona abanye laphaya abazi ukuthi ubhekene nani ngenkathi usinda ekungathembekini.
Noma ngabe izimo zihlukile, bazokwazi ukuthi ubuhlungu obuzwayo buhlanganisa konke, futhi bazovuleleka kakhulu kuwe mayelana nesipiliyoni sakho kunanoma ngubani omunye. Udinga ukwabelana ngendaba yakho futhi wazi ukuthi abanye bayasinda.
Joyina iqembu lokusekelwa ukuze uthole izimpendulo zemibuzo yakho eminyene efana nokuthi, ‘umshado ungasinda yini othandweni,’ ‘mingaki imishado esinda ezindabeni’ nangaphezulu ngokufanayo.
3. Vuleleka ngangokunokwenzeka
Imizwa yakho mhlawumbe igcwele yonke indawo. Ngelinye ilanga ungazizwa ulungile, futhi ngezinye izinsuku ingqondo yakho ingadlala ngawe.
Kubalulekile ukuthi uvule ngangokunokwenzeka. Uma udinga isiqinisekiso noma imininingwane mayelana nalolu daba, ungayigcini leyo mizwa.
Buza oshade naye ngomoya ophansi ngangokunokwenzeka, kodwa ubuze. Uma ukhungathekile, uthukuthele, wesaba, njll. Yisho kanjalo. Oshade naye udinga ukwazi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngale nqubo.
4. Thola izindlela zokuxhuma kabusha
Ngabe umshado ungasinda ngemuva kokuqomisana?
Yebo, uma oshade naye ezimisele ukulungisa izinto. Kungaleso sikhathi lapho ungathola khona ukuthi nobabili ningaxhuma kanjani.
Ngemuva kocansi, uzozizwa unqamukile, futhi ungahle ungazizwa sengathi umazi nhlobo owakwakho. Ungase ungazizwa ukulungele ukwenza izinto ebenijwayele ukuzenza ndawonye.
Ngakho-ke mhlawumbe, thola okuthile okusha!
Iya ezinsukwini ezijwayelekile, ngakho-ke unesikhathi sokuxoxa wedwa. Qiniseka ukuthi ubeka lesi sikhathi njengesikhathi "sokukhuluma okungeyona indaba". Kuzoba nzima ukuxhuma futhi uqhubeke uma ngabe yilokho kuphela okhuluma ngakho. Kepha, zama ukungena ezindleleni ezintsha.
5. Thatha ikhefu uma udinga
Uma ungeke ukwazi ukuba ndawonye okwamanje, thatha ikhefu. Vumelanani ngesikhathi esinqunyiwe, bese niphinde nivakashela ubuhlobo benu kamuva.
Kwesinye isikhathi ukuphumula kuyadingeka, ngakho-ke izinto azibi kubi, futhi futhi unesikhathi sokucabanga nokwenza. Vele wenze imigomo yokwehlukaniswa kwesivivinyo icace, ngakho-ke akudingeki ukuthi ube nengcindezi ngakho.
6. Thela amandla ngokuzivocavoca umzimba
Phakamisa izinsimbi, ubhukude amanye amathanga, whack lelo bhola lomphebezo enqenqemeni — ingabe lokho akuzwakali njenge-cathartic?
Kungenxa yokuthi kunjalo. Futhi uyakudinga manje kunanini ngaphambili. Umzimba wakho wenyama nesimo sakho somzwelo kuxhunyiwe. Uma uzizwa umuhle emzimbeni, kuzokuphakamisa imizwa yakho.
Ukuvivinya umzimba kungasiza futhi ukususa ingqondo yakho empilweni yakho imizuzu engama-30 noma ngaphezulu. Ukuzivocavoca umzimba kungasiza ekunciphiseni intukuthelo, ukudabuka, kanye nengcindezi. Ungaba futhi ube nabantu abanethemba, okungakusiza uzizwe ungcono, nawe.
7. Shintsha okusemandleni akho
Ngenkathi uhamba ngendlela yokusinda ukungathembeki emshadweni, esinye sezinyathelo ezibucayi ukwenza yonke imisebenzi emincane ongayenza.
Oda ukudla kwakho ku-inthanethi bese ukuqoqa noma ukulethwe; qasha umphathi wendlu ukuthi angene kanye ngesonto; khokha ingane yakwamakhelwane amadola ambalwa ukugunda utshani bakho.
Impilo yakho isenkingeni okwamanje. Awukwazi ukunakekela zonke izinto ozidingayo. Ngakho-ke thola izindlela zokuphathisa abanye, uziqashele futhi uzisebenzele.
8. Thola ukuthi ungahleka kanjani futhi
Ungazizwa sengathi awusoze wakwazi ukuhleka futhi, kepha kancane, uzomomotheka, uhleke, bese ugcwele ukuhleka kwesisu futhi. Futhi kuzozizwa kamnandi.
Yamukela injabulo nokuhleka ngezandla ezifudumele. Ungumuntu osindile, futhi lokho kusho ukuthi usudlulisa okwenzekile.
Kulokhu, ukuhleka kungaba umuthi ongcono kakhulu wokusinda ekungathembekini. Ngakho-ke, chitha isikhathi uzijabulisa nabangane, bukela i-movie ehlekisayo, iya kwiklabhu yamahlaya, njll.
9. Iya endaweni entsha ngokuphelele
Konke kukukhumbuza isikhathi sakho esedlule nokuthi kwenzekeni. Ngakho-ke, iya endaweni entsha ngokuphelele kuwe lapho usohlelweni lokusinda ekuthembekeni.
Kungaba isitolo sekhofi edolobheni lakho esingaba yindawo yakho entsha, noma mhlawumbe ungathatha uhambo lomgwaqo olusheshayo oluya edolobhaneni eliseduze lapho ungaba khona izivakashi usuku olulodwa noma ezimbili.
Indawo entsha iphazamisa izingqondo zethu futhi iyise ezindaweni ezingcono.
10. Thethelela ngokusemandleni akho
Ngeke ukwazi ukuqhubeka nempilo yakho uze ukudedele okwenzekile. Lokhu kuzoba nzima futhi kuzothatha isikhathi esithile, kepha kungenzeka.
Indaba ingaba yisisindo esikhulu emahlombe akho owathwele ngapha nangapha — ngakho-ke yeka. Lapho ukwazi ukuxolela, uzozizwa ukhululekile futhi ukulungele ukuqhubeka.
11. Iya kokwelulekwa
Lapho ungakwazi ukweqa imibuzo ebuzayo enjengokuthi ‘umshado wakho ungasinda yini ekuthandaneni’ noma ‘ukuthi ungasinda kanjani ukungathembeki emshadweni’ ngokwenza konke okusemandleni akho, yisikhathi sokuthola ukwelulekwa.
Kukhona abelaphi laphaya abanesipiliyoni sobungcweti abasiza abasindile ekungathembekini njengani.
Thola umeluleki omuhle futhi uvakashele njalo. Bangakusiza wenze ukuqonda kwemizwa yakho futhi ucubungule okwenzekile. Futhi, bangakusiza ekusindeni kokungathembeki ngendlela engcono kakhulu.
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12. Ekugcineni, chitha isikhathi esithile eLangeni
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