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Ukuhlela umndeni kungaba ngenye yezingxenye ezinhle kakhulu zokuba ngabantu abashadile ngakho-ke ufuna ukubeka umcabango omkhulu kuwo.
Yize nobabili ninokuningi okushoyo ngakho, kodwa futhi nizothola ukuthi kunendlela ethile enifuna ukuyithatha nicabanga ukuthi ningawuqala kanjani umndeni noma niwuhlelele kanjani umndeni.
Ukuqala umndeni kungenzeka kungezi ngokwemvelo njengoba ungacabanga, futhi ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuthi wena gcina ukuxhumana kuphila futhi kahle sonke isikhathi. Lesi yisikhathi esimnandi, kepha kufanele uqiniseke ukuthi unezingxoxo ezithile ezibalulekile endleleni.
Ezinye zezeluleko ezinhle kakhulu zokuhlelela umndeni ukuzama ukuphumula nokujabulela inqubo. Cabanga ukuthi ngabe uzilungele izingane nokuthi zingaki izingane ongathanda ukuba nazo.
Zibuze ukuthi uqale nini umndeni? Yiziphi izinzuzo nezimbi zokuba namawele? Ngabe uzinzile ngokwezimali ukuba nezingane? Le yimibuzo ongazibuza yona ngaphambi kokuthola ingane noma lapho uzizwa usukulungele ukuqala umndeni.
Ingabe khuluma ngekusasa ngokwalokho okufunela izingane zakho noma ukuthi uzozikhulisa kanjani. Ngale kwalokho, kunjalo qiniseka ukuthi ucabanga neqiniso lokuthi ukuba nengane kuletha imizwa ehlukahlukene.
Ufuna ukungena ngamehlo akho evulekile futhi wazi ukuthi ukuba yiqembu noma umndeni weqiniso kuzosiza kakhulu.
Khipha ukucindezela bese uzama ukujabulela inqubo
Ekucabangeni ukuthi ungaqala kanjani ukuhlela umndeni, wazi lapho isikhathi silungile. Yazi futhi lokho akuyona yonke into ezokuqondanisa kahle, kepha kuzoba nokucatshangelwa okufanele nibonisane ngakho.
Uma uhlela umndeni, cabanga ngendawo onayo, isikhathi, ukuthi ikusasa lizobukeka kanjani, nokuthi ufuna ukuba yibazali abanjani. Khipha ukucindezeleka ku-equation futhi uzame ukuthatha izinqumo ucabanga ukuthi ukuba nomntwana kuyinto ethokozisayo futhi egcwele injabulo.
Uma ungabeka eceleni imizwa engemihle bese ufinyelela lapho ungajabulela khona inqubo, lapho-ke ukuhlela umndeni kungaba ngesinye sezici ezizuzisa kakhulu empilweni yakho ndawonye njengombhangqwana oshadile.
Kwesinye isikhathi iseluleko esihle kakhulu sokuhlelela umndeni ukuthokozela uhambo ngendlela efanayo nendawo oya kuyo, futhi nazi ukuthi konke kuzowela emugqeni uma nisebenza ndawonye njengeqembu leqiniso.
Gcina ingqondo nomzimba ophilile
Nazi izinto ezithile ongazenza ukugcina ingqondo nomzimba uphilile lapho uhlela umndeni noma nini.
- Lapho nje wena noshade naye senizamile ukuthola ingane, qiniseka ukuthi wena naka umjikelezo wakho we-ovulation. Ukunquma isikhathi noma usuku lwe-ovulation ngqo kunikeza umbhangqwana ithuba eliphakeme kakhulu lokukhulelwa umntwana.
- Enye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu okudingeka izithandani ziyenze ngaphambi kokuqala umndeni ukwenza lahla imikhuba ethile emibi.
Okulindelekile omama noma amadoda kufanele yeka ukubhema ngoba kungaba yingozi kakhulu kumama nasenganeni. Ngokufanayo, ukuphuza utshwala kuyingozi enkulu kumama nasenganeni ngesikhathi nangesikhashana ngemuva kokukhulelwa.
- Bobabili abesifazane abangaphansi nangaphezulu ngokweqile basengozini yokuveza izinkinga ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Zama ukuthola isisindo esinempilo ngaphambi kokukhulelwa kodwa ungadluli ngomqondo wesisindo esinempilo, esingaba nemiphumela emibi futhi.
- Yenza ukuhlolwa kwakho kwezokwelapha kwenziwe ngezikhathi ezithile ukuhlala ngaphambi kwanoma yiziphi izinkinga ezingavela ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa noma ngemuva kokukhulelwa.
Ngenkathi ukuyo, thintana nesazi ngobuzali ukuze ukwazi ukuzilungiselela okuzokwenzeka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa nangemva kokukhulelwa.
- Ozakwethu badlala indima ebalulekile ekwakheni indawo enempilo yokuba umlingani othole umntwana. Akukona nje kuphela ukuthi kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuthi umama uhlala enomzimba omuhle, kepha indlela yokuphila enempilo kude nemicabango nemibono engemihle kubo bobabili abalingani ibaluleke kakhulu.
- Cabanga ukuthatha ukuhlolwa kokuthwala izakhi zofuzo ukukhomba ukuthi ngabe kukhona yini okuguqukayo kwezofuzo lokho kungazuzwa njengengane. Izinkinga zofuzo ezifana ne-Autism, i-Down syndrome njll. Zingatholakala ngokuhlolwa kofuzo.
Uma kwenzeka ukuthwala ukuguquka okunjalo ungazilungiselela futhi yenza amalungiselelo wokwenza impilo yakho neyengane yakho zikhululeke kakhudlwana.
Qoqa izinombolo
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Ngaphandle kwezindleko zanyanga zonke ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane, kuzoba khona i- inani elikhulu lezindleko ezihilelekile ngaphambi kokubeletha. Izihlalo zezimoto, okokulala, okuhamba ngezinqola, izingubo, amanabukeni, nezinye izinto eziningi kungakudla imali eshisiwe.
Kungase kudingeke ukuthi ukwenze nweba inqubomgomo yakho yomshuwalense wezempilo nempilo ukwamukela umntwana osanda kuzalwa. Izinqubomgomo ezithile zingashintshwa maphakathi nonyaka kodwa lokho kuzophinda kudinge ukucatshangelwa okuningi uma usubhekisisa izimali zakho.
Izingane zikhula ngokushesha futhi ngaphambi kokuthi wazi ukuthi ziya esikoleni nasemakolishi. Uma ufuna ukuvikela ikusasa lezingane zakho, udinga ukuqala ukonga ngisho nangaphambi kokuba bazalwe. Nyusa imfundo, khuphula izindleko.
Ufuna ukuqala umndeni noma ukuhlela umndeni kudinga ukubukwa okuningi ngezinqumo zakho zamanje nezesikhathi esizayo zempilo, hhayi ukuthi konke ngeke kukufanele ekugcineni kodwa ungenza inqubo ingabi nzima kakhulu kuwe nakumlingani wakho.