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- Ithiphu 1: Konke kusengqondweni
- Ithiphu 2: Yiba ngumphathi webhizinisi lakho
- Ithiphu 3: Shiya ukugxila kwakho kumyeni wakho kuye
Isehlukaniso singalimaza ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo kwabanye besifazane. Ngenkathi ezinye zibonakala zivela ebumnyameni behlukaniso ziqinile futhi zinamandla. Umehluko phakathi kwale miphumela emibili mikhulu, kepha ngokusobala, kunomphumela owodwa kuphela kulokhu okubili ofiselekayo. Umbuzo uthi, yini lena eyenziwa yilaba besifazane abanikwe amandla ukuzisiza? Futhi yini ebangela umehluko omkhulu emiphumeleni?
Sithole amathiphu amathathu anika amandla wokuhlelela abesifazane isehlukaniso ukuze bonke abesifazane bakwazi ukuvela ngesehlukaniso sabo benokuzethemba futhi beqinile - bebabeka kahle esigabeni esilandelayo sempilo yabo.
Ithiphu 1: Konke kusengqondweni
Isehlukaniso sibuhlungu kuwo wonke umuntu, ngisho nesehlukaniso esinamandla, esinikwe amandla esesivele sishilo, ngisho nakwabesilisa abathintekayo nakwabashade nabo ababefuna isehlukaniso kwasekuqaleni.
Isikhathi esiyinselele, isehlukaniso simayelana noshintsho futhi ushintsho luyesabisa, kepha kufanele ukhumbule ukuthi unamandla okuqondisa lolo shintsho ukuze ukwazi ukuhamba indlela eya ekuthuleni nasekugcwalisekeni komuntu siqu. Konke okudingekayo ukufeza lokhu ukuphatha ukucabanga kwakho!
Ngakho-ke unalokho engqondweni, enye yezinto zokuqala ongayenza ukuqinisekisa ukuthi uvuka emalangabini omshado wakho unamandla futhi unamandla ukunquma ukuthi uzovumela inqubo yedivosi ikuthathe noma ukhethe ukuthi sebenza kanzima ukuze ube osebenzayo, osebenzayo futhi omuhle njengoba wamukela lolu hambo olunesibindi.
Esinye sezeluleko ezinhle kakhulu zokuhlelela abesifazane isehlukaniso ukukhumbula ukuthi noma ungazizwa ulawula impilo yakho njengamanje, kunezinto eziningi ngesahlukaniso sakho ongazilawula futhi enye yazo ukucabanga kwakho.
Ukufunda ukwamukela nokucubungula ukulahlekelwa oke wabhekana nakho, nokwenza izinyathelo eziqondile zokwakha kabusha impilo entsha nenempilo ngokwakho kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuhlolwa kwe-mindset njalo ukugcina umbono omuhle, ngenkathi ukuzivumela isikhathi sokudabuka ngokulahleka kwakho kubalulekile. Ikakhulu uma wazi ukuthi konke lokhu kuzodlula futhi ngolunye usuku uzophinde ulunge.
Thatha isikhathi sokuqaphela izikhathi lapho ungazizwa ukhathazekile, ukhungathekile noma uphansi, futhi uchithe isikhathi ufunde ukuthi uziphatha kanjani ukuze zingabe zisaba ezakho. Lapho-ke njengoba uthola ukuthi uyakwazi ukuzilawula, uzoba nokuzethemba okuthe xaxa usuku ngalunye wazi ukuthi uma ukwazi ukuzilawula, ungaphatha noma yini.
Uma ulwela ukuhlala unethemba, thatha ithuba lokuthola usizo lochwepheshe ochungechungeni lwezikhathi zokwelashwa. Futhi qiniseka ukuthi usiza umndeni wakho nabangane ukuthi bakusize ngokubazisa ukuthi bangakusiza kanjani. Ukwazisa abantu ukuthi yini oyidingayo kuzoqinisekisa ukuthi uthola ukwesekwa okufanele (ukuhlinzeka ngezidingo zakho kuyenzeka, kunengqondo futhi kuyenzeka). Ngakho-ke kungani ungenzi ezinye zalezi zinguquko zengqondo namuhla ukuze ukwazi ukuzuza impilo yakho entsha.
Ithiphu 2: Yiba ngumphathi webhizinisi lakho
Uma uhlela ukushiya isehlukaniso sakho sinikezwe amandla ngakho-ke lena yiphuzu elilodwa kusuka ekuhlelweni kwesehlukaniso sesikole somcabango sabesifazane okudingeka wazi futhi wenze okuthile ngaso.
Kunezindlela eziningi kakhulu zabesifazane, (kufaka phakathi abahola kakhulu) abangazi ngempela ukuthi kwenzekani ezimalini zabo zomshado nezomndeni. Noma ngabe nguwe okhokha zonke izikweletu, ngabe nguwe owenza zonke izinhlelo zezezimali? Uma kukhona noma yisiphi isici sokuphathwa kwezimali zezindaba zakho zomshado ongakaze uhlanganyele kuso, manje yisikhathi sokubandakanyeka ufunde ukuthi ungasisingatha kanjani. Futhi uma ushesha ukufunda, ikusasa lakho lizoba ngcono.
Kunezikhathi ngesikhathi sehlukaniso lapho uzozizwa ungalawuleki, futhi ungazizwa sengathi inqubo iyahudula, uma ungakwamukela lokhu kuhlelwa kwabesifazane ngediphu ngokushesha, khona-ke uzozizwa ulawula ngokushesha, futhi uzoba nokuthile ukukuphazamisa ebuhlungwini benqubo. Uzobe wenza isenzo esizoqinisekisa ukuthi nsuku zonke uzobe usiba ngcono, futhi uqina.
Noma ungakuthandi ukubhekana nemali udinga ukufunda. Qala ngokubuyekeza 'ukuhlelela ukuhlukanisa abesifazane tip 1', lungisa ukucabanga kwakho ufunde ukukuthanda. Uzojabula ngokuthi ukwenzile esikhathini eside esizayo.
Ukubhekana nesehlukaniso ungaqondi noma wazi ngezimali zakho kuzokwethusa. Ungayiphatha kanjani impilo yakho yezezimali, uma ungazi ukuthi unemali engakanani? Udinga ukuzibamba, ufunde isimo sakho sezezimali (noma ngabe sibi kangakanani) bese uthatha izinyathelo zokukusingatha.
Uma udinga ukwelulekwa ngezezimali, noma ukwesekwa ukuphatha noma iziphi izikweletu, kuhlala kunezinsizakusebenza eziningi ezingakusiza ukuthi uzulazule kunoma yimaphi amanzi amnyama.
Udinga ukwazi ukuthi kungakhathalekile ukuthi isimo sakho sezezimali sinjani, kusekhona ongakwenza ukulungisa isimo futhi konke okudingeka ukwenze ukudonsa ama-bootstraps akho ufunde ukuthi kwenzekani nokuthi ungakuphatha kanjani - njenge umphathi webhizinisi angathanda.
Ukuze uqalise, hlela ukuthatha izinyathelo ezincane. Qala ngokuba yi-sleuth bese ubuyekeza umzila wephepha lakho lezezimali. Bheka amarekhodi asebhange, amafomu entela, izitatimende zekhadi lesikweletu, uma ungakwazi ukuzifinyelela, cela ikhophi. Thatha isheke lesikweletu egameni lakho.
Ithiphu 3: Shiya ukugxila kwakho kumyeni wakho kuye
Njengabesifazane, ngokwemvelo siyanakekela futhi sikhathazekile ngenhlalakahle yalabo bantu ababalulekile empilweni yethu. Uma unesikhathi esithile ushadile, lokhu kufaka nomyeni wakho.
Njengoba uhamba ngenqubo yesehlukaniso, sekuyisikhathi sokushintsha ukugxila kwakho kumyeni wakho kuye kuwe. Uma usahlanganisa amarekhodi akhe ocingo noma uskena imithombo yezokuxhumana ukuze uthole ukusolwa noma ukungathembeki egameni lakhe, usabandakanyekile ngokomzwelo, futhi wonke amandla owasebenzisayo kulokhu ukumosha.
Uma uthambekele ekucabangeni ngemizwa yendoda yakho, futhi ubhekane nezidingo zakhe ezingokomzwelo noma ehlukanisiwe nawe ngokomzwelo futhi engakusebenzisa, noma uma esebenzisa ukukhohlisa okungokomzwelo ukuzama ukukubuyisela emuva ngokuqaphela noma ngokungazi ngeke uzisize noma uMyeni wakho ngokunakekela izidingo zakhe.
Udinga ukusika izibopho futhi unikeze wena neNdoda yakho isikhala sokuthola imithombo emisha yokuxhaswa ngokomzwelo.