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- Ungenza umehluko wangempela empilweni yengane
- Kuyisikhumbuzo esihle samandla akho
- Kuzofanele wenze umzamo
- Uzofunda ukusebenzisana
- Izothuthukisa ukuxhumana
- Uzosungula amanani ayisisekelo emndenini
Kuyamukelwa kabanzi ukuthi a umshado omuhle akuyona into evele yenzeke, yinto okufanele usebenze kuyo. Lapho imibhangqwana iwela enkambisweni, isikhalazo esivamile ukuthi iqala ukuzizwa ifana nokuba nomuntu ohlala naye kunokuba nomlingani.
Ukusebenza imisebenzi ehlukene nokuphila izimpilo ezihlukene kuhle ekugcineni ukuzimela kwakho. Kepha uma izingane sezihambile esidlekeni, kungaba nzima ukuthola intshisekelo efanayo yokukubuyisela ndawonye. Ngisho nemibhangqwana engenabantwana ingabhekana nalolu hlobo lwenselelo emshadweni wayo. Kaningi kungazizwa sengathi umshado awusebenzi kanti empeleni akukho lutho olungahambi kahle ngokuyisisekelo.
Ngakho-ke, ungawuthuthukisa kanjani umshado wakho? Ungawugcina kanjani umshado onempilo?
Emibhangqwaneni efuna inselelo ehlanganyelwe yokwenza ndawonye, ukukhuthaza kungahlinzeka ngenketho yokuzikhethela engakusondeza ndawonye. Ngenye yezinqumo ezinhle nezihlakaniphile zokuthi ungawuqinisa kanjani umshado wakho.
Ukubhekana nezinselelo ndawonye kungasiza ekuqiniseni umshado wenu. Bakhumbuza abantu ababili ngezizathu ezenza bathandana.
Ngabe ukukhulisa ingane kungawuqinisa yini umshado wakho? Nazi izizathu ezi-6 okufanele uzicabangele ukukhuthaza ukuqinisa umshado wakho:
Ungenza umehluko wangempela empilweni yengane
Akungabazeki ukuthi ukukhulisa izingane kuyimbangela efanelekile. Ziningi kakhulu izingane eziswele emhlabeni wonke, kanti ngenkathi abantu abaningi bebambeka emcabangweni wokukhulisa ingane ngaphambi kokutholwa, akuyona njalo indlela okudingeka uyithathe leyo.
Ukukhuthaza kungathatha izinhlobo eziningi ezihlukene, kufaka phakathi isikhathi esifushane, ukunakekelwa kokuphefumula, kanye nokuhlelwa kwesikhathi eside. Uma ungazizwa sengathi ungazibophezela ekubeni nengane ehlala nawe ngokugcwele, ungahlala unikela ukunakekelwa kwezingane eziphuthumayo, noma ukunakekela izingane ezinezidingo ezikhethekile ukunikeza abazali bazo ithuba lokuvuselela amabhethri abo.
Kuyisikhumbuzo esihle samandla akho
Sivame ukuhehwa ngabantu abahlukile kithi, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lo mehluko ungaqala ukubonakala ujwayelekile. Ukukhulisa ingane kuyinselelo yangempela ezodinga ukuqeqeshwa, ukubekezela, namandla omzwelo.
Ukuhamba lolu hambo ndawonye kungasiza ukukhumbuza imibhangqwana ngamandla abalingani babo futhi kusize ukuvuselela uthando lwabo. Ngenkathi ukukhulisa izingane kungafanele kusetshenziswe njengesixazululo esisheshayo somshado omile, uma kuyinto oyicabangile esikhathini esedlule, kungakuhle ukuthi uphinde uyivakashele.
Kuzofanele wenze umzamo
Uma ungumzali noma umnakekeli wokukhulisa izingane, kufanele wenze umzamo wangempela wokuchitha isikhathi sekhwalithi ndawonye. Ngeke kwenzeke ngaphandle kokuthi ukwenze kwenzeke, ngakho-ke uzothola isici esisha emshadweni wakho lapho ubona ukuthi ngempela nifuna ukuchitha isikhathi ndawonye. Ukuthola isikhathi sokukhuluma nganoma yini enye ngaphandle kokunakekelwa ngabazali noma i-ejensi yokukhulisa yangasese kuzoba yinto enhle, futhi ukubekisa ukuthi lowo ogcina ingane njalo ngenyanga kuzokwenza usuku lwakho lobusuku lubaluleke kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili.
Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, ukukhulisa ingane kuyinselelo yangempela, futhi ngenxa yalokho, akufanele isetshenziselwe ukulungisa umshado ochithekile, kepha ungathola ukuthi ukuhamba lolu hambo ndawonye kungasiza ekuqiniseni umshado wenu kunanini ngaphambili.
Uzofunda ukusebenzisana
Enye yezindlela ozoqinisa ngazo umshado wakho ube ngumzali wokutholwa ngokufunda ukusebenzisana. Ubuhle bomshado omuhle bulele ezintweni zawo ezincane. Ukukhulisa izingane okungezona ezakho kusiza ekugcineni uthando luphila emshadweni.
Ukusebenzisana kukhulisa ukuncoma, inhlonipho, nomusa komunye nomunye. Enkambweni yokunakekelwa ngabazali bobabili, nobabili nizokwenza amaphutha, nibhekane nokwehluleka, nibe nezikhathi ze-'wow ', futhi nabelane ngazo zonke izinhlobo zenjabulo. Lokhu kuzosiza ekuqiniseni umshado wakho.
Lapho nizosebenza njengeqembu njengabazali abangabondli, nizo:
- Jabulani omunye nomunye
- Bolekanani usizo
- Nakekelana
Izothuthukisa ukuxhumana
Ukuxhumana nokuqonda kuyizici ezisemqoka zokuqinisa umshado wakho. Ukukhulumisana okuphumelelayo kuholela ekwanelisekeni emshadweni. Ikakhulu ngesikhathi somshado wabazali, kwenzeka ngoba uyakwazi ukuveza imizwa yakho, injabulo, nokukhathazeka ngokukhululeka.
Ngenkathi umshado wakho nokuba ngumzali kuhambisana, ufunda nokuthuthukisa ikhono lokulalela umlingani wakho. Uxhumana nokuncoma hhayi ukukhononda. Ngaphandle kwalokho, futhi ufunda ukuhlela ukungezwani ngokwenza okuhle.
Uzosungula amanani ayisisekelo emndenini
Njengoba usemshadweni futhi ungumzali futhi, uzosungula izindinganiso eziyinhloko ezisemqoka eziwusizo ekuqiniseni umshado wakho futhi zizosiza ekukhuliseni ingane kangcono.
Amanani ayisisekelo afana nohlelo oluzulazula ezenzweni zomndeni nasekuziphatheni ziye ezingeni elibekiwe. Lezi zimiso zithinta inqubo yokwenza izinqumo zomndeni. Amanye amanani ayisisekelo azosiza ingane futhi aqinise umshado yilawa:
- Ubuqotho: Kusho ukwazisa ukuzibophezela nokuhlala uthembekile ezimisweni
- Ukuzihlonipha: Kusho ukuqonda inani lakho emhlabeni wangaphandle hhayi ukuhlala ngaphansi kokufanele
- Isibindi: Kusho nje ukuthi uzimisele ukumela okuhle futhi unamandla okwenza izinto ezinzima
- Ukubambisana: Ukusiza umndeni, abangane, nabantu obathandayo
Ungakha uhlu lwamanani ashayela impilo yakho nalokho ongathanda ukukudlulisela enganeni yakho. Lungisa uhlu lwamanani ayisisekelo bese uqoka amanani ayisisekelo aphezulu ayisihlanu noma ayishumi abalulekile omndeni.
Kule vidiyo engezansi, uJan Stassen ukhuluma ngokubaluleka kwamanani ayisisekelo. Uthi amanani achaza ukuthi sifuna ukuqhubeka nokuphila kanjani. Bangabasizi bezinqumo ezincike esimweni. Yazi kabanzi ngakho ngezansi:
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