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Noma ngubani oke washada uzokutshela: kwesinye isikhathi ukuxhumana phakathi kwabantu abashadile kucace njengodaka. Imvamisa, lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kungokwesikhashana, ikakhulukazi uma umbhangqwana uzimisele ukunqoba izinto ezincane. Kepha izinkinga zokuxhumana zingavela nganoma yisiphi isikhathi kunoma imuphi umshado futhi zibangele noma yiziphi izingqinamba ezingafuneki! Okulandelayo ngezinye zezinkinga ezivamile zokuxhumana emshadweni izithandani ezibhekana nazo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ukulalela ukuphendula
Kulula ukutshela umuntu ohamba naye ukuthi, “Ngikuzwile.” Kodwa ingabe ubulalela ngempela? Enye yezinkinga zokuxhumana ezivame kakhulu ze noma ngubani, kodwa ikakhulukazi kulabo abasemshadweni, ukunganakwa lapho belalela. Abantu abaningi bawela ogibeni lokulalela lokho umuntu akushoyo ngenhloso yokwazi ukuthi kumele aphendule kanjani kunokuba alalele ngokweqiniso futhi azame ukuqonda okushiwo omunye umuntu. Emshadweni, lokhu kungaba nzima ikakhulukazi futhi kubangele izinkinga ezihlukile njengomphumela. Umlingani ngamunye unikwe umsebenzi wokwazisa omunye umuntu - ukuzivikela, ukufuna ukuba "nezwi lokugcina," nokulalela kuphela ngenhloso yokwazi ukuthi uzothini ngokubuyisela kuyizindlela eziqinisekile zokunciphisa umlingani wakho. Esikhundleni sokulalela ukuze wazi ukuthi uzothini, lalela ukuze uqonde futhi uzwe ngempela ukuthi othandiweyo wakho uzama ukuthini kuwe.
Ukuphazamiseka kalula
Olunye ugibe oluvamile ukuphazamiseka. Ngokulandela omakhalekhukhwini, ama-laptops, i-cable cable, amathebulethi, namanye amadivayisi, kunokuphazamiseka okukhulu kwezokuxhumana okubangelwa yilezi zinto. Lapho sikhuluma nomunye umuntu, ngamunye wethu ufisa ukuthola ukunakwa okuhlukene. Ukukhuluma nomuntu ophazamisekile nganoma iyiphi indlela kungakhathaza futhi kuholele ekuxhumaneni ngokungeyikho. Imishado iba yisisulu sale nkinga kaningi. Abantu ababili abajwayele ukuba khona komunye nomunye, bavame ukuvilapha ngokungenhloso ekuxhumaneni; esikhundleni sokunikeza omunye umuntu ukunaka, iziphazamiso ezinjengeselula zitholakala kalula futhi zidala ukuphazamiseka okukhulu ekuhambeni kokuxhumana. Futhi lesi ngesinye sezinkinga zokuxhumana ezivamile emshadweni esivame kakhulu phakathi kwezithandani ezingaphansi kweminyaka yobudala eyehlukene nezinye izigaba. Zama ukugwema le nkinga ngokubeka phansi ifoni, uvale umsindo ku-TV, noma ufulathele izinto eziphazamisayo lapho umlingani wakho ekubandakanya ezingxoxweni.
Ukuphathwa buthule
"Ukuphathwa buthule" kuthule, kepha kuyabulala kakhulu ebudlelwaneni obunempilo. Ukushoda kokuxhumana kungaba yinkinga uma omunye noma bobabili abantu emshadweni bekhetha ukungayinaki inkinga (nomunye umuntu) kunokubhekana nengqinamba ebhekene nayo. Ukwenza lokhu kaningi kungadala ukulimala okungapheli ebudlelwaneni futhi kuvimbele umbhangqwana ekuhlanganyeleni kunqubo yokuxhumana enempilo.
Manje khumbula: abanye abantu badinga isikhathi sokuqoqa imicabango yabo ngaphambi kokuxoxa ngenkinga. Abanye bakhetha ukuhamba isikhashana ukuze badambise intukuthelo yabo bese bebuyela ngokuthula engxoxweni. Kungenzeka kube nguwe ongafuni ukuhileleka empikiswaneni, kepha kunalokho ungazinika isikhathi sokuvuselela imicabango yakho bese ubuyela engxoxweni usuka endaweni yokubuka enengqondo. Kunomehluko omkhulu phakathi kwalezi zimilo kanye ukuziba inkinga. Qaphela futhi ucabangele ukuthi ukhetha kanjani ukusuka engxoxweni; vuleleka koshade naye usho into ekhombisa isidingo sakho sesikhashana sesikhala noma isikhala.
Ukungabi nokuqonda
Okokugcina, futhi mhlawumbe okuyingozi kakhulu emaphethini wokuxhumana emshadweni, ukwehluleka okukhulu nokuzama ukuqonda imicabango nemizwa yomunye umuntu. Lokhu kubanda kungavela enhlanganisweni yezinye izinto noma empeleni kungaba impendulo yokuthola ukwelashwa okufanayo komunye umuntu. Lokhu kuziphatha kungasho inhlekelele emshadweni. Ngaphandle kokuzimisela ukuqonda omunye umuntu, ukuxhumana akukho. Futhi ngaphandle kokuxhumana, ubuhlobo bomshado abunakuphumelela.
Ukungaboni ngaso linye, ukungaphatheki kahle, ukungaqondi nokuqwashisa, iziphazamiso - konke lokhu kungadala ubudlelwano obunempilo. Kepha, zona, lezi zinkinga zinganqotshwa ngenhloso. Umshado phakathi kwabantu ababili uyisithembiso sokuthandana, ukuhloniphana, nokwazana. Ukuxhumana okuphazamisekile kungadala umzabalazo wesikhashana, kepha labo abenza izifungo zabo ngenhloso yokunqoba izingqinamba zabo, bakha isisekelo esiqinile sokukhulisa ukuzibophezela kwabo komunye nomunye. Ukususa izinkinga zokuxhumana ezivamile emshadweni kubaluleke kakhulu ekubukeni nasekugcineni ubudlelwane obunempilo phakathi kwabalingani.