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- Ukuqomisana kwasekuqaleni
- Ukuhamba kudlule i-honeymoon
- Ungaphikisana kanjani ngempumelelo
- 1. Alikho "ilungelo elilodwa",ngakho-ke ungaphikeleli “kwesokudla” sakho
- 2. Vumela omunye umuntu akhulume- Bamba iqhaza ekulaleleni okusebenzayo
- 3. Ungaphazamisi
- 4. Namathela esihlokweni sengxabano
- 5. Shayela isikhathi sokuvala
- 6. Phikisana endaweni yomusa, inhlonipho, nothando kumlingani wakho
Ungamangala ukuzwa lokhu, kepha imibhangqwana ephikisanayo empeleni iyathandana ngaphezu kwemibhangqwana engalokothi iphakamise amazwi ayo komunye nomunye.
Kungenzeka kanjani lokhu?
Kulula. Izithandani eziphikisanayo imibhangqwana ezizwa "iphephile" ukuveza imizwa yayo.
Lesi yisibonakaliso esihle, njengoba kukhombisa ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho ninobudlelwano obuqinile, isibopho esiqinile kangangokuba ukulwa okuhle noma okubili akwanele ukuniqhekeza.
Ake sibheke umzila osukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zobudlelwano, lapho yonke into iyizimbali namakati futhi ungabonakali ubanga ukungqubuzana, kuze kube manje ebudlelwaneni obuvuthiwe futhi obuqinile, lapho wena nomlingani wakho naziwa khona ngokuhlehla imishayo ngama-decibel wamazwi akho.
Ukuqomisana kwasekuqaleni
Lapho nihlangana futhi niqala ukuthandana nalowo enizogana naye ekugcineni, kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuthi niziphethe kahle. Ufuna umuntu abone zonke izingxenye zakho ezinhle, futhi awusoze waphupha ngokuzigxeka noma ukubaphonsela inselelo kulezi zinsuku zokuqala.
Konke kuyintokozo nokumamatheka. Nobabili niyalungisa, njengamaphikoko nizungezile, kukhombisa kuphela izimfanelo zakho ezinhle nezithandekayo.
Akunandawo yokumemeza lapha, uzama ukwenza ukuthi omunye akuthande.
Ukuhamba kudlule i-honeymoon
Njengoba uqala ukuzinza ebudlelwaneni bakho, uzokhombisa okuningi okungaphakathi kwakho kwangempela. Imicabango yakho, imizwa, imibono kanye nemibuzo kuzokwabelwana ngayo. Kwesinye isikhathi lokhu kungaholela engxoxweni enhle, ecebile, futhi kwezinye izikhathi ezenze zaholela ekungezwani.
Lokhu empeleni kuyinto enempilo, njengoba uzofunda ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani okuhle ukuvolontiya imibono yakho uye emuva naphambili ukuze ufike endaweni enivumelana ngayo noma ekuxazululeni okuthile.
Ngalesi sikhathi, uzofunda izindlela ezinhle kakhulu nezikhiqizayo zokubhekana nengxabano kwabashadile.
Ungaphikisana kanjani ngempumelelo
Umbhangqwana okahle uzofunda ukuthi ungaphikisana kanjani ngendlela eya phambili. Lokhu kuyinto enhle. Izimpikiswano zikuvumela ukuba nifundisane imibono ehlukene, imibono, nokuthi ungubani ngamunye.
Bungaba yisicefe kanjani ubudlelwano benu uma nobabili nivumelana ngakho konke? Uzoba nokuncane ongakunikela komunye nomunye.
Ezinye izindlela ezinempilo zokuthi uma uxabana nomlingani wakho
1. Alikho "ilungelo elilodwa",ngakho-ke ungaphikeleli “kwesokudla” sakho
Esikhundleni salokho, ungathi “Lowo ngumbono onentshisekelo. Ngiyakuqonda ukuthi kungani ungazizwa ngaleyo ndlela. Kodwa ngikubona ngale ndlela ... ”
2. Vumela omunye umuntu akhulume- Bamba iqhaza ekulaleleni okusebenzayo
Lokhu kusho ukuthi awucabangi nje ngalokho ozokusho ngokulandelayo lapho umlingani wakho eqeda kancane. Uphendukela kubo, ubabheke, futhi uncike impela kulokho abelana ngakho nawe.
3. Ungaphazamisi
Ungakhiphi amehlo. Ungalokothi uphume uphume egumbini, unqume ingxoxo ngempumelelo.
4. Namathela esihlokweni sengxabano
Namathela esihlokweni sodweshu ngaphandle kokuletha amagqubu amadala
5. Shayela isikhathi sokuvala
Uma uzwa ulaka lwakho lukhuphuka futhi wazi ukuthi uzosho into ozozisola ngayo, funa isikhathi sokuvala bese usikisela ukuthi nobabili niphume ekamelweni ukuze nizipholele, futhi nivume ukuyibuyekeza le nkinga lapho imizwa yenu isipholile. Bese uqala futhi.
6. Phikisana endaweni yomusa, inhlonipho, nothando kumlingani wakho
Gcina lezo zichasiso ezintathu engqondweni yakho. Anisibo abaphikisi eringini lesibhakela, kodwa abantu ababili abalwayo ngoba nifuna ukulungisa izinto ngakho nobabili niphume kulokhu ninomqondo wokuthi nizwile futhi nihlonishwe.
Kuyisibonakaliso esihle lapho imibhangqwana ixabana ngoba empeleni isebenzela ukwakha ubuhlobo obungcono.
Kusho ukuthi batshaliwe imali ekwenzeni ubudlelwano babo kube obuhle kakhulu. Lokhu kunengqondo. Uma izithandani zingaphikisani, kungakhombisa ukuthi “seziyekile” kunoma yiliphi ithuba lobudlelwano ukuba zibe ngcono, futhi zithathe isinqumo sokumelana nesimo sokungakhulumisani. Leyo akuyona indawo enhle yokuba kuyo futhi ekugcineni, lobo budlelwano buzoncibilika. Akekho umuntu ofuna ukuhlala njengabantu abahlala nabo abanobutha nabathule.
Elinye iqiniso elihehayo abacwaningi abalibonile ukuthi imibhangqwana ephikisanayo kungenzeka ibe ngabantu abanothando, abaqhutshwa ucansi.
Izingxabano zabo zibonakala zisebenza ukukhulisa ukuvusa futhi zivame ukuxazululwa ekamelweni. Badlulisa imizwa ephezulu yengxabano iye kwi-libido ekhuphukile, ekugcineni egcina isibopho sabo siqinile.
Veza isiqu sakho sangempela ngesikhathi sengxabano
Izimpikiswano zisiza ukuhlanganisa izithandani ndawonye ngoba lapho zilwa, wonke ama-personas awo apholile ayasuswa futhi akhombisa ukuthi angobani ngempela. Lokhu kudala ukusondelana phakathi kwabo, okuncane okufana nezelamani ezilwa zisencane. (Cabanga ukuthi umndeni wakho usondele kangakanani — ingxenye yalokhu ingenxa yazo zonke izimpi obukade unazo useyingane.)
Ukulwa kusho into ebalulekile
Uma uzizwa ukhululekile futhi uphephe ngokwanele ukulwa nomlingani wakho, kusho ukuthi unothando olujulile oluqinile ngokwanele ukumelana nenselelo efana nengxabano. Uthando nentukuthelo ziyakwazi ukuba khona ebudlelwaneni; akusho ukuthi awunabo ubudlelwano obuhle. Ngokuphambene nalokho, kusho ukuthi usufinyelele isigaba esihle endabeni yakho yothando.