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Abantu bavame ukufuna izimfihlo zobudlelwano obuhle, noma ngabe kuwumshado noma uthando nje, kepha iqiniso yilokhu: ayikho into yokulungisa imilingo, ukufihla, ukwelapha konke okuzoqinisekisa ukuthi umshado wakho uzohlala unomphela noma ukuthi uthando lwakho alusoze lwancipha.
Uthando nomshado kuyinto okumele niyisebenzisane nobabili nozakwenu.
Uma ubudlelwano bakho buyaphela, kuthatha kuphela i- amathiphu ambalwa amahle wokuthuthukisa impilo yakho yothando. Kodwa-ke, kuthatha ukunakekelwa nokunakwa okuningi ukubuyisela ubudlelwano bakho ekuthandeni nasekubabazeni obukade bunakho.
Okuqhamuka kulokhu ukuthi isikhathi esiningi nomzamo owenzayo ekufezeni impilo yothando olungcono, ubuhlobo bakho bungaba nothando oluningi.
Ngokujabulisayo, ngeke kudingeke usebenze wedwa: kunezeluleko eziningi zobudlelwano obuqinile zothando ngempilo nothando ngempilo nothando laphaya ukukusiza uqonde ukuthi ungayithuthukisa kanjani impilo yakho yothando.
Okulandelayo ngezinye amathiphu ayisihluthulelo othando ngaye nangaye ukuthi ajabulele impilo yothando olukhulu:
Konke ngeke kulunge
Akukho okuphelele, ikakhulukazi hhayi ubudlelwane. Bonke ubudlelwano bunezinkinga, imithwalo, naphezulu naphansi; lena yinto abantu abavame ukuyikhohlwa uma bengena ebudlelwaneni.
Ukubeka umlingani wakho nomlingani wakho ezinyaweni kaningi kungacindezela kakhulu kumlingani wakho okufanele afinyelele kulokho okulindeleyo futhi futhi akucindezele lapho behluleka ukuhlangabezana nakho.
Imvelo yokukhonza, ukufundisa, ukulungisa, noma ukugxeka umlingani wakho ingalimaza kakhulu futhi ilimaze ubuhlobo bakho.
Ukwamukela amaphutha omlingani wakho nokubakhombisa ukuthi uyaqonda ukuthi nabo bangenza amaphutha kuyadingeka ukuze uzizwe uxhumene nowakwakho. Ukubonisa uzwela oluningi nokudelela okuncane yilokho bonke ubudlelwano obudinga ukuhlala buqinile.
Ngeshwa, ukukhohlwa leli qiniso elibalulekile kuvame ukuholela ekuzishayeni lapho izinto zingahambi kahle!
Kepha iqiniso lodaba yilokhu: uthando nomshado kuzohlala kunokungapheleli, noma ngabe usendaweni enhle ebudlelwaneni bakho. I- into ebalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi amaphutha ajwayelekile, futhi uqhubeke.
2. Khulumisana kahle
Ukuxhumana kuyisisekelo sabo bonke ubuhlobo. Ngaphandle kokuxhumana, ubuhlobo buzophela nakanjani. Umshado ophumelelayo noma ukubambisana kufanele kusekelwe ekuxhumaneni, lapho bobabili abalingani bexhumana khona ngaphandle kokungabaza omunye komunye.
Enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu izici ezibalulekile zokuxhumana ngempumelelo ukulalela.
Amaphutha okulalela ajwayelekile okwenziwa imibhangqwana yile:
- ukungabi khona engxoxweni nasekuphupheni ngezinto ezithize
- ngicabanga kakhulu ukuthi ngizothini ngokulandelayo,
- ukwahlulela umlingani wabo lapho ebalalela, futhi
- ukulalela ngomqondo obonwe ngaphambili nenhloso ethile.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukukhombisa intshisekelo yangempela nelukuluku elihambisana nokungahluleli noma umphumela engqondweni kungaholela empumelelweni enhle kakhulu engxoxweni.
Ukuze uthuthukise impilo yakho yothando futhi uthuthukise ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho nixhumana kanjani ngempumelelo, landelani lezi zeluleko zothando zakhe naye:
- Izikhathi eziningi imizwa efihlekile ingakhula futhi ibe yingozi kakhulu. Qiniseka ukuthi uveza imizwa nemicabango yakho ngendlela engahluleli.
- Ngenkathi unikeza ukugxeka okungekuhle, kubalulekile ukuthi kwabelwane ngakho ngendlela enhle. Lokhu kungaba ukwazisa umlingani wakho ngemikhuba yakhe emibi noma ecasulayo; konke ngendlela ebakhuthaza ukuthi bacabange ngezinguquko futhi benze ngcono kulezo zindawo.
– Naka okushiwo umlingani wakho, zama ukubheka iso, sebenzisa ukushukuma komzimba okungekho okomlomo ukudlulisa inhloso yakho yokulalela, futhi ungafaki ilebuli ekubonweni nencazelo.
Ukuxhumana okuhle kungaba yizinto ezifana nokwazisa umlingani wakho ukuthi uyabazisa, ukuziphatha okusondelene njengokuqabulana nokubambana, kuze kufike ezintweni ezilula njengokuncoma amakhono okupheka ozakwenu.
3. Ungakhathazeki ngezinto ezincane
Akunandaba noma ngabe wena nomlingani wakho nithandana kangakanani, uzozithola ukuphikisana nokuphikisana ngezinto ezithile ezingasile nezingenamsebenzi.
Ukucindezela ngezinto ezincane ezingabalulekile akuyona inqubo enhle futhi kuvame ukuvela ebudlelwaneni kusuka ekuthandeni komlingani ngalezo zinto ezincane.
Imibhangqwana iveza izinkathazo zayo nokuthi kwenzekani kubalingani bayo, okungacindezela kakhulu ebudlelwaneni. Ukugxeka ngezinkinga ezingabalulekile eminyakeni eyishumi akusizi ngalutho.
Isibonelo, ake sithi umlingani wakho ukhohlwa ukwenza umthwalo wokuwasha. Isixazululo salokhu kungenzeka ukwenza umthwalo olandelayo ndawonye! Noma ake sithi umlingani wakho uyenqaba ukubeka isihlalo sendlu yangasese phansi — yakha uphawu olungasile bese ulinamathisela ngasendlini yangasese.
Ukuzivumela uhlekise futhi udedele izinto ezincane kuzoholela ebudlelwaneni obungenasidingo kangako. Noma kunjalo, ukuzizwa uzolile futhi ungakhathazeki ngezinto ezincane kungaba ushintsho oluncane kuwe nakuzakwenu njengoba kungokwemvelo okuye kwaguqulwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi noma kwaba ngumphumela wokuhlukumezeka okuthile ababhekana nakho.
Ukufunda ukulawula ukucindezeleka kungakusiza uthuthukise impilo yakho yothando nobudlelwano bakho. Nazi izinto ezithile ongazenza ukuze uzidambise wena kusuka kulokho kukhathazeka okubangela.
- Amasu okuphumula
Njalo zijwayeze amasu okuphumula njenge-yoga nokuzindla ukuze uthole isimo sengqondo sokuphumula. Hhayi kuphela lezi zindlela zikusiza ukuthi ufeze umqondo ongaxinekile kepha ibuye ixegise umzimba wakho futhi ithuthukise umuzwa wokuba wumqemane.
- Lalela futhi ukhulume
Ukwehluleka kwemibhangqwana ukulalela nokukhulumisana ebudlelwaneni babo ngesinye sezizathu ezinkulu zempilo yothando egcwele ingcindezi. Ukubhekana nalolu daba nokukhomba izindlela zokuthuthukisa ukuxhumana ebudlelwaneni kungakusiza ukuthi uthuthukise impilo yakho yothando.
-Akukho ukuphelela noma ukuhlehlisa izinto
Izinkinga zokuzama ukwanelisa umlingani wakho zingashiya noma ngubani ekhathele futhi ecindezelekile. Konke okuningi akukaze kube kuhle, udinga ukuzithuthukisa ngobuhle bakho hhayi abalingani bakho.
Ukuhlala okufanayo kubaluleke kakhulu njengokuzivumelanisa nezimo kanye nokuyekethisa ebudlelwaneni. Umehluko ukuqonda ukuthi kufanele uziphushe nini nokuthi ungafanele.
Ngokufanayo, ungazithathi kalula izifiso nokulindela komlingani wakho futhi ngithemba ukuthi bazoqonda noma ngabe uzindela kangakanani. Ngisho nesifungo sokuba ndawonye ebunzimeni nasebunzimeni sinemikhawulo.