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- 1. Yenza izingane zakho zizizwe ziphethwe ngokomzwelo
- 2. Awusoze wathanda izingane zakho ngokweqile
- 3. Chaza ukuthi yini ezokwenzeka njalo ukuze bazizwe bephephile
- 4. Thembeka kepha ukhumbule ukuchaza izinto ngendlela enobungane
- 5. Vumela izingane zakho ukuthi zinikele kodwa phatha ukuthi zinikela kanjani
Ukwehlukana noma isehlukaniso akulula kunoma ngubani ohilelekile. Wena, oshade naye kanye nezingane zakho nonke nizobhekana nezinkinga zabo ezizungeze lesi simo.
Izikhathi eziningi izingane zishiywa ukuthi zibhekane nokuningi kakhulu kunawe, noma kuvunyelwene ngakho. Lokho okungabandakanyi nje ukubhekana nomzali oyedwa ukuphuma - kodwa futhi kufaka phakathi ukubhekana nozwelo lwabo ngokudabuka kwabazali babo, ukwesaba inhlalakahle yabazali babo, imibuzo engaphenduliwe ngisho nokuba ngumnakekeli.
Vele, zonke lezi zinkinga, uma zingaphathwa ngendlela efanele, zingaba nomthelela omkhulu ebuchosheni nasenqubweni engokomzwelo yengane futhi zibangele ukuthi badlule ebuhlungwini nasekucasukeni okungadingekile futhi kuholele ekuzethembeni okuphansi.
Akekho umzali ofuna ukufaka izingane zakhe esikhathini esinzima kangaka, ngakho-ke esimweni sokwehlukana, nansi indlela ongakhela ngayo ukuzethemba ezinganeni zakho ngesikhathi sokuhlukana.
1. Yenza izingane zakho zizizwe ziphethwe ngokomzwelo
Uma ungekho kahle, ingane yakho izokukhathalela.
Kwesinye isikhathi kulula ukuvumela ingane yakho ukuthi ikunikeze uthando nokusekelwa okulangazelelayo. Kepha ngokwenza njalo, bakubambe ngokomzwelo hhayi ngenye indlela.
Ukwenza ingane izizwe ibanjwe ngokomzwelo kuyindlela yakudala yokwelapha ekululameni kobuhlungu futhi uma wonke umuntu, abantu abadala bebandakanya, bezizwa bephethwe ngokomzwelo, bazozizwa bephephile, bevikelekile futhi benokuzethemba kulwazi lwabo lomhlaba.
Akuwona umsebenzi wengane ukukuxhasa ngokomzwelo, kungumsebenzi wakho, njengabazali ukwenza izingane zakho zizizwe ziphethwe ngokomzwelo noma ngabe awuzizwa ngaleyo ndlela.
Ukuze wenze lokho, kufanele nje ubaqinisekise, uhlole imizwa yabo, ugweme ukukhala ezinganeni ngezinkinga zakho, ubavumele bakhulume nawe ukuthi bazizwa kanjani futhi ubaqinisekise uma bekubona ukhala noma ucasukile.
Ngisho nemisebenzi engokomfanekiso enjengokuthenga noma ukukhetha ama-teddy bears elungu ngalinye lomndeni (kufakwe oshade naye) kungasiza.
Ukwenza lokho, yilungu ngalinye lomndeni elithanda amabhere amele umzali noma ingane, bese ukushintsha usuku nosuku kuzovumela ingane ukuthi ikunakekele wena noshade naye ngendlela efanele iminyaka yabo ngenkathi uthola uthando lwakho futhi ukunakekela ngamabhere we-teddy futhi.
2. Awusoze wathanda izingane zakho ngokweqile
Abanye abantu babonakala becabanga ukuthi akufanele bakhombise uthando oluningi ezinganeni zabo ngoba kungalimaza ingane yakho noma kubenze babe buthakathaka.
Izinkulumo ezinempilo zothando nozwelo (ezingabandakanyi ukuthenga izinto njengesisho noma ukunikela ngemingcele yakho) ngangokunokwenzeka kuzosiza ingane yakho ukuthi ikhule ngokuzethemba futhi ikwazi ukuhambisa ushintsho olubhekene nalo empilweni yasekhaya.
Leli iqhinga elizosiza noma iyiphi ingane ukuthi yakhe ukuzethemba noma ngabe bekungekho ukwahlukana emkhayeni.
3. Chaza ukuthi yini ezokwenzeka njalo ukuze bazizwe bephephile
Lapho inqubo yakho iguquka, kungenza ingane izizwe ingalondekile ngoba ayazi ukuthi kwenzekani usuku nosuku, kanti ngaphambi kokwehlukaniswa babejwayele amaphethini akho ajwayelekile empilweni.
Basize ngokuzama ukuwagcina esimisweni ngangokunokwenzeka nangokubhala uhlelo lwezikhathi olufushane lwesonto nosuku oluzayo. Ukuchaza ukuthi bazoba kuphi, bazokwenzani nokuthi bazobani nobani (isb., Yimuphi umzali noma ilunga lomndeni ozoba nabo).
Yakha ukuzethemba okukhulu ezinganeni zakho ngesikhathi sokuhlukana ngokwengeza umzali ongekho esimisweni ukuze ingane yazi ukuthi ukuphi lowo mzali nokuthi benzani njengoba izobabamba ngokomoya futhi ibaqinisekise.
Qiniseka ukuthi uhlelo lubekwa emakhaya abo bobabili abazali ukuze lube yinto ingane engathembela kuyo lapho izizwa ingavikelekile ngaphakathi noma mayelana nawe nenjabulo nempilo yoshade naye.
4. Thembeka kepha ukhumbule ukuchaza izinto ngendlela enobungane
Izingane zazi okuningi kunabantu abaningi abazinikeza udumo, kepha lesi simo siyindida ngoba ngenkathi belazi iqiniso, okungaphezu kokwazi kwakho, kepha abanakho ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo kokuphatha abakwaziyo ngendlela efanayo nomuntu omdala enza, abantu abadala bavame ukukukhohlwa lokhu.
Kubalulekile ukuchaza ukuthi kwenzekani ezinganeni zakho kufaka phakathi ukubhekana nokuthi kungani udabukile kodwa futhi uziqinisekise ukuthi ukudabuka kuzodlula nokuthi ulungile. Okufanayo ngokuchaza ukuthi kungani nihlukanisa.
Bakhombise ukuthi bangazidingida kanjani izinkinga zabo kuwe, futhi ubafundise indlela yokuveza imizwa yabo kuwe.
Ishadi elilula elinobuso obumele imizwa eyahlukene engafakwa eshadini lizobasiza bakutshele ukuthi bazizwa kanjani, bese bekuvulela indawo ukuze uxoxe ngayo leyo mizwa nabo.
Lelisu lizokusiza futhi ukwazi ukuthi ungafinyelela kanjani izingane zakho ngokufanele futhi lizokuqinisekisa ukuthi ukwazile ukuhlala uxhumekile kubo futhi ubavikela ngokomzwelo ngesikhathi sesiyaluyalu kini nonke.
5. Vumela izingane zakho ukuthi zinikele kodwa phatha ukuthi zinikela kanjani
Ingane engakakhuli efakazela abazali bayo besosizini iyozizwa icindezelekile, noma ngabe ingahlanganyeli nawe lokho. Wonke amaphuzu angenhla azosiza ukwehlisa ingane futhi ibenze bazizwe beqinisiwe, kepha okunye ingane ezofuna ukukwenza ukusiza.
Abanye abazali ngesikhathi sokuhlala ngokwehlukana noma ngesehlukaniso bazovele bavumele ingane ukuthi yenze okusemandleni ukusiza, kanti abanye ngeke babavumele ukuthi baphakamise umunwe.
Womabili la macebo ayisizi ingane. Esigabeni sokuqala basekela abazali babo ngokomzwelo ngaphezu kwamandla abo noma abakwazi ukuwaphatha kanti ekugcineni, bazozizwa bengenakusiza futhi bengaba yize.
Vumela izingane zakho ukuthi zinikele, ngokusho nje izinto ezilula ezinjengokuthi, umama udinga usizo lwakho okwamanje, ngakho-ke ekuseni manje, ungangisiza ngenze umbhede wakho noma ngingawuthokozela uma ulele umbhede wakho, futhi sonke eminye imisebenzi esingayenza ngokubambisana ukusiza ukugcina indlu ihle.
Ngemuva kwalokho wabela izingane imisebenzi efanele iminyaka yobudala (njengokuhlanza noma ukusula itafula ngemuva kokudla kwakusihlwa), ukubeka amathoyizi abo kude, njll. Futhi lapho sebekwenzile lokho, khumbula ukubanga futhi ubazise ukuthi bebelungile usizo nokuthi ubathanda kakhulu.
Le kuyindlela enhle yokubasiza bathole indlela yokuveza isifiso sabo sokukusiza kepha bakuphathe ngendlela engenzi impilo yakho ibe nzima kakhulu ngesikhathi esinzima.