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- Izimbangela ezivamile zokuba ngumzali ongayedwa:
- Izimbangela ezingandile kakhulu zokukhulisa izingane zodwa
- 1. Izelamani ezikhulisa izingane
- 2. Ogogo nomkhulu abakhulisa izingane
- 3. Abazali abangabodwa abangabazali
- 4. Ukulutha
- 5. Izinkinga zempilo yengqondo
- 6. Izinkinga zezempilo
- 7. Ijele
- 8. Ukuxoshwa
Ngenkathi kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani ungazithola usesimweni sokuba ngumzali ongayedwa enganeni yakho, kunezinye izimbangela ezingaziwa kakhulu nezingajwayelekile. Uma sikwazi ukuqonda ukuthi eminye yale mindeni ibhekene nani futhi siyisize lapho singakwazi khona, singasiza ukwenza lo mhlaba ube indawo engcono - noma ngabe kungokudlulisa nje ukumamatheka okunakekelayo noma ukumema umzali ongayedwa ukuba azophuza ikhofi.
Abanye bangazithatha lezi zimbangela ezingandile zokukhulisa izingane ngoba ezinye zingaba zesikhashana, kepha masingakhohlwa ukuthi ngisho umzali oyedwa ‘wendabuko’ angaba umzali ongayedwa okwesikhashana.
Ngakho-ke ngaphambi kokuba sixoxe ngezimbangela ezingaziwa kakhulu zokuba ngumzali ongayedwa nalu uhlu lwezimbangela ezaziwa kakhulu. Lapho sibheka umqondo wokuthi 'izimbangela zokukhulisa izingane zodwa' sisuke sisho umqondo wokuthi umuntu oyedwa unesibopho sokwenza izinqumo, inhlalakahle nokunakekela ingane noma izingane isikhathi eside. Kwanele ukuzwa ubunzima, nokuthonya impilo yengane.
Izimbangela ezivamile zokuba ngumzali ongayedwa:
- Isehlukaniso
- Ukufa
- Ukukhulelwa okungaphansi kweminyaka yobudala noma kokuqala
- Ukutholwa Komzali Ongayedwa
- Ukusatshalaliswa Kwabanikeli
Izimbangela ezingandile kakhulu zokukhulisa izingane zodwa
1. Izelamani ezikhulisa izingane
Mhlawumbe ngenxa yokushona komzali, futhi akukho okunye ukubandakanyeka komunye umzali, noma ngisho nokushona kwabo bobabili abazali, ukuluthwa yizidakamizwa, isikhathi sejele, noma ukugula kwengqondo noma ngokomzimba, ezinye izingane zakithi zikhulisa izingane zakwabo ezincane.
Lesi yisikhathi esinzima kubo; babhekene nokulahlekelwa okuphawulekayo kanye nomthwalo wemfanelo omkhulu nakakhulu ngesikhathi lapho bengakulungele noma bengakulungele.
Imvamisa kulezi zimo, awekho amanye amalungu omndeni aseduze angasiza, ngakho-ke umthwalo ushiyelwa ingane endala noma endala. Bangamaqhawe angacatshangwa avame ukuphatha ngokusekelwa okuncane kakhulu.
2. Ogogo nomkhulu abakhulisa izingane
Kwesinye isikhathi, ngenxa yezizathu eziningi ogogo nomkhulu bathatha umthwalo wokukhulisa izingane.
Mhlawumbe kungenxa yokuthi ingane yabo ayizinzile, imilutha yezidakamizwa, ibhekene nokudangala noma ukugula kwengqondo noma ukusiza ngoba umzali kufanele asebenze noma asebenze kude.
Lokhu kungenye imbangela evame ukunganakwa yokuba ngumzali ongayedwa okwenziwa ngamaqhawe amaningi angaziwa empilweni.
3. Abazali abangabodwa abangabazali
Abanye abantu abangashadile bakhetha ukwenza umehluko emhlabeni ngokukhulisa - kungumsebenzi onomvuzo nokukhetha indlela yokuphila kulabo abathanda izingane futhi abafuna ukusiza labo abangenazo izibonelo ezinhle ukuba babe nozinzo oluthile.
Abazali abakhulisa izingane okungezona ezabo bangasebenza ngokukhethekile ekubhekaneni nezindlela zokuziphatha eziyinselele ezalethwa ngumzali ompofu esikhathini esedlule ukuze bakwazi ukulungiselela ingane ukuthola ikhaya elihlala njalo, elizinzile ngokuzayo.
4. Ukulutha
Uma omunye umzali ebhekene nezinkinga zokulutha njengokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa noma utshwala ungaqiniseka ukuthi omunye umzali ukhulisa izingane yedwa.
Omunye umlingani ubuye abhekane nezinkinga abhekene nazo abalingani babo noma abalingani babo futhi abazilethayo ekhaya. Lesi yisikhathi esinenkinga nesikhohlisayo somzali ongayedwa futhi kungenye yezimbangela zokukhulisa izingane okukodwa okuvame ukunganakwa ngumphakathi.
5. Izinkinga zempilo yengqondo
Ngandlela thile, izinselelo umzali ongayedwa abhekana nokulutha abhekene nazo ziyefana nalabo ababhekene nomlingani noma umlingani onezinkinga zempilo yengqondo - ikakhulukazi uma zibucayi.
Izinkinga zempilo yengqondo zingadala ukuthi umzali oyedwa kufanele abe kude nekhaya lomndeni ukuze elapheke.
Kepha futhi kusho ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuthi bakwazi ukwenza izinqumo ezifanele noma baqondise izingane zabo ngenkathi bengazinzile ngokomqondo. Lezi zinkinga zingaba ezesikhashana noma zihlala impilo yonke, zishiye umlingani ozinzile enokuningi okufanele abhekane nakho yedwa.
6. Izinkinga zezempilo
Uma omunye umzali egula isikhathi eside okuholela ekutheni ahambe isikhathi esibhedlela noma begula kakhulu ukuthi angaba namandla okusiza nezingane.
Kuzoba ngomunye umzali ukondla ikhaya, ukukhulisa izingane, ukuphatha izimali nokunakekela oshade naye ogulayo.
Lesi ngesinye isizathu esaziwa kancane sokuba ngumzali ongayedwa esingaholela ekutheni umzali ongayedwa adinge usizo nokusekelwa kulabo ababazungezile.
7. Ijele
Uma umzali ethunyelwe ejele, bashiya imindeni yabo ngemuva. Manje kungaba nzima ukuba nozwelo emndenini onomzali oyedwa ejele, kepha izingane nomunye owakwakhe abenzanga lelo cala ngakho-ke akufanele nabo bajeziswe.
Zonke izinqumo zokunakekelwa nokunikezwa kwezingane manje seziwela kumzali oyedwa okuthi, ngokuya ngobude besikhathi umlingani wakhe okudingeka asebenze ngaso kwezinye izikhathi, kuholele emkhayeni womzali ongayedwa wesikhathi eside.
8. Ukuxoshwa
Lokhu kuyazichaza kahle uma kukhona umndeni lapho umzali oyedwa axoshwe khona ezweni umzali osele esala ukunakekela izingane. Futhi ezimweni eziningi lokho kuzoba yedwa ngokuphelele.