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- 1. Ukungenelela komuntu wesithathu
- 2. Zijwayeze izithelo zomoya
- 3. Cabanga ngefa lakho
- Ngezinye izikhathi ukwehlukana kuyinkambo efanele
Phakathi nezikhathi zokuqala zokweluleka ngomshado, umbuzo engiwubuzwa kaningi uthi "ucabanga ukuthi kufanele sehlukane"? Imvamisa kubuzwa imibhangqwana eseyikhathele yilokho okubonakala kungangqubuzani okungapheli. Banesifiso sekhefu futhi bayazibuza ukuthi ngabe ukwehlukana kungasiza yini ukwehlisa umoya.
Ukunquma ukuthi izithandani kufanele zehlukane akusoze kwaba yisinqumo esilula. Kunezinhlangothi ezimbili kuhlamvu lwemali uma kukhulunywa ngokuhlala ngokwehlukana ngemuva kokuphila ngezimo zokulwa. Okokuqala ukuthi ukwahlukana kunganikeza umuntu ngamunye isikhathi sokunciphisa izinga labo lokukhathazeka futhi basuke ekucabangeni okukhokhelwe ngokomzwelo benze izinqumo ezinengqondo. Isikhathi sisodwa singasiza ukusiza umlingani ngamunye ukuthi acabange ngamaphutha abo ebudlelwaneni nokuthi yini abangayenza ukuthuthukisa umshado.
Ngasohlangothini lwe-flip lwemali, ukwahlukana kungasebenzela ukudala ibanga elingaphezulu phakathi kombhangqwana njengomunye noma bobabili bezwa ukukhululeka okubaholela ekukholweni ukuthi isehlukaniso yiso kuphela isisombululo esikhona sokusiza ukumisa ubuhlanya. Kulokhu, ukwahlukana kungasebenza njengendlela elula yokuphuma ebudlelwaneni futhi kungavimbela imibhangqwana ekwenzeni umsebenzi onzima odingekayo ukuze kulungiswe ukungezwani kwabo.
Isu Lokulwa Nokwahlukana
Esikhundleni sokukhetha ukwehlukana, nazi izinyathelo ezintathu okufanele zithathelwe umbhangqwana obhekene nezinga eliphakeme lokukhungatheka nezingxabano emshadweni wawo.
1. Ukungenelela komuntu wesithathu
Isinyathelo sakho sokuqala ukuthola owelapha onolwazi oqeqeshiwe osebenzisana nemibhangqwana enenkinga. Ngomeluleki ofanele uzokwazi ukufunda ukuthi: uxazulula kanjani izindaba ezisemqoka; cubungula ubuhlungu obungokomzwelo; bese uqala uhambo lokuxhuma kabusha. Lapho siseziseleni futhi slugging it out kwenza kube nzima kakhulu ukuthola izixazululo ezindabeni zethu zobudlelwano. Yilapho umeluleki onenhloso, angahluleli angakusiza ukuthi uhlele udoti bese uqala ukudala indawo ephephile.
2. Zijwayeze izithelo zomoya
Lapho abashadikazi bezimisela bazosebenzela ebudlelwaneni babo ngihlala ngigcizelela kubo isidingo sokuthi "sibe mnene komunye nomunye", ikakhulukazi ezigabeni zokuqala lapho ubudlelwane bungazinzile. Ukukhombisa umusa nokubekezela ngesikhathi sokululama komshado kubaluleke kakhulu ukusiza ukusiza indawo evumela ukufutheka kuphele futhi kuthande ukuvela kabusha. Sithola isibonelo esiphelele sokuziphatha okufanele imibhangqwana ikhuthazelane komunye nomunye kwabaseGalathiya 5: 22-23.
“Kepha uMoya oNgcwele ukhiqiza izithelo ezinjengalezi ezimpilweni zethu: uthando, nokujabula, nokuthula, nokubekezela, nobubele, nobuvi, nokukholeka, nobumnene, nokuzithiba. Awukho umthetho omelene nalezi zinto. ”
Ukushintsha inkambo yomshado omubi kudinga ushintsho esimweni sengqondo. Kusho ukubheka ngale kokubi obekuyisikhathi eside kakhulu kuyitshe legumbi lomshado futhi kunalokho funa ukuthola nokubona izibusiso eziningi ezikhona ebudlelwaneni nasezimpilweni zakho.
3. Cabanga ngefa lakho
Lapho ushada cishe awuzange ucabange ngesehlukaniso njengohlelo lokuhlangabezana nezimo. Cha, kungenzeka ukuthi usithathe ngokungathi sína isifungo esithi “manje naphakade” futhi wacabanga ukuthi uqale uhambo oluzohlala impilo yakho yonke. Kepha umshado awuhlangabezani nalokho okulindele ngakho mhlawumbe sekuyisikhathi sokuphuma esigabeni esisele.
Kodwa ingabe lokho kungukungcola ofuna ukukugqoka ngempela? Ukuthi wehlulekile ebudlelwaneni bakho? Kuthiwani uma unezingane? Ngabe ufuna bakholelwe ukuthi umshado awusona isibopho sempilo yonke kepha kunalokho ungamane uhambe ushiye usuku onquma ngalo ukuthi awuseneme?
Noma mhlawumbe ungancamela ukushona phansi uzama ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukusindisa umshado wakho ukuze ngolunye usuku lapho ingane yakho esekhulile ifika ithi umshado wabo unenkinga ungaba yisibonelo salokho ukusebenza kanzima nokubekezela okungasho ukugcina umshado uyaphila.
Ngezinye izikhathi ukwehlukana kuyinkambo efanele
Futhi kufanele kuvezwe ukuthi kunesimo esisodwa lapho ukwehlukana kufanele kukhuthazwe khona futhi kulapho lapho umlingani oyedwa ehlushwa ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo, ngokomzimba noma ngokocansi. Akekho umuntu okufanele aphile kulezo zimo futhi ukwehlukana kufanelekile njengoba umlingani owonile ethola usizo aludingayo ukuze ayeke imikhuba yakhe yokuhlukumeza.