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- Ngabe ubeka ubudlelwane bezocansi nomlingani wakho
- Izikhiye zokwakha ubudlelwano obuqondayo nobenhloso
- Nquma namuhla ukwehluka futhi uthuthukise impilo yakho yezocansi
Umbhangqwana usanda kuthi, "Ubani onesikhathi socansi, unokuningi okuqhubekayo nezinto eziningi okufanele uzenze futhi ukhathele nje, ngakho-ke awukwenzi kaningi (noma awukwenzi nakancane)."
Kuningi ongakwenza, umatasa kakhulu ukuya ocansini, ukhathele kakhulu ukuxhumana, nokusondelana futhi uyazibuza ukuthi yini eyenza ubudlelwano obuningi bube nzima?
Ngabe ubeka ubudlelwane bezocansi nomlingani wakho
Mhlawumbe ubeka ubudlelwano bezocansi nomlingani wakho ezansi kohlu. Ulinda kuze kwenzeke konke okungenzeka kwenziwe emsebenzini, ekhaya, nezingane zakho, nomphakathi, isonto, umndeni owandisiwe nezinye izinto ozihlelayo kwenziwe konke bese uthi awusenalutho.
Lapho ubudlelwano bezocansi nomlingani wakho bushiyelwa endaweni yokugcina bese kuthiwani okusalayo ukwenza ukuxhumana kwenzeke?
Omunye kufanele athathe isinyathelo, abe nesidingo, acele ukuba khona komunye futhi acele ucansi nokuyinto abaningi abangathandi ukukhuluma ngayo nhlobo.
Abaningi baye bathi: “Ngicabanga ukuthi‘ kufanele kube ’yinto engokwemvelo eyenzeka nje. Okuthile okwenzeka ngaphandle kwamandla, ukunakwa noma ukuhlela okwamanje iziqhumane kufanele kuvuthe, futhi kufanele kube nokuthanda nothando njengakumabhayisikobho.
Nayi iqiniso. Ngaphandle kokuthi unenhloso, uyacabanga futhi wenza ngamabomu ngobudlelwano bakho bezocansi nomlingani wakho, ngeke kwenzeke.
Izikhiye zokwakha ubudlelwano obuqondayo nobenhloso
Kufanele usebenze ekwakheni ubudlelwano bezocansi obunenjongo nomlingani wakho, nenze isikhathi ngabo futhi nibubeke phambili, hhayi ukuphela kosuku noma into yokumaka uhlu 'lokwenza' ngezikhathi ezikhethekile.
Ubudlelwano bezocansi nomlingani wakho nokuxhuma akuyona imilingo futhi akwenzeki ngaphandle kokukhuliswa. Abanye bathi: “Angicabangi ngocansi.” Kungenzeka kube yisikhathi sokuqala ukucabanga ngakho, ngakho-ke ungakwenza kwenzeke! awukwazi ukuphumelela emsebenzini ngaphandle kokucabanga ngakho, akunjalo?
Elulekweni lwezithandani, ngizwa abaningi abanempilo yocansi engekho bekhononda "ngerabha yangemuva" ayifunayo njalo. Bamba izinyawo zabo benqabe ukuthi "bakwenze" bese benqaba ithuba lokusondelana nokwakha isibopho sokubeka omunye umuntu kuqala.
Imibhangqwana ithi: "Yebo, ungitshele ukuthi akakuthandi lokhu noma lokhu noma ubematasa kakhulu bese wena awuphindi." Kungani ukwenza lokho? nonke ningabantu abanobugovu abafuna kodwa benqikaze ukunikela. wesaba ukwaliwa kepha ufuna ukwamukelwa nothando olungenamibandela.
Nquma namuhla ukwehluka futhi uthuthukise impilo yakho yezocansi
Uzofuna ukukhetha ukuphuma emkhakheni wakho bese uzama izinto ezintsha nokuziphatha okusha ukuze wenze ushintsho futhi uvuselele ubudlelwano obunempilo kwezocansi nomlingani wakho.
Nazi izindlela zokucabangisisa ezenza ubudlelwano bakho bujabule futhi kuthuthukise ubudlelwane bezocansi nomlingani wakho.
- Khumbula ukuthi konke akuphathelene nawe nokuthi ufunani, uzizwe kanjani, noma udinga ini noma umlingani wakho. Ubudlelwano, ikakhulukazi ubuhlobo bakho bezocansi budinga uphethiloli ukuze bushe.
- Yiba ushintsho ofuna ukulubona ebudlelwaneni bakho bezocansi. Ukulinda umlingani wakho ukuthi ahambe, akwenzele, noma akhombise ukuthi bayakufuna kuyindlela yokwenziwa kokuthola okufunayo. Uma ufuna ubuhlobo obuseduze, obunothando, obunothando nezinhlansi - kwenze kwenzeke! Ukuqabula okuzokwanga, ukuthinta ukuthintwa.
- Qaphela umlingani wakho, izidingo zabo, ulimi lwabo lothando, nokuthi bathanda ini (ukubambana ngezandla, ukuthinta, isikhathi sekhwalithi, ukugoqana, ukubhoboza emuva). Lokhu kukunikeza umkhondo wokuthi ungaxhuma kanjani.
- Uma ufuna ukuthintwa emuva noma ukuthinta okungaphezulu, ukubambana ngezandla, ukugoqana, khona-ke qala lokho nomlingani wakho nishintshane. Le yindawo eyodwa lapho kungakhulunywa kangako, futhi ukwenza okuningi kungakusiza nobabili.
- Bheka "izimbangela" ezakha indawo yezocansi nesimo sengqondo. Ukungenisa izingane zakho ekamelweni lakho noma embhedeni nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ngeke kudale indawo yezocansi. Yini ebeka wena nophathina wakho esimeni somoya? Cabanga emuva.
Ngabe lowo mculo, umdanso, ukuthinta, ingilazi yewayini, ukugeza ndawonye, ukulala ngaphandle kwezingubo zokulala, ukuba sehhotela, ukuvakasha, ugqoke izingubo zangaphansi noma okunye? Dala indawo ezokwenza imizwa nobudlelwano bezocansi nomlingani wakho kubile.
- Ungazama amasu wokuzindla ngemibhangqwana yokusondelana ngokocansi nothando. Ziyindlela enhle yokubuyisa uthando nokuvuselela uthando ebudlelwaneni bakho. Kunezindlela ezimbalwa ezilula ukulandela, amasu wokuzindla ngezithandani eziqondisiwe online ukuqala futhi kancane kancane uthuthukise ikhwalithi yobudlelwano bezocansi nomlingani wakho.
Ubudlelwano bakho bezocansi nokusondelana kusezandleni zakho. Uma ufuna ukusondelana okwengeziwe, qala ngokuzishintsha futhi ukwenze kwenzeke. Uma 'uthandana nomuntu ngokokuqala ngqá unethemba lokudala lolo thando, inkanuko yobudlelwano bobulili ungenzani?
Impela ngeke kwenzeke ngokungakunaki noma uthi ukhathele kakhulu noma ungacabangi ngakho; lokho kungayenza iphele. Yiziphi izinto ezintathu ongazenza ukudala inhlansi kuwe futhi ube yinguquko ofuna ukuyibona ebudlelwaneni bakho bezocansi?
Kuyisipho ozipha sona kanye nenhloko yabo bonke ubudlelwano obunempilo bezocansi. Yenza kwenzeke namuhla!