-Delile
- ISEXWAYISO
- 1. Qala Uhambo Lokuphilisa Ngokomzwelo
- Ijenali
- 2. Ukuzindla neYoga
- 3. Yiba Isixaka Esihlanzekile
- 4. Zijabulise futhi Jabulela Ukuphila
- 5. Thanda Wena
- 6. Zibhalele Incwadi Yothando
- 7. Nqoba Ukwesaba Kwakho
- 8. Thola Uhlelo Lokusekela
Enye yezinto ezimbi kakhulu ongazithola empilweni ukwakha ukuzethemba nokuzilungisa ngemuva kokwehlukana okubi. Uma nisothandweni yonke into ibukeka iphelele kodwa uma isiphela umhlaba ubukeka ubanda.
Kunzima, akunjalo?
Ukuqhubekela phambili kusuka ekuhlukaneni okubi.
Benithandana ngokuphelele futhi nicabanga ukuthi nizoba ndawonye impilo yenu yonke. Konke kwakuphelele kwase kusuka ngaphandle, ubudlelwano baphendukela eningizimu. Umlingani wakho uyakuqeda futhi usathandana ungakulungele ukudedela.
Ukuthandana nothile kungayilimaza impilo yakho yengqondo bese kancane kancane ube umlutha. Okungakudicilela phansi ube ngowesifazane awusekho.
Ngaphambi kokuxoxa ngokuthi ungalapha kanjani. Ake sixoxe ngokuthi yini okungafanele uyenze ngemuva kokuhlukana kabi.
- Ukuzivimba osizini:
Yebo, kulungile impela ukuthi uphuthelwe ubudlelwano nokuthi buyini. Thatha isikhathi osidingayo ukukhala konke.
- Ukuhlala enkambisweni yosizi isikhathi eside:
Abantu abaningi benza iphutha lokuhlala esigabeni sokulila isikhathi eside kakhulu. Kuze kube seqophelweni libagcina bephila impilo futhi bayijabulele. Yebo uyawudinga lo mzuzu ukuze uzwe inhliziyo ephukile kodwa ungakuvumeli ukukubhubhise njengomuntu.
ISEXWAYISO
Akunandaba ukuthi umuntu wangaphakathi ukutshela ini. UNGENZI yehla kakhulu ekwenzeni lokhu IZINTO EZINTATHU!
1. Ukulandela Izinkundla Zokuxhumana: Lokhu yi HHAYI BIG. Uma kufanele uyofuna ukubona ukuthi owakwakho wenzani, bese wenza kungasebenzi ama-akhawunti wakho wezokuxhumana. Kukulethela ubuhlungu obengeziwe.
2.Mncenge ukuthi abuye: Cha. Lokhu kuzokwenza ubonakale uphelelwe yithemba. Uma engafuni ukuba nawe dlulela phambili.
3.Ukungena kobunye ubuhlobo ngokushesha okukhulu. Ukuthuthela kobunye ubuhlobo ngokushesha nje lapho uqeda obunye ngeke neze kuzakhele ukuzethemba kwakho. Kungcono uthathe isikhathi sakho kukho konke unikeze inhliziyo yakho ithuba lokululama.
Manje njengoba sikukhiphe lokho ngendlela. Masibuyele ekwelapheni inhliziyo yakho. Abesifazane abaningi babhekana nokulahlekelwa ukuzethemba ngemuva kokwehlukana. Kepha kungani sizilahlekela sisathandana?
- Ukwenqatshwa kuvame ukukwenza uzibuze, “Yini engase ibe nenkinga ngawe?” Ungazizwa ukuthi ukushiye ngoba awwenele futhi ufanelwe okungcono.
- Ingxenye ye- uhlelo lokuxhaswa ngokomzwelo wahamba. Uxhumene naye ngokomzwelo futhi ukulahlekelwa lokhu kuxhumana kungazizwa njengokuphela komhlaba.
- Ukulahleka kobunikazi: Ngendlela exakile ngenkathi usebudlelwaneni umlingani wakho eba nguwe njengomuntu. Iningi lokuzilibazisa nezintshisekelo zakho ziboshelwe kuye unganakile kuze kube yilapho ubuhlobo sebuphelile.
Ungaphulukisa Kanjani Ngemuva Kokwehlukana Okubi: Izindlela Ezi-8 Zokubuyisa Ukuzethemba Kwakho
1. Qala Uhambo Lokuphilisa Ngokomzwelo
Ukuqala uhambo lokuphulukiswa ngokomzwelo lokululama ekuhlukaneni kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokukusiza ukuthi ukhule njengomuntu nanjengowesifazane. Manje usuyazi ukuthi ufunani futhi awufuni ebudlelwaneni. Kuyakusiza nokuthi wakhe ukuzethemba futhi kukunikeze nethuba lokugxila kuwo wonke amandla akho Nina.
Ijenali
Ukubhala kuyindlela enhle yokwakha ukuzethemba kwakho futhi ususe yonke into esifubeni sakho ngaphandle kwemicabango emibi nemizwa onayo ebudlelwaneni. Ngokusobala, ukuyigcina kuthinta impilo yakho yengqondo futhi kwehlisa ukuzethemba kwakho.
Thatha imizuzu engu-15 osukwini lwakho ukuxhuma kumanani akho, uthuthukise ukuziqonda kwakho, bese uqala ukukhula komuntu ukuze uthole ukuzethemba kwakho uphinde uthole ukuzethemba.
Bhala okuhle, okubi, nokubi kobudlelwano. Qala kusukela ekuqaleni kuze kube sekugcineni.
Zibuze ukuthi uzithanda kanjani futhi uzethembe. Xoxani lapho nicabanga ukuthi ubudlelwano kungenzeka bungahambanga kahle khona. Futhi, xoxani ngokuthi yini eningayenza ngokuhlukile. Lesi kuzoba yisikhathi esihle sokuthi wakhe ukuzethemba futhi ucabange lapho wenze iphutha khona.
- Ukuphi unamathele kakhulu?
- Ingabe uphathe izingxoxo ezivuthayo ngokungalungile?
- Ingabe unezinkinga zokuthembana?
- Ingabe ubuphoqelele izinkolelo zakho kuye?
Ukucabanga ngezihloko ezinjengokuthi ungazithanda kanjani emva kokwehlukana kungakusiza ukuthi ubone ukuthi izingqinamba zakho zingakuphi. Ngemuva kwalokho ungahle ulungise amaphutha akho bese uthola umdlandla ngemuva kokuhlukana ngaphambi kokuya kobunye ubuhlobo.
2. Ukuzindla neYoga
Yisho lokhu nami- Ukuzindla yikhambi lokulwa nengcindezi, ukudangala, ubuhlungu, nokuzethemba okuphansi ngemuva kokuhlukana. Ukuzindla kusiza ukukhulula isimo sakho sengqondo futhi kunikeze ukuzola enhliziyweni yakho. Zama ukwenza lokhu nsuku zonke imizuzu engu-5 ukwakha ukuzethemba futhi ungeze uma usungazijwayeza isikhathi eside.
Umhlahlandlela omfushane wokuzindla
- Qaphela: Awudingi ukuhlala ngama-appleauce we-criss-cross uvaliwe ukuze uzindle.
- Qala endaweni ethule. Lapho uzoba nesikhathi sodwa okungenani imizuzu emihlanu.
- Qala ngokuphefumulela ngaphakathi bese uyiphephetha ngamandla ngangokunokwenzeka
- Qhubeka wenze lokhu ukuphefumula okuyisihlanu
- Yazisa imicabango yakho bese uyicindezela ngobumnene ukuze ugxile ekuphefumuleni kwakho futhi.
- Phinda
I-Yoga
I-Yoga kungenye indlela yokuzindla. Ezweni lasentshonalanga, siyakukhohlwa lokhu.
Izindlela zokuphefumula ezijulile zizokusiza uphumule umzimba wakho. Ukudedela ingcindezi, ukungezwani, nokudabuka okungenzeka usenakho kusukela ekwahlukaneni.
Inzuzo enkulu: Ukuzivocavoca !!
3. Yiba Isixaka Esihlanzekile
Vula umculo phezulu ngangokunokwenzeka! Manje, zijwayeze ukuchitha ikhaya lakho futhi ulenze lingenabala. Imvamisa imibhangqwana, ikakhulukazi abesifazane, bathanda ukugcina izinto ukubakhumbuza izinkumbulo ezithile. Manje, ukugcina noma yini kusuka kowangaphambili kungumbono omubi futhi kungehlisa ukuzethemba kwakho ngemuva kokuhlukana. Ikakhulukazi uma lokho kwehlukana kwakungokuhlangenwe nakho okubi.
Kungaba futhi umqondo omuhle ukufaka zonke izinto zakho zangaphambili ebhokisini, ukuze eze ukuzokuthola. Noma ungayishisa yonke. (Cha, ngicela ungenzi. Ngiyadlala)
Uma usuqedile ukuhlanza kwakho okujulile, ungakhululeka futhi uphuze ingilazi yewayini. Umzuzu owehlayo uzowufanele futhi usize ukwakha kabusha ukuzethemba ngemuva kokuhlanzwa okukhulu kowakwedlule.
4. Zijabulise futhi Jabulela Ukuphila
Uyacelwa ukuthi ungamoshi impilo yakho enhle ukhalela umfana ongakuqondi ukubaluleka kwakho. Yebo, kulungile ukudabukisa ubuhlobo. Ungakuvumeli ukuthi kuthathe impilo yakho.
Enye yezindlela zokwakha ukuzethemba ukuchitha isikhathi nalabo ababaluleke ngempela futhi bakulungele. Bavumele bangene kwinqubo yakho yokuphulukisa kusuka enhliziyweni yakho ephukile. Balapha ukuzokulalela nokusiza wena.
Impilo imayelana nokuphila nokuyijabulela. Khumbula ukuthi unempilo eyodwa kuphela ongayiphila, ngakho-ke yiphile ngokugcwele.
- Yiba nomqondo ovulekile ekuzijabuliseni nasekuzameni izinto zokuzilibazisa ezahlukahlukene.
- Akudingeki usebenzise imali ukuzijabulisa. Yenza ubuciko futhi ujabule ekhaya. Dlala imidlalo yamakhadi, imidlalo yebhodi, umdanso, noma ukuzivocavoca umzimba.
- Lalela umculo okwenza uzizwe kamnandi.
- Bheka izindlela zokuthola ukuzethemba ngezincwadi zokuzisiza
- Yeka ukuba yimfanzi, phuma nabangani bakho uzijabulise.
Yenza lokho ofuna ukukwenza nanoma yini ekwenza umomotheke.
Zibuze, "Yini empilweni ekujabulisa futhi ezokususa masishane?"
5. Thanda Wena
Zijwayeze ukuzinakekela futhi ukhule uzithande. Ngaphambi kokuzama ukufaka ubudlelwano obusha, zinike isikhathi sokufunda okuthandayo ngawe.
- Yini imithombo yesisusa ngemuva kokuhlukana?
- Yini ekwenza wehluke kwabanye?
- Kuthiwani ngokubukeka kwakho okuthanda kakhulu?
- Yini oyifezile empilweni?
- Uma ungashintsha into eyodwa ngawe, kungaba yini?
Ungakwakha kanjani ukuzethemba?
Yebo, phendula ngobuqotho le mibuzo futhi ungabi namahloni ngalokhu okufakayo. Ukwazi le mibuzo elula ngawe kuzokusiza ukuthi ukhule ube umuntu ohlukile kulowo owawukulohlobo.
6. Zibhalele Incwadi Yothando
Uchithe izinyanga eziyi-8 noma iminyaka eyi-10 uthanda omunye umuntu. Uyeke nini ukuzinika isikhathi sokuthi kukukhumbuza ukukuthanda? Ngilinde impendulo yakho.
Awazi. Well, khipha ipeni nephepha onomsebenzi okumele ukwenze manje, sithandwa.
Thatha imizuzu engu-15 ngosuku lwakho. Qala ngo-Dear (NAME),
Zinike izinto ezi-5 ozithandayo ngokubukeka kwakho, ubuntu bakho, nenhliziyo yakho.
Bese uqala nganoma yisiphi iseluleko ongathanda ukuzinika sona.
- Yini engingayitshela umuntu wami omncane?
- Yini engithanda ukuyenza engiyeke ukuyenzela omunye umuntu?
- Ngingazixolela kanjani ngokuba nokhahlo kimi?
- Ungaba kanjani namandla ngemuva kokuhlukana?
Ngemuva kwalokho hamba ekufinyeleleni kwakho. Yini oyifezile kulo nyaka odlule? Akuzange kufeze lutho bese ukungeza kuhlu lwakho. Bhala noma yimiphi imigomo ofuna ukuyifeza onyakeni olandelayo.
Ukubhala incwadi yothando kungakusiza ukuthi ukhumbule ukuthi kungani ubalulekile kulo mhlaba nokuthi ungazakha kanjani kabusha ukuze ukhule.
7. Nqoba Ukwesaba Kwakho
Noma ngabe ukwesaba okungasile onakho, zama ukubona ukuthi ungakunqoba yini. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi unqobe ukuhlukana, wakhe ukuzethemba futhi ubonise ukuthi uqine kangakanani njengowesifazane futhi ukhule uzithande lokho oyikho.
Ukunqoba ukwesaba kwakho kulula ukukusho kunokukwenza. Ukuthatha lezi zinyathelo ezilula kuzokusiza ukunqoba ukwesaba kwakho futhi uqhubeke nokukhombisa ukuthi unamandla kunalokho okucabangayo.
8. Thola Uhlelo Lokusekela
Uhlelo lokusekelwa “lokwehlukana” lungakusiza ukuthi ukhohlwe ubuhlungu obuzwayo futhi ukhumbule ukuthi kuningi empilweni kunokuthandana.
- Abangane: Ukuba nesikhathi sentombazane neqembu labangane bakho kuyelapha futhi kubalulekile ngalesi sikhathi.
- Umndeni: Umama nogogo wakho babhekane nezinhlungu zokuqala zenhliziyo. Yizindlovukazi zokuzidonsela ndawonye futhi zigcine zicindezela. Bazokunikeza iseluleko esihle kakhulu sokwakha ukuzethemba lapho usebenza nenhliziyo ephukile.
- Ukusekelwa okuku-inthanethi: Namuhla umhlaba uxhumeke kanjani kwi-inthanethi. Kunokusekelwa okuningi okuku-inthanethi ukukusiza.
Iphuzu
UNGAMOSHI IMPILO. Kuyisibusiso ukuba lapha, futhi imvamisa abantu bakuthatha kalula. Yebo, impilo izoba nzima futhi kuzoba nzima ukunqoba ukuhlukana okubi. Yazi uma sekuyisikhathi sokuqhubeka.
UJen Oliver uqokomisa kahle ukuthi ungawulandelela kanjani umgwaqo wothando lwakho uma sinqamula emhlabeni bese singena ezinhliziyweni zethu nasemgogodleni wokuvula ukuxhumana okujulile kuye. Kuhlole:
Ukuzithanda ngokwakho kuyindlela enhle yokwakha ukuzethemba nokuphulukisa.